Managing Your Tulpa

[Majesticman]

I need some advice on how to manage a tulpa from doing whatever it wants and bothering other people.:)

[Guest Anonymous]

Uh oh. Is your tulpa a girl? (oh sorry that was sexist and silly)

 

Compromise is important. Don't just demand things. Talk it out with your tulpa and work it out together. Explain how you feel and why certain behavior is harmful or hurtful to you.

[greedfox]

Well, at some point someone made a comparison of tulpea to pets, Which I gotta say is a spot on analogy. Tulpa react to your energy and thoughts, taking from them to create and exist.

 

When dealing with tulpea, you have to be the Alfa, if they are simply allowed to do whatever, they'll be peeing on your carpet and tearing up the furniture. (Not really, but they get out of control) some tulpea have even challenged their host for control and in a few cases have jacked the host's body while they were unconscious to do as they pleased while the host was none the wiser.

 

I could tell a story about a host named bazz that had his tulpa Jael take over his body whenever he fell asleep to get his homework done, though, Jael was a bit of a lazy-bones so she would just draw and play music while talking to the rest of the group over an IRC channel. He ended up having to put a collar on Jael to remind her to do the work that amounted to her payment to use the body. (Strong suggestion, don't let your tulpa control your body.)

 

I'm not saying that tulpa should be treated like a dog, but instead need to be constantly monitored and reminded of their purposes.

[Guest Anonymous]

Oh boy oh boy. greedfox my dear, I totally disagree with your premise. I am not a damned pet. Nobody, NOBODY, puts a collar on me and tells me what to friggin do. No one owns me. There is no god damned alpha. Constantly monitored and reminded of my purpose my ass! My hostie can kiss my butt! I can punish him when I need to and remind him of his place.

 

Here read this thread on how a tulpa can punish the host

 

It was my thread btw, I used to have an account called Groovy-guru.

[Majesticman]

Sorry for the delay in the response. Ironic that you presumed that my tulpa is a she...she is. I don't like the idea of treating her like an animal, which she isn't and I have never. Animals do bite, greedfox and I wouldn't to be bitten by her. Our relationship has always been egalitarian.

[Guest Anonymous]

Equal people talk and negotiate to work things out.

[Lucilyn]

Whoah, whoah. Saying a tulpa is like a pet is like saying your child or younger sibling is a pet. That's messed up. You definitely couldn't make me do what you want if you treated me like less than a human.

 

So yeah, that. Just treat'em like a person. Tell them you don't want them to cause trouble for you or others and to mind their manners and all that. If that isn't enough then be more strict/serious about it, or don't let them interact. Don't put a collar on them.. (Unless they're an animal-tulpa maybe... or if they want one)

[greedfox]

Oh boy oh boy. greedfox my dear, I totally disagree with your premise. I am not a damned pet. Nobody, NOBODY, puts a collar on me and tells me what to friggin do. No one owns me. There is no god damned alpha. Constantly monitored and reminded of my purpose my ass! My hostie can kiss my butt! I can punish him when I need to and remind him of his place.

 

Here read this thread on how a tulpa can punish the host

 

did I mention that Bazz was a jackal, and that Jael was a feral-type dragon? yeah, it was a long time ago on a furry forum for hypnotic research. the "companions" as they were deemed were created from a hypnosis mp3 set of three files, and this was WAY before the tulpa thing was even a thing. (it was at least a decade ago because I remember that I was like 14.) But, back then they were made to serve their host, and for all practical purposes were more real than the "common" tulpa.

 

Now, as for (you?) running roughshod over your host, that is exactly the kind of behavior that caused many of the original test subjects to restrict or outright destroy their companions. the relationship can't be entirely equal, mostly because of the host being...real. not that tulpa are not as real as they can seem, but the host has form, and still has to operate normally within the context of a human life. the host still needs to be the center to the neural cosmology as it were, and the tulpa are planets that orbit them.

 

everything gets more complicated of course, when the host and tulpa can switch, a skill that only a few will ever master. the host/tulpa relationship at that point becomes far more equal and in some cases can become a power struggle between the host and the supplemental personalities like with Jael and Bazz. but, ultimately someone still has to be the one to live the life and be the host, like it or not, and to be safe and lead to a healthy existence, it needs to be the creator who controls his/her creation.

 

like I said, don't treat them like a dog, but in many ways, the tulpa is a created pet. especially is cases where the host and the tulpa are both part animal (furries and such) the use of pack structure imagery and master/pet relations lead to a healthy relationship between the host and the tulpa

 

(http://furmorphed.com/) the "companion project" was droppped a long time ago, but some of the jornals still exist for those who care to find them.

[suhail Al ketbi]

Llooll:)

I use my tulpa on feeling good and pray

Not to harm people

You scared me !

Thinking to harm .. not bad. . really .. but fixing people

By good thoughts inspiration . That's good to me !

[Temar]

The main crux of this thread, I think, is that different methods work for different systems, and many systems use more than one method.

 

In my system, for example, we tend to go to communication first. If someone's causing problems or having problems, the host and those involved sit down (metaphorically) to talk the issue out. We have a few designated mediators (myself, mainly ;) ) who help head off problems before they escalate.

 

Then, if things get out of hand, we turn to methods of discipline. Things like restricting someone's imposition time, etc. In our system, the host spends the majority of the time at the front, so even though she loves and respects us, she still gets final say in real world things. And she has the connection with the front that makes her capable of enforcing this, even if she usually doesn't need to.

 

See, those of us who switch in understand that when we interact with the real world, the host is the one who has to deal with the consequences... and we love her too much to want to cause her any trouble by our presence. Most tulpas generally understand this. Though, if you start possessing/switching, it's probably a good idea to make sure your tupper understands that anything she does to "bother" people will affect the host in the long run. Chances are she'll get it, so you don't really have to worry about "managing" her at all. ;)