Angry and Distant Tulpa

[Rinnigan]

Hi, guys! I realized that I haven't introduced myself yet so hello all!

 

So on to my question. My wonderland is a very large and detailed world with other characters and locations. I have escaped to this world for as long as I can remember. My tulpa and I reside in this world but my tulpa has never been away from our "house" in our wonderland. Both of us wanted to take a little while to go and explore our world and basically do a world tour. At first I thought it was a great idea. We would get to spend time together and my tulpa seemed to be really excited about it.

 

Once we had begun our "journey", I began to second guess myself. My tulpa is sentient and talks a little but not very much. Our wonderland is a dangerous place as well. I told him about my doubts and suggested turning back and waiting a little while until his was fully vocal and not as shy. As I was telling him my thoughts, he turned away from me, stood, and began pacing with an annoyed look on his face. I went up to him and tried to talk to him but he didn't want to listen or talk.

 

This was yesterday and he still is distant and angry with me. I know you shouldn't doubt you tulpa but I was just looking out for him. I can also feel his anger in small waves when I try to talk to him.

 

I know this question is more about relationships, but I am wondering if I should let him cool off or something else? I'm overall very confused and worried about him being mad at me. Also, what's your opinion on the matter? Should we head back home or continue? Any kind of help would be greatly appreciated!

[Sands]

Relationship problem, not exactly anything we can help, yeah. I always suggest you try talking with the person you are having trouble with. Explain your reasons and such, both of you. Talk it out. Or well, I guess there might not be too much talking in his case, but you should be patient and see if he can tell you everything, no matter how long it takes. In cases like these, feeling the emotions helps a lot, too - a really good thing about tuppers is that you're able to just feel each other, I'd say. You'll understand each other better when you try to communicate about this and get what exactly was the problem. How about you tell him you're there for him and ready to talk when he wants to, let him come to you first. If you feel like it takes way too long, then you can go and see what's up.

[waffles]

As Sands said, this is more of a relationship problem that you should figure out between you. That said, if I'd say anything, it'd be that you shouldn't baby your tulpa too much. Rather than saying "When you're more x" or "When you're less y", let then find their own limits.

 

Also, if your wonderland is dangerous by choice then that's odd, but if it isn't than that's just kind of stupid. Not really relevant, but still.

[Plus One User]

[i'd be pretty pissed too if Plus told me we were going to do something together, and then he stopped because of doubts. I mean, Plus has occasionally broken a promise to me before, but using doubts about me to justify it would be like ten times worse! So yeah, your tulpa is pretty understandably pissed at you.]

 

If I were in your situation and did something like that with Jenny, I'd first wait for her to cool off, then try to apologize and find some way to make it up to her. And I'd make damn sure to stick to whatever compensation I agree to.

 

However, I am not you, and your tulpa is not Jenny. You know him a lot better than we do, so use your best judgement and try to avoid any more doubts in the mean time. You sound genuinely sorry, so that's definitely a good start.

[Rinnigan]

Wow, thanks so much all of you. I think I'll try to calmly try to talk with Beadle (my tulpa) about this. I certainly have a temper when things don't go my way (yeah, I'm a spoiled brat!) so Ill make sure to be calm and ready to listen when I approach him. Thank you for your advice, it means a good deal!

[GuessWho]

Maybe he's adopted your own immature attitude.

Many people say that dealing with people similar to yourself is always the hardest.