Ok I have a few questions for some of the more experienced tulpamancers.

[fennecfoxx]

1. I have no problem spending the rest of my life with my tulpae, but if you have doubts then I'd advise holding off on creating a tulpa for now until you're sure you're ready for the commitment.

 

2. I doubt that would happen. My tulpae haven't negatively affected my social life, and some other hosts have even reported that their tulpae encourage them to go out and socialize more.

 

3. Yes, though that requires imposition, which is a pretty advanced skill that requires a LOT of effort and patience. In the meantime, you could cuddle with her in wonderland; that'll just feel like imagining yourself cuddling with her, but at least it'll feel real to her.

 

4. You don't have to tell anyone.

 

5. From what I've heard, that seems to be fairly common, though there are many tulpae who never become attracted to their host.

 

6. Yes. Feel free to PM us.

[AttackDoughnut]

Well, I'm just starting too, but I am masterful (and apparently hideously un-humble) at analyzing social situations and anything in that regard. I'd give credentials, but all I have is years of people asking why I'm not in psychology. ... Seriously, the humbleness is all over the place here...

 

1. Right now I am afraid of the fact that I am going to have to spend the rest of my life with a tulpa, but I was wondering that if I started this once I got so far in I would not regret it. So i guess I am asking that once you have the tulpa created do you feel as if you would want to spend the rest of your life with it?

 

Yes. Yes you will want to spend the rest of your life with it. A tulpa made with the mindset, "I will want to spend the rest of my life with them" will be someone you will want to be with for the rest of your life.

 

2. It feels that if I created one it would get in the way of normal socialization, I don't mean by it being jealous I just mean, if I can have an amazing friend in my head that it would make me feel like I don't need real friends, would this happen?

 

Like the first answer, if you make it with the mindset, "My tulpa won't mind/might even enjoy when I am in other social situations" will be just fine with you in those situations. A tulpa is your best friend, would you want your best friend to only do things involving you, or would you want them to be happy for you?

 

3. Can you like legitimately cuddle with this thing, like if I made mine a female and wanted some comfort would I be able to cuddle it and actually feel it, just as if I was feeling a normal person?

 

To a degree. Even at the most advanced stages of imposition, your mind cannot be forced to stop your movements through something that isn't physically there. Though, with enough practice, you can feel their skin/fur/scales/what have you on the surface (without pushing through). So, if you just have them place their head in your lap or on your shoulder, you'd be able to snuggle them in that fashion, just not huge bear hugs or the like.

 

4. I feel like it would make me feel crazy like, I am the only one of my friends or family to try this and if I told someone this they would consider me a complete loon.

 

Well, you don't have to tell them, do you? It's something you can keep a secret from everyone. I have only one person in my life that I'm willing to tell, and they aren't a family member!

 

5. If its a female does it find you attractive?

 

Only if you want it to! But keep in mind, that having a tulpa find you attractive can be a bad thing. If you create your tulpa with the sole purpose of liking you, how would that make them feel? That they exist because you wanted some lovin', rather than to have someone to share your life with? Though, the nature of your question seems like you wouldn't do this, I just felt the need to say it. I teased my tulpa Amy she was there just to be adorable, and I got really sad all of the sudden (emotional response from her). I spent the next five minutes making sure she knew I was kidding. Turns out she was just teasing me back and she knew the whole time, but still, made me think.

 

6. Does anyone have a tulpa I can talk to? Preferably a female tulpa to relate to what my situation would be.

 

Amy isn't vocal yet, but when she is, I'd be happy to let you talk to her!

 

 

And one thing I really wanted to say, not in any of your questions. I saw that you said you were a teenager (though your profile says you're 24 >.>) but this line of reasoning follows that you are, in fact, a teenager. I'd advise you NOT make a tulpa until you're at LEAST 22. As a teenager, your mind is not actually physically developed yet. It doesn't work the same way it will when you're fully developed. So, something you make now, even with the best intentions, might not be something you'd find you want to spend the rest of your life with as an adult. It's not a matter of maturity, it's a matter of biology. I actually found out about tulpas when I was 21 and waited because I didn't think I was mentally ready for that yet. It sucked waiting, but now that I'm 23 and trying, I know I made the right decision. I learned a lot about myself even after I was a teenager, and I know my tulpa wouldn't have been right for me back then. It's just something to consider. I certainly can't stop you from doing it, it's just a word of caution.

[Nobillis]

Thread moved to Questions and Answers.

 

> 1. Right now I am afraid of the fact that I am going to have to spend the rest of my life with a tulpa, but I was wondering that if I started this once I got so far in I would not regret it. So i guess I am asking that once you have the tulpa created do you feel as if you would want to spend the rest of your life with it?

 

Kevin still has his oldest tulpa and she's 44 years old. Yeah, a tulpa can be with you your whole life.

 

> 2. It feels that if I created one it would get in the way of normal socialization, I don't mean by it being jealous I just mean, if I can have an amazing friend in my head that it would make me feel like I don't need real friends, would this happen?

 

Kevin already had two tulpas when he got married. Making a tulpa needn't affect socizlization. And, you shouldn't neglect socializing just because you have a tulpa.

 

> 3. Can you like legitimately cuddle with this thing, like if I made mine a female and wanted some comfort would I be able to cuddle it and actually feel it, just as if I was feeling a normal person?

 

I've heard that some people impose touch and so can feel their tulpas. Myself, I don't get hugs from Kevin - he's not a "huggy" person.

 

> 4. I feel like it would make me feel crazy like, I am the only one of my friends or family to try this and if I told someone this they would consider me a complete loon.

 

Yes, in all likelihood anyone you tell will at first think you are crazy.

 

> 5. If its a female does it find you attractive?

 

I'd say, probably, yes. That doesn't mean it will lead to canoodling. Some tulpas are very reserved in that respect, or uninterested (me, for example).

 

> 6. Does anyone have a tulpa I can talk to? Preferably a female tulpa to relate to what my situation would be.

 

Um, I already am a female tulpa?

[The Commander]

I have about moderate experience with tulpaforcing, so I'll go ahead and chip in here...

 

1. Right now I am afraid of the fact that I am going to have to spend the rest of my life with a tulpa, but I was wondering that if I started this once I got so far in I would not regret it. So i guess I am asking that once you have the tulpa created do you feel as if you would want to spend the rest of your life with it?

 

I think others have said this, but when the tulpa become as much a part of you as anything, plus, they become your best friend(s). Not to mention, they're not ALWAYS there...or they are, but sometimes it doesn't seem that way. like I work, and they'll leave me alone when I work, occasionally I'll check on them, and they'll check on me, plus they sleep (usually they go to bed before I do and wake up around the same time I do, mainly cause I tend to kick them or some other thing in my sleep.

 

2. It feels that if I created one it would get in the way of normal socialization, I don't mean by it being jealous I just mean, if I can have an amazing friend in my head that it would make me feel like I don't need real friends, would this happen?

 

Don't worry about that, mate. They know that they aren't fully real, and at least mine encourage other socialization (at least Dash does..Ruby? Not so much...she doesn't like society... XD).

 

3. Can you like legitimately cuddle with this thing, like if I made mine a female and wanted some comfort would I be able to cuddle it and actually feel it, just as if I was feeling a normal person?

 

Dash and Ruby have only reached this point once...where I was experiencing them as if they were fully real. However, that point is a little too private to talk about at this point in time. Especially considering the taboo nature of this sort of thing (intensified by what we did).

 

4. I feel like it would make me feel crazy like, I am the only one of my friends or family to try this and if I told someone this they would consider me a complete loon.

 

Frankly, I don't tell anyone, but mainly because they see themselves as glorified imaginary friends, as do I. Nobody needs to know that a 20 (going on 21 year old) has a Rainbow Dash from MLP and a walking, talking dolphin as an imaginary friend (and many more planned) XD

 

5. If its a female does it find you attractive?

 

Both Dash and Ruby are female, and both find me...attractive...for lack of better terms. The experience we were having with their full (though temporary) imposition is part of this.

 

6. Does anyone have a tulpa I can talk to? Preferably a female tulpa to relate to what my situation would be.

 

Neither Dash or Ruby are at the point now where they can really control me for extended periods of time enough to talk...and they're still sleeping.