Can you be private about anything at all if you have a tulpa?

[oaktreereef]

Just asking since, after I started doing this whole tulpa thing, I feel uncomfortable doing anything vaguely embarrassing, including doing things that involve taking off clothing. (Such as showering.)

 

Oh, also, I am trying to make my tulpa blind and deaf to the outside world (Not inside), and I was wondering if my tulpa could just flat-out refuse that (I can not hear my tulpa yet, so I don't know if my tulpa has those traits.), which would be kinda bad, considering how I kinda need some form of privacy for sanity reasons, and having somebody know everything you do at all times would drive me to suicide. (Which would kill 2 people, instead of just 1, if you count the tulpa.)

 

Also is it possible to block a tulpa from accessing your memories? (Asking this for similar reasons.)

 

I kinda expect the majority of responses to be something along the lines of: "Your tulpa won't care at all!"

However just the thought of tulpae watching everything you do brings me physical pain. (Specifically in the top right part of my forehead, which is where I usually feel my tulpa's head pressures.)

[jackson]

Be advised that you are naked under the clothing the rest of the time.

[Elvode]

You give your tulpa access to whatever you want in your mind, you can limit your tulpa or not, you decide.

I read about a user who wrote something about limiting your tulpa, this user had a library in wonderland, which was the limited area of thoughts, memories and whatever you want to put in there that the tulpa should not access, there are different ways you can limit your tulpa, having this library is an easy way to do so.

You can have a different design if you wish, whatever floats your boat.

[Guest Anonymous]

The fact they can see all you do doesn't mean you have the right to limit their senses. As a host there isn't a relation of, well, control over the tulpa. Tulpas are people without a physical body but in development like you and me, they're bound to be curious and intrigued by the world in the end. And even if you don't let them 'see', they can still feel you and have the image of how you look like, even if they're 'blind'. Tulpas aren't meant to live in an imaginary world because there is absolutely no opportunity for development, or the one there is is extremely slow and not that productive. They're meant to interact with the real world, interact with you, what, are you disgusted at your body? Is that it? Are you ashamed of how big your thing is? If so, tulpas really don't care if you don't let them care. My tulpa feels absolutely no attraction *for people, there is no real sexual drive in her, and relying on your visions of tulpamancy, the tulpa is either; a) something derived from imagination you condition, b) its own autonomous being with sentience and whatnot, if it is a) then you shouldn't feel bad about making a being that is imaginary blind and deaf. But there is a wide, very wide difference between an imaginary friend and a tulpa, you can't just make them this or that without thinking of consequences. If it is b) you shouldn't make them blind and deaf, what the fuck... do you make your kid blind and deaf if you don't want him to see evil things? You show him the evil things, show him WHY they're evil, make him understand that it's part of human nature, that's what you do.

[Luminesce]

To be fair, living in your mind, there's nothing that weird about normal stuff like that to them. I understand though, I went through the same thing as I didn't know about tulpas when I made mine. They told me again and again "We literally live in your mind, how could we possibly not understand anything you do? You care a lot more than us."

 

I mean, people like privacy because they're afraid of being judged. Nothing to be embarrassed about when the only one around is part of yourself. Now of course, if you do something that even you have problems with, your tulpa may comment on the matter. But that's to be expected, and possibly a good thing.

[Redline]

Ves and Crown have practical 24 hour CCTV to all of the things I've done. I prefer it that way, because I get to talk to them and get some feedback on mistakes and successes. It keeps me a bit more grounded than I used to be, and the thought that I have someone else to make sure what I did was right is comforting, even if she was once me.

[Nyx]

Just asking since, after I started doing this whole tulpa thing, I feel uncomfortable doing anything vaguely embarrassing, including doing things that involve taking off clothing. (Such as showering.)

 

I used to tell my tulpa to go away whenever I needed privacy for those things, and he respected that. Eventually, it became routine. Whenever I showered, he would just go off without needing me to ask him. All you need to do is get in the habit of letting your tulpa know when you need to be left alone.

 

Oh, also, I am trying to make my tulpa blind and deaf to the outside world (Not inside), and I was wondering if my tulpa could just flat-out refuse that (I can not hear my tulpa yet, so I don't know if my tulpa has those traits.), which would be kinda bad, considering how I kinda need some form of privacy for sanity reasons, and having somebody know everything you do at all times would drive me to suicide. (Which would kill 2 people, instead of just 1, if you count the tulpa.)

 

I would advise against this, partly because limiting the tulpa's senses doesn't seem ethical and partly because it is impractical. Not all tulpas are around their hosts 24/7, and, again, you have the right to set boundaries and have your own space.

 

Also is it possible to block a tulpa from accessing your memories? (Asking this for similar reasons.)

 

Yes, it is possible. Allowing your tulpa access to your memories is often thought of as a conscious decision in the guides, but you can always close off areas within your psyche at any time. Simply visualize that area as "closed off" and reinforce the belief that the tulpa cannot access it.

 

That said, my tulpa has access to everything, and as others have said, I find it incredibly comforting. When he's sifting through even the darker areas of my memories and subconscious, he's always objective and nonjudgmental towards me. He's easily the one person I would trust to do this. But I understand why someone would be uncomfortable with this level of intimacy, as it requires great levels of trust. As your tulpa grows, you may change your mind about this topic. Or not. Either way, remember that you are always in the driver's seat.

[oaktreereef]

Welp, Anderson's words really got me thinking about whether I was emotianally stable enough to have a tulpa, then I came to the conclusion that I was not.

 

(I don't think having untreated but diagnosed ADHD, untreated but diagnosed Depression, and having problems with paranoia and anxiety is a good mindset to have when making a tulpa.)

 

So I did the only thing I can think of to restore my last few bits of sanity and stopped acknowledging my tulpa, getting rid of it.

 

However a few hours before destroying it I heard it's first words AND it's first signs of sentience: "I don't know"

 

I no longer feel the head pressures (I get headaches often so I didn't know if it was the tulpa.), can no longer sense the wonderland, can no longer sense a presence from the tulpa that just recently achieved sentience, and can no longer hear the tulpa's voice that just recently appeared.

 

My heart hurts and my throat feels full, feels like I can't talk if I wanted to.

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If only I saw this post before making my second post to this thread.

 

Also to those of you mentioning the blind thing, I have some really bad vision problems, and always wondered what would of happened if I was blind instead of just having poor vision (So I was thinking about blindness during the forcing sessions.), and it wasn't just for privacy reasons.

 

People always said I had poor hearing as well, so I guess I was trying to force more extreme versions of problems I have onto the tulpa. (Keep in mind I could have removed these problems at any time.)

[Guest Anonymous]

I....

 

I had no intentions of.... What have I done... I'm just... I'm sorry.

[Luminesce]

TFW imaginary friend drama

 

(also not cool bro)

 

Depression ADHD and anxiety are par for the course for a tulpamancer. That's like, most of us. Paranoia sucks though. There's a reason we have a term called "parrotnoia". Doubt is like anti-progress when it comes to tulpas. But anyway, I wouldn't recommend you stop for those reasons. Tulpas can help with them from what we've seen.

 

And tulpamancy has nothing to do with a lack of sanity. I'm pretty dang sane. I follow the scientific method with tulpamancy like I do anything else. Healthy skepticism and logic have their place everywhere... Try browsing the forum some more.

 

(You alright Anders?)