Many questions?

[Virus]

Hello! ~

 

Well, I'm new in the tulpa community, but not in the tulpae "world". (i don't know how to explain)

 

I tried making my first tulpa on April 8, 2015. But because I was really lazy, I stopped.

 

I've been since then feeling guilty for leaving my tulpa, so now, I'm trying to start again.

 

The big problem, is that a lot of questions and doubts pop up in my mind.

 

- "What if I'm doing it wrong?"

- "Is it enough with focusing only in narration and visualization?"

- "How many hours/minutes should I spend in every section?"

 

And then, thinking about my tulpa (I created his appearance as a boy) I tought:

"What if he wants to deviate and change his gender?"

I know it's his life, it's his appearance. But I have problems with girls, and that could make me feel kinda uncomfortable.

 

(Yeah, I doubt a lot)

My biggest fear is not being able to do it.

What if I fail making him, and I'm not able to have a tulpa?

 

Excuse my poor english and my stupid questions. OTL

[NoneFromHell]

- "What if I'm doing it wrong?"

 

There isn't really much you can do wrong, or to be more clear: You can't do something harmful just by forcing or spending time with your tulpa. Just treat your tulpa right and stay patient, since it will probably take some time before you get some results. This really depends on how much time you invest in your tulpa on a daily basis.

 

- "Is it enough with focusing only in narration and visualization?"

It is "enough", but I suppose you should also make up your mind about the character of your tulpa. Which traits you would like it to have?

 

- "How many hours/minutes should I spend in every section?"

There isn't a specific rule, but you just should invest as much time as you can spare for your tulpa. You should try to keep a daily schedule with at least an hour dedicated to your tulpa, even when you keep it passive for a reason.

 

-"What if he wants to deviate and change his gender?"

Well this is a difficult call. Technically you can talk to him about it, but probably one of you will have to accept the situation. Also there is a big chance that you won't have a problem with a female tulpa, even though you've problem with regular girls. You just know you tulpa in a different way.

 

 

-"What if I fail making him, and I'm not able to have a tulpa?"

Technically there is no way of failing, exept for giving up on it. Your brain may giving you a hard time and an unhealthy amount of doubt is toxic for the development for the tulpa, but beside that I see no reason why you shouldn't succeed. You need to learn to trust your tulpa even when you doubt.

[Evil]

Hello, and welcome to the community. I have a question for you: How would you feel if, during your conception, a few minutes were spent in your creation, and not the full 9 months a living human being takes to develop the basic features? The thing is that tulpas are far more complicated than mere imaginative figures, that erupt straight from intrusive thoughts and 'imagination'. It is something that requires a lot of efforts, and more than anything else, patience. I was reading your introduction post, you mentioned you would force for a few minutes back in April. Ask this question to yourself: 'Can I really reach an outcome with that amount of time?'. You need to be able to feel some comfort and reassurance in yourself, and in your capacities.

I am putting that much of an emphasis on the entire concept of 'how long should I force for?', but in the end, what matters is not how long you force for. What matters is the effort you put into forcing, and the things you can manage getting done. Say you have a test at school tomorrow. Naturally, you'd need to study, but what's better: sitting in front of a book and staring at the cover for 3 hours, or putting effort in understanding and memorizing the information for an hour and a half?

In many ways, there is no actual metering for how many hours you need to force for. Results are not concise between one person and the other, so what happens to one person will definitely differ from what happens to the other. It is something very personal and relative, overall.

 

A lot of guides put emphasis on active and passive forcing, but, as previously said, what matters is how much effort you put in the process of tulpamancing. If you feel like, okay, I can actually narrate and pay attention to it in a genuine way, you should go for that and prioritize it. A good milestone to reach would be achieving vocality/sentience. Some people recommend assuming sentience from the moment you start, but the moment you start is the moment an idea is born; might as well assume someone is actually listening, with that logic.

 

If he wants to deviate his gender... tulpas live in the minds of their hosts in conditions that allow for them to grasp a good understanding of what makes the host comfortable and uncomfortable. I'm assuming that a tulpa would be willing to settle down for a compromise. The most important thing upon facing misunderstandings, though, is communication. Talking about the things your tulpa comes up with, and reaching an understanding is essential. You might feel fine with your tulpa having the form of a girl, considering tulpas are very close to their hosts, but, time will tell. In any case, it is not something you should lose sleep over.

 

"What if I fail making him, and I'm not able to have a tulpa?"

 

If you fail, you fail and you cannot make a tulpa. The way we regard it is that making a tulpa is not an actual upgrade to one's life, it is a mix of good and bad things that you need to learn to deal with, at some point. Would it matter if you failed, though? Why is it you want a tulpa so bad that it would make you feel vulnerable in the case you cannot 'do' it? Is it intelligence? I'll be honest with you, and this is not pointed at anyone, but a complete idiot could make a tulpa, it doesn't take all that much. You need to believe in yourself, too. Having the belief that 'I cannot do this' is like a gateway to never reaching that outcome.

[Virus]

- "What if I'm doing it wrong?"

 

There isn't really much you can do wrong, or to be more clear: You can't do something harmful just by forcing or spending time with your tulpa. Just treat your tulpa right and stay patient, since it will probably take some time before you get some results. This really depends on how much time you invest in your tulpa on a daily basis.

 

- "Is it enough with focusing only in narration and visualization?"

It is "enough", but I suppose you should also make up your mind about the character of your tulpa. Which traits you would like it to have?

 

- "How many hours/minutes should I spend in every section?"

There isn't a specific rule, but you just should invest as much time as you can spare for your tulpa. You should try to keep a daily schedule with at least an hour dedicated to your tulpa, even when you keep it passive for a reason.

 

-"What if he wants to deviate and change his gender?"

Well this is a difficult call. Technically you can talk to him about it, but probably one of you will have to accept the situation. Also there is a big chance that you won't have a problem with a female tulpa, even though you've problem with regular girls. You just know you tulpa in a different way.

 

 

-"What if I fail making him, and I'm not able to have a tulpa?"

Technically there is no way of failing, exept for giving up on it. Your brain may giving you a hard time and an unhealthy amount of doubt is toxic for the development for the tulpa, but beside that I see no reason why you shouldn't succeed. You need to learn to trust your tulpa even when you doubt.

 

Thank you very much for answering!

I feel more relaxed now, I've been reading carefully your reply and I got the conclusion that I should stop worrying so much and start working harder on my tulpa.

 

I have to trust my tulpa.

---

Hello, and welcome to the community. I have a question for you: How would you feel if, during your conception, a few minutes were spent in your creation, and not the full 9 months a living human being takes to develop the basic features? The thing is that tulpas are far more complicated than mere imaginative figures, that erupt straight from intrusive thoughts and 'imagination'. It is something that requires a lot of efforts, and more than anything else, patience. I was reading your introduction post, you mentioned you would force for a few minutes back in April. Ask this question to yourself: 'Can I really reach an outcome with that amount of time?'. You need to be able to feel some comfort and reassurance in yourself, and in your capacities.

I am putting that much of an emphasis on the entire concept of 'how long should I force for?', but in the end, what matters is not how long you force for. What matters is the effort you put into forcing, and the things you can manage getting done. Say you have a test at school tomorrow. Naturally, you'd need to study, but what's better: sitting in front of a book and staring at the cover for 3 hours, or putting effort in understanding and memorizing the information for an hour and a half?

In many ways, there is no actual metering for how many hours you need to force for. Results are not concise between one person and the other, so what happens to one person will definitely differ from what happens to the other. It is something very personal and relative, overall.

 

A lot of guides put emphasis on active and passive forcing, but, as previously said, what matters is how much effort you put in the process of tulpamancing. If you feel like, okay, I can actually narrate and pay attention to it in a genuine way, you should go for that and prioritize it. A good milestone to reach would be achieving vocality/sentience. Some people recommend assuming sentience from the moment you start, but the moment you start is the moment an idea is born; might as well assume someone is actually listening, with that logic.

 

If he wants to deviate his gender... tulpas live in the minds of their hosts in conditions that allow for them to grasp a good understanding of what makes the host comfortable and uncomfortable. I'm assuming that a tulpa would be willing to settle down for a compromise. The most important thing upon facing misunderstandings, though, is communication. Talking about the things your tulpa comes up with, and reaching an understanding is essential. You might feel fine with your tulpa having the form of a girl, considering tulpas are very close to their hosts, but, time will tell. In any case, it is not something you should lose sleep over.

 

"What if I fail making him, and I'm not able to have a tulpa?"

 

If you fail, you fail and you cannot make a tulpa. The way we regard it is that making a tulpa is not an actual upgrade to one's life, it is a mix of good and bad things that you need to learn to deal with, at some point. Would it matter if you failed, though? Why is it you want a tulpa so bad that it would make you feel vulnerable in the case you cannot 'do' it? Is it intelligence? I'll be honest with you, and this is not pointed at anyone, but a complete idiot could make a tulpa, it doesn't take all that much. You need to believe in yourself, too. Having the belief that 'I cannot do this' is like a gateway to never reaching that outcome.

 

I really appreciate your reply and I'm going to get rid of my insecurities, because I think it's the biggest problem I have at the moment.

 

You have read the introduction post I made...

Now I'm practically all day doing passive forcing, but these last days I've been trying to increase the time I spend on active forcing.

 

I'll definitely work harder and don't fail. I can do this, huh?

[Evil]

If you work hard, you will definitely get there, friend. If you need any kind of advice, feel free to send me a private message at any moment.

[Virus]

If you work hard, you will definitely get there, friend. If you need any kind of advice, feel free to send me a private message at any moment.

 

I'll have that on mind! Thank you very much. ~

[Metatron]

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