Helpful ways to stay focused

[H1ena]

I have a two fold question, but let me start off by explaining that after about ten minutes I tend to become restless and by 15 minutes into a tulpa forcing session I usually give up. My questions are:

 

1. If I can still get in an hour or two a day but it's broken into 15 minute chunks is that ok?

 

2. How can I stay focused?

[Phi]

1. Yes

2. Practice. Try thinking of a dot for as long as you can every so often until you can go half an hour without being distracted.

[Guest Anonymous]

I found it useful repeating the name of my tulpa to focus in on her, stopping when I can visualize her fairly well.

[Guest Anonymous]

Try using Fede's tones if you're not already. They made a huge difference for me.

[Nevermore]

I know some people don't like them, but I find using a wonderland helps me stay focused if you aren't already using one.

[Guest Anonymous]

Meditation. Learn to do it right and meditate before a session and you lose your perception of time. I can do a 1 hour session that feels like 20 minutes as long as I meditate before-hand.

[WhiiteRussian]

Meditation. Learn to do it right and meditate before a session and you lose your perception of time. I can do a 1 hour session that feels like 20 minutes as long as I meditate before-hand.

 

This might sound like a stupid question but how does one learn to meditate?

 

Seriously I've googled this shit multiple times and all I get is studies that show how beneficial it is, links to bigass books I don't have the patience to read, and vague instructions to "clear your mind" etc. which don't really mean anything to one that does not initially know what that means.

[Guest]

Use my tones.

 

 

I love how someone already recommended them before me.

 

[Guest Anonymous]

 

This might sound like a stupid question but how does one learn to meditate?

 

Seriously I've googled this shit multiple times and all I get is studies that show how beneficial it is, links to bigass books I don't have the patience to read, and vague instructions to "clear your mind" etc. which don't really mean anything to one that does not initially know what that means.

 

Well there are literally hundreds of different very distinct forms of meditation that all serve different purposes, require certain circumstances, and certain levels of experience. But the method I always come back to for basic meditation is Pranayama meditation.

 

Pranayama meditation is one of the easiest and simplest forms of meditation to learn, since it's entirely based on breathing. The name Pranayama meaning "extension of the breath". If you ignore all the religious and spiritual connotations, it boils down to a very simple process.

 

1. Find a relatively dark, quiet room where you know you won't be disturbed for the next 15-30 minutes.

 

2. Sit either with your legs crisscrossed like the stereotypical meditation pose, or with both legs straight out in front of you. You'll want to sit on a pillow or cushion for support, because it's hard to ignore discomfort at first.

 

3. Now close your eyes and take a few deep breathes. Breathe in through your nose, and out through your mouth.

 

4. When you breathe in, focus on the feeling of air entering your nose, the cold feeling of it going into your throat, and through to your lungs. Pay attention to your lungs expanding as the air enters them. Hold the air in for a few seconds, and let it out, doing the same process as you exhale. Repeat this as long as you possibly can. It becomes a little easier every time you do it.

 

5. Inevitably you're going to have intrusive thoughts popping up. Although most people say to ignore them, I find it's easier to acknowledge them for a moment, before returning your focus to your breathing. As you continue through your meditation session, you should be getting less and less thoughts popping up, and the ones that do should be harder to notice.

 

6. Continue to do step 4, while doing step 5 whenever is necessary for the whole session. The first few sessions are sometimes hard to maintain, so even doing it for 5 minutes is vastly beneficial to going straight in to tulpaforcing. Eventually you'll want to go for anywhere from 10-30 minutes as is necessary before a session by gradually building up the length of your meditation session.

 

Any questions?

[H1ena]

 

so even doing it for 5 minutes is vastly beneficial to going straight in to tulpaforcing. Eventually you'll want to go for anywhere from 10-30 minutes as is necessary before a session by gradually building up the length of your meditation session.

 

Any questions?

 

I have a question. Do you continue the breathing through the tulpa forcing session or do you breath normally while tulpa forcing?