One dreadful word, procrastination...

[Deadlykid]

After countless days wondering why I couldn't get much done, I remembered, im a huge procrastinator, and im sure that some of you reading this are, or maybe once were, so for example, I say "Im going to force today, on the bus." I would say, then I get on the bus and start talking to my friend that also takes the bus, even when I sit away from him I forget, so then I wrote stuff on my arms, changed my iPod background, all the jazz, but then ill start to force but my mind will drift away and by the time iv snapped back to reality, im at school, blast! This tends to happen every time I try to focus on my tulpa, or even talk, ill do it for a minute, then my mind will drift away onto something else. I find it really annoying and think it might be a small case of ADD...

 

So im a procrastinator with ADD, great.

But im sure I cant be alone.

[Quilten]

Welcome to the human race, buddy.

[NeonKnights]

I used to suffer a great deal from mind-drift. I can't speak for you, but in my case the issue wasn't so much ADD as it was just having too many things that I was stressed and worried about, such as planning to fix something that needs repair on one of my cars. Probably has to do with a mild case of OCD, I guess.

 

Anyways, the solution that I found (rather recently, too) was to just sit down and start taking nice, deep breaths, and to focus my thoughts on my breathing alone. When it was especially hard to do so, I'd count my breaths. Basically, the idea is to utilize a really generic form of meditation. The goal is to free your mind and gently push away any intrusive and unintentional thoughts, and do this until you feel you're ready to jump in with your tulpa.

 

At first, it took me five or ten minutes to get to a sufficiently relaxed state, but lately it often takes no more than a few minutes to gather my focus when there's a frenzy of thoughts in my head. Of course, as with any meditation exercise, if you're not in a real bind for time it's probably better to do it for as long as you can manage. It might be different for other people, but I find that the more I do it, the easier it gets.

 

Hope this helps. Like I said, I was in the same boat for a while.