A question from a new tulpamancer.

[Analmcgoober]

Hello, I am a fairly new member to this site. For the last two weeks I've been reading up on tulpas (tulpae, Tupper?) And have been heavily considering creating a tulpa since then. The only reason I haven't really got to making one is one thing, and that is what if my tulpa doesn't like me? I'm not planning on being a terrible person to my tulpa or anything, but I am just scared of what they might think of me once they achieve sentience. Will they dislike the way I act, or how I can be immature at times?

 

I'm asking this because I've always had a large amount of insecurity. I just don't want my tulpa to hate my guts and loathe that they had to be conceived in my head.

 

(P.S. this might belong better in general discussion, I'm still getting used to the forum setup. So sorry if this is in the wrong place.)

[Dracky]

My understanding is that tulpas generally like their hosts, and unless you deliberately make them evil/abusive/whatever (which you shouldn't do), chances are they'll be just as fond of you as you are of them. Being inside your head gives them a lot of insight into what makes you tick, and they tend to be pretty understanding as a result.

[GlassJustice]

[Well,considering tulpas are,for all intensive purposes,the same person as the host,we understand our host better than anyone.We can communicate with pure fucking thought!]

[Analmcgoober]

Okay, thanks for the reassurance. I'll keep that in mind while creating a tulpa. I'll leave this thread open a little longer in case anyone wants to add their opinion.

 

Thanks to whoever moved this to the correct place btw.

[Stevie]

Thanks to whoever moved this to the correct place btw.

 

No problem bro

[Guest Anonymous]

Your tulpa will like you because you want him or her to. If you don't want your tulpa to like you, it won't. Tulpa's are created from how you imagine them or visualize them and think about them. If they turn out not to like you for some reason, in my opinion, that dislike was a secret desire of you to see manifest in the tulpa. The tulpas develop into the form best suited to the creator's needs and unconscious expectations.

 

If you are feeling anxiety about creating a tulpa and are too worried it won't like you, don't make one.

[James]

Well, I'm a tulpa, and I love my host. Tulpa love their hosts. It's a sort of natural thing that just happens. There are plenty of tulpamancers that are insecure in one way or another, and that their insecurities are always proven wrong. So. :)

[IBreakGames]

"I feel that a lot of worries about tulpae comes from the delicious creepypastas and the constant warning you see in guides that state tulpas are a commitment. They are a commitment, and need to be taken seriously, you can't just willy-nilly create a person and then not take care of them. But if you are a devoted host, then there's no reason to worry. Like literally none at all, unless you are creating them to be malevolent, in which case why are you worrying in the first place. Even if you can't devote all your time to your tulpa, they'll understand. You have a life outside of them, and the (hopeful) goal is to experience the world together. So tell them to take in the information you see and hear, and they'll continue to grow. Just devote time to them every day, and everything will be right as rain."

 

Yeah, that's what my tulpa has to say about it.

[Sweets]

The way I see it, the status quo for a newly created tulpa is to like their host. Simple as that. They basically share your mind, which means they will hardly be able to even judge you, let alone loathe you, as they do not only see the 'bad' things you did from your perspective, but can also understand the reasons why - on a much more intense and honest level than you could ever possible reach with another human being.

 

Of course it is always possible to alter the relationship between you and your tulpa in a destructive way, but as you stated, you plan on treating them kindly - which already does the trick. Respect them, talk to them, accept them like they accept you, and you should be totally fine. To seriously disturb the relationship between the tulpa and the host, it takes more than just an unfortunate slip of the tongue or a quirk you yourself might find despicable (it probably isn't despicable anyway, but well).

 

Never forget one thing - you are the host. Harming you would endanger their very own existence, and your tulpa would not want that. They will make themselves like you, if you give them the chance, and they will make you like them, if you give yourself the chance. Tulpas are love, and love doesn't judge - simple as that.