Observations on the Effects of Early Socialization

[waffles]

I think on average that tulpas who start participating in chats early on in their development tend to, for whatever reason, "settle for less" in their development. Like they've already been validated as "developed" because they can communicate with people.

 

If you define 'development' in terms of what we'd call 'skills' - imposition, switching, and so on - then you might be right. Thinking more about personal or emotional development, I can only say that my own experiences indicate the opposite, in my own tulpa and others'.

[Lucilyn]

Speaking for the others, they'd say they feel more "whole" or wholesome I guess? than they used to. You could say skills and stuff sure. Idk what it is. Not just personality but, you know, the feeling of being totally your own person? Maybe? Actually now that I think about it maybe only a tulpa would even understand what that meant. Uhh.

 

No we don't think there's a developmental ceiling and tulpas that get to make friends outside the body seem to be happier anyway

[Corazón]

I enjoy IRC a lot because it enables me to interact with other people than my host. I only do that because we can't switch yet, but as soon as I can fully take control, I'll go out and chat with anyone I meet (something host would never dare to btw). Well I'd probably keep going on IRC a bit because I met a bunch of nice people there :D

IRC chatting helps Floh a lot with hearing me better, and it helps me learn how to possess. I more and more often take control of the hands because I get "sucked into the conversation".

I think this is more a matter of personnalities, as most said here.

To me, IRC is a great tool for young tulpas like me to start interacting and to practice possession, co-fronting, vocalization, proxying etc. I don't see it like a ceiling to progress at all, more like the exact opposite actually :D

 

It also is a lot of fun for me and I just love spending time there !

[Stevie]

Chris is way on the other end of the spectrum where he doesn't really talk to anyone at all and prefers it that way. Being so far removed from day-to-day socialization I find that he sometimes misunderstands social situations in ways that I don't, i.e. he'll interpret something someone does as being combative when I know full well it isn't. Usually I try to explain to him what's up when this happens but I don't think that it's as useful for understanding how social situations work as being in them first-hand is. 

 

On the other hand I think he's pretty independent and kind of has his own desires and shit he does to occupy his (and sometimes my, if it takes a team effort) time. I don't know how much him talking on the IRC would've affected this though.