Would My Tulpa Get Lonely?

[Guest Zekrif]

Hello. I've known and been researching how to make a tulpa recently for close to a week now. I'm still debating whether or not i should, because ik this will change my life after all. But what I want to know is if I do, will my tulpa get lonely? I ask this because I do have a life. I have a job, some chores/duties, and some other small things but sometimes I don't have too much time for myself either. And if I made a tulpa it would make me feel horrible if I couldn't spend much time with it because of these. I know I can commit myself and open up a few hours from my day to do sessions, but all I really want to know is would a tulpa be ok if I don't always spend time with it bc of the reasons I mentioned?

 

Forgive me if there was a question like this recently, I checked the first few pages of the Q&A and didn't see anything I thought related to this. Ik there is a question like this on the FAQ but I would much prefer a more detailed response if that's possible. Thank you for your time.

[LordV]

My tulpa has never complained about the things I do with my life. More often than not, she just sort of hangs around while I do other things, and occasionally comments on what I'm doing. Or she'll hang out in my wonderland and be the lazy bum I wish I could be.

 

But overall, I think that it depends on the tulpa. Some of them need more attention than others. So just make it very clear to your tulpa early on that you do have commitments besides him/her. If s/he is reasonable then s/he will understand.

[TulpaCouple]

Your tulpa may or may not get lonely.

 

My tulpas require a lot of attention, what we did for them is this

--my fiance regularly talks with them as well. Jaden has his own chat account so he can message nate any time he wants to talk to someone other than me. Giselle might get one later

--they both have their own tumblr blogs, with which they can do whatever they want

--I make sure I include them in what I'm doing, be it asking them where they'd like to go to eat or be it showing them what I do at work

--and then we all just talk about things and make compromises. I might decide to spend time reading to them rather than watching a tv show, or let them chat with their friends on the IRC rather than hogging the computer to myself

 

We just make it work for us, and everyone's got their own things that make it work. Nate's tulpas spend enough time together and with Nate that they don't desire any real outside communication--except with me and my tulpas from time to time, and they generally are more laid back and less needy.

 

You'll figure out what works for you.

[Linkzelda]

You don't have your tulpa, your tulpa has you for life. Do whatever is necessary to take care of other things. With any implications of a sentient being, they would be more concerned that you can interact with them and still function with little to no mental ailments. Though like TulpaCouple mentioned with some of the things she does with hers, you can always adapt and find some way to get them into your quotidian lifestyle.

[MyToasterHasInternet]

Hello. I've known and been researching how to make a tulpa recently for close to a week now. I'm still debating whether or not i should, because ik this will change my life after all. But what I want to know is if I do, will my tulpa get lonely? I ask this because I do have a life. I have a job, some chores/duties, and some other small things but sometimes I don't have too much time for myself either. And if I made a tulpa it would make me feel horrible if I couldn't spend much time with it because of these. I know I can commit myself and open up a few hours from my day to do sessions, but all I really want to know is would a tulpa be ok if I don't always spend time with it bc of the reasons I mentioned?

 

First off you will have to make your Tulpa, I would wait for when you get a day off so that you can force the main work of your Tulpa fully (you can find how to properly visualize, create the personality, everything you need to know elsewhere on the internet)

 

Once you do that, it's all straight forward from there.

Here are some tips on how to keep your Tulpa healthy and growing after you create it (when you have a busy life):

 

*Tulpaforcing doesn't require all that time: If you think you REQUIRE a couple of hours a day for forcing, this is not true, I have been forcing for at least 15 minutes a day and it has been working fine for me and my Tulpa.

 

*Narrating to your Tulpa: When you wake up say good morning to your Tulpa, on your way to work talk to your Tulpa, at work talk to your Tulpa, you can talk to your Tulpa 2 ways, the 1st way is out loud, the 2nd way is in your head, talking out loud works better, but could lead to awkward moments if you are around other people.

 

*Acknowledging your Tulpa's existence: Acknowledging you Tulpa's existence is all you really need to worry about, just keep narrating and/or forcing and you will have a happy, healthy Tulpa.

 

I hope this helped any :)

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I think that it depends on the tulpa. Some of them need more attention than others. So just make it very clear to your tulpa early on that you do have commitments besides him/her. If s/he is reasonable then s/he will understand.

 

Agree.

 

I once had a high maintenance tulpa. Strange story short, he was, for various reasons, amicably repudiated, and I've since chosen to only foster tulpas that can occupy themselves without my direct involvement or emotional investment.

[Guest Zekrif]

Thank you to everyone who posted. Your comments and advice were noted :). Once again, I give thanks and appreciate your replies.