Dealing with exhaustion from interacting with my friend.

[RaveCrazedDave]

Hello.

 

I've recently found/created/whatever a friend in my head, and her name is Luna; I'm still not quite sure if Luna is a tulpa or not, but she says she doesn't care, and honestly, I'm starting to care less and less as well, and I don't think it's at all important for what I want to ask.

 

Luna is young, and she has been with me for only a month and a half, which not only means that I'm very new to dealing with Luna, but also that I see her as being in a very early and development centric stage, but despite this, she has been growing a lot, and I've been "feeling" her much better; she thinks I'm silly when I talk about this, but it really felt weird and amazing when a week or so ago, I began feeling as if I had someone always next to me (as she says, I do, but still); I guess it's a bit hard to explain, but I'm sure many people here felt that way as well. Over this month and a half, I've become much better at organizing my thoughts and talking to Luna through them, as well as listening for what she wants to say; I'm not yet great at it, and I still have to focus very hard on her to actually hear her (as an example, as I'm writing this, she is practically blocked), anyway, I'm not worried about that, as I know that practice will let us overcome this, but even with this little stone in our way, we talk to each other a lot. She likes to talk to me, and I like to talk with her, and furthermore, she doesn't really like to be left alone, and I really don't want to leave her alone either (of course, sometimes we don't have a choice, but she understands that, it's not like she wont shut up 24/7, of course).

 

As of late, she has been really active, to the point where I begin feeling mentally exhausted and even hungry from talking to her so much; I guess it makes kind of sense, since I'm basically sparing energies for two people, but I would like to hear some advice on combating this. I've heard about people feeling like this before, and I wanted to know a few things:

 

Does this exhaustion seem to be common?

I assume this is something we will train over time together, and that in a year or so from now, it'll be much easier to handle her and myself, but how long does it seem to take to reach that point?

Any sort of exercises or practices we could employ to mitigate this, or is it just a matter of asking her to rest for a while?

 

I hope this was minimally coherent. Maybe I turned this into a bit of a progress report, but I guess I wanted to talk about my Luna! She's happy, she's smart, and she's a bit grumpy sometimes; she's amazing and I like her very much, and I think she likes me as well.

 

We both thank you for any help or advice you can provide.

[Guest Anonymous]

The closest my host and I can come to identifying with this is having some eye strain, tension headaches and stiffness from sitting and day dreaming too long and also sleep deprivation from day dreaming instead of sleeping. What helped us was simply finding other things to do than talk to each other and have adventures in the day dreams. My host broke it up and went and did physical activities.

 

We still do this if it seems we are getting too absorbed and turning inward for too long. He will get up and go mow the yard or something physical like that or go shopping or something. It's lack of physical activity with us and too much mental introversion and lack of sleep.

[KarlYoshimura]

Myself and another host we know have undergone similar fatigue when we had begun our endeavours.

 

As the other host had described it, creating and initially socialising with one's tulpa is resource-intensive. The effect will diminish with little time, so I wouldn't lose rest over it.

 

Head-aches are a typical side-effect for some beginners, to which I've heard orange juice may help provide relief. Much like anything or anyone else deserving our time and attention, heed your body's requirements. One mnemonic device I was taught is called HALT: if you are Hungry, Angry, Lonely or Tired, your ability to function decreases noticeably.

 

Best wishes to you and Luna.

[Temar]

As KarlYoshimura does get a lot easier with time and practice, as you have to devote less and less concentration to your companion(s) to keep them sustained. I can't give you a time span, because I'm pretty sure it varies.

 

It's also okay to take breaks every once in a while, if you're feeling tired. Let them be in the Wonderland for a while and take an afternoon for alone time for yourself. Your health matters for both your sakes, so make sure to take care of yourself. I'm sure she understands that. :)

[TheGreenQueen]

Some energy cultivation techniques like qi gong should help. You'll have more energy to spare. Just starting with ten minutes a day will make a difference.

 

That is, if you believe in that sort of thing.