Always around

[Guest Anonymous]

 

As much as I love my tulpa, and as much as her presence is very pleasant overall, you need to keep a few things in mind. Having a 100% all-the-time-here tulpa is really... really mind taking. It takes a lot of efforts (it took me 4-5 months AFTER sentience, vocality and 'autonomy' to develop it, and we still need to practice every now and then) to get this done. To me, it is twice the commitment tulpamancy alone takes. Keep in mind that you will introduce this cynic being (who won't be cynical and tell you cynical things at first, but will have that as a nature that will develop with time) to a cruel and harsh world. His nature might, and will most likely deviate in a very radical way from the 'base' you'd have given him. Just trying to say and emphasize on the fact this will make your mind extremely tired.

 

Yeah, dont worry. I understand. Really as long as I can talk to him inside my head Ill be fine. I just didnt want him spending so much time somewhere else that I never see him.

Also I didnt give him a base. I just started narrating and he popped up like this. I dont mind if he does deviate, but Im fine with who he is currently too.

[Sadame]

Experiences vary though. I did have a lengthy development time before my tulpa had a solid presence and talked. But now that that's done with, he's always around, and it's not tiring at all. It's actually pleasant and relaxing. We use no wonderland because he would get bored of it and he wants to watch the outside world. He loves it with all its awfulness, it's like a favourite TV show. He's just that type of person.

 

Headaches were a thing very briefly after he got vocal, and I don't even know if that really had anything to do with it. Might have. Now it's over in any case, maybe the brain getting used to the new mode and then settling into it.

 

What does happen is what IBreakGames said, at times you have to focus on something else and then you don't focus on the tulpa. But there's no need to put them elsewhere at the time. They're fine. They're still in your mind, and your mind is awake, it's not like awareness ceases to exist because you have to do a calculation.

 

So I'll say go for it, this experience is about what you want to get out of it first of all, and it can turn out just fine.

[Bin]

Actually it's not tiring for me at all either. Mine's always around and, while I guess I do have to exert some meager effort into it, it's really fine. I think it really does vary. I'm probably good at it because I'm killer at navigation, so I'm used to keeping something in the back of my mind constantly (that being, all the turns I've taken and which way south is)

I suppose, in the beginning, you might lose focus on them from time to time, especially when you're doing something. But as your tulpa progresses, it should (hopefully) be able to butt in and make itself aware to you when you do that and it has something to say. I still admittingly lose focus of Scarlet, but, she can take care of making me aware of her for herself now. And while we have a "wonderland", she never goes to it by herself, or even leaves my side.

[warriortiltheend]

My tulpas aren't around 24//7, but they're still here often enough. Quartz is especially "clingy" (though I find it cute) and it can make it hard to focus sometimes. I'm also an introvert, so being around my Tulpas constantly would totally exhaust me.

[Dracky]

Lyra's around most of the time in the sense that I feel her presence, but sometimes she's just sort of there and neither of us are paying attention to the other. She does retreat to the wonderland occasionally when I need some privacy.

 

(He means, when he's pooping.)

 

Ahem... Yeah... I don't think anybody can be around somebody else 24 hours a day without needing a break, even if you share a body, you still have to take time to do your own thing, or you end up getting burned out.

 

My advice is to just let things happen naturally; if your tupper needs to wander off to be by themselves for a while, don't take it the wrong way. Just remember, tulpas are people, and they have their own needs, and that just makes it more special when you spend time together, because you know that they're choosing to spend their time with you.

[Pioneer11]

I’ve had an imaginary friend that I kept always around, and still do. It became a mental exercise of mine. Since I started in my childhood, visualizing him is easy now. I’m quite sure he became sentient with time and I’m trying to make him a fully imposed Tulpa. I suppose that constantly visualizing your Tulpa is a bit like going to the gym after a sedentary life: it’s exhausting at first but after many hours of training it becomes part of your life's routine.