How does one not forget to talk to their tulpa

[Neptune System]

   So what has happened is that I've been forgetting to talk to Trinity and well she is upset and isn't talking to me. So I have this terrible problem of just completely that something exists. for example lets say I have a tool that would make doing this certain task 100 times easier but I simply forget it exists and later I realize that I could've used it.
  Now I'm trying to figure out how to stop this, and to make sure I think about her and not get lost in my own train of thoughts

[Adagio]

Set reminders on your phone. A ton of reminders. We had 6 reminders per day set up for a while. If you find yourself ignoring your reminders, then change the times by a bit, or try to dedicate a certain time of day to talking with her, if it's possible. For us, we always checked in with certain headmates during lunch time. Eventually it will become a habit. And if you find yourself ignoring or forgetting even more, maybe set a punishment. Like if you don't talk to her every day, then you don't get to play video games or something fun you like to do. We've also done that! It works really really well.

[Neptune System]

33 minutes ago, Adagio said:

Set reminders on your phone. A ton of reminders. We had 6 reminders per day set up for a while. If you find yourself ignoring your reminders, then change the times by a bit, or try to dedicate a certain time of day to talking with her, if it's possible. For us, we always checked in with certain headmates during lunch time. Eventually it will become a habit. And if you find yourself ignoring or forgetting even more, maybe set a punishment. Like if you don't talk to her every day, then you don't get to play video games or something fun you like to do. We've also done that! It works really really well.

Thank you for the advice

[Gloomynoon]

I'll add to what TGS said, since I mostly agree with it. 

 

In-case reminders on your phone are inconvenient at times (personally I don't use them.) I would recommend having something else that's also visually associated with them. It can be anything really, from a string tied to your finger to your phone background itself. As long as it's something that you can go "Oh yeah Trinity..." when you look at it.

 

I'd say visual cues are the most simple, but note that you can have all kinds of other ones. Like hearing something nostalgic, you can have an audial cue that makes you remember Trinity in someway, or a smell, or a feeling, etc, 

 

The possibilities are endless. Just use the ones that are most convenient for you, and in the case of tulpas, something that consistently happens the most throughout your day (example: checking your phone to see what time it is, you'll see the background image of Trinity.)

[TurboSimmie]

Back in the early days when I wasn't fully vocal yet Phil would take a green marker and make a dot on his finger. Green is my symbolic color, so whenever he saw the green dot he would be reminded to think of me. I recommend something like that! Also, does Trinity have a favorite color? We've found symbolic colors are very helpful!

[Neptune System]

18 hours ago, Gloomynoon said:

I'll add to what TGS said, since I mostly agree with it. 

 

In-case reminders on your phone are inconvenient at times (personally I don't use them.) I would recommend having something else that's also visually associated with them. It can be anything really, from a string tied to your finger to your phone background itself. As long as it's something that you can go "Oh yeah Trinity..." when you look at it.

 

I'd say visual cues are the most simple, but note that you can have all kinds of other ones. Like hearing something nostalgic, you can have an audial cue that makes you remember Trinity in someway, or a smell, or a feeling, etc, 

 

The possibilities are endless. Just use the ones that are most convenient for you, and in the case of tulpas, something that consistently happens the most throughout your day (example: checking your phone to see what time it is, you'll see the background image of Trinity.)

 

18 hours ago, TurboSimmie said:

Back in the early days when I wasn't fully vocal yet Phil would take a green marker and make a dot on his finger. Green is my symbolic color, so whenever he saw the green dot he would be reminded to think of me. I recommend something like that! Also, does Trinity have a favorite color? We've found symbolic colors are very helpful!

Thank you all!

[Ranger]

While it's not a main solution, another thing you can do to give Trinity more time is to take advantage of time spent waiting. When Gray is standing in line, sitting on the bus, etc., I find it's a perfect opportunity to talk to him. I also like to impose myself in our physical surroundings and practice our visualization. By getting in the habit of thinking about me in waiting situations, I tend to wake up automatically.

[Neptune System]

10 hours ago, Ranger said:

While it's not a main solution, another thing you can do to give Trinity more time is to take advantage of time spent waiting. When Gray is standing in line, sitting on the bus, etc., I find it's a perfect opportunity to talk to him. I also like to impose myself in our physical surroundings and practice our visualization. By getting in the habit of thinking about me in waiting situations, I tend to wake up automatically.

Thank you!

[Ice909]

15 hours ago, Ranger said:

While it's not a main solution, another thing you can do to give Trinity more time is to take advantage of time spent waiting. When Gray is standing in line, sitting on the bus, etc., I find it's a perfect opportunity to talk to him.

Janey: I agree here a lot. I know that often when we're just idle, either myself, Emily, or Chloe will end up chatting. Other from that, I agree with trying to do things or make things that remind you (ie phone reminders, the green dot thingie). We have trouble remembering we exist (that makes sense, right?) when Bryan is caught up in a conversation, so often conversing with others either locks Bryan to the front or brings him to the front if say we had switched. Idk mans, I wish you luck though! Remembering to talk to your tulpas is one of those things we still have issues with but I don't get how it's so hard for others. Evening time, when we're lying in bed, or showering, is when we're all most active, because it's just us. What do people do besides talk to their system mates? If you're running a mental dialogue with yourself, wouldn't your tulpa interject at some point? Idk, those're just my thoughts. Good luck, man! 

[Etna]

Having some kind of thing you carry with you as a constant reminder is a good idea. It could be something as simple as the green dot Simmie mentioned. Could be a pendant on a necklace, a ring, a bracelet (which could just be a piece of string). I have an amethyst bracelet that's pretty weighty so it's hard to ignore.