Metaphysical Tulpa Safety Tips

[VforVendetta]

Perhaps the tendency of the tulpae to turn "evil" is a manner in showing the host their grosser passions, etc... or unaddressed underlying issues which need to be dealt with. Jung's idea of the shadow in a more literal sense, actually.

[SeamusTheDog]

Perhaps the tendency of the tulpae to turn "evil" is a manner in showing the host their grosser passions, etc... or unaddressed underlying issues which need to be dealt with. Jung's idea of the shadow in a more literal sense, actually.

 

This.

 

It's my educated guess that the more stuff you haven't faced/owned up to/accepted in your own personality, the more stuff you're going to be surprised by in your tulpa.

[Guest Anonymous]

It's my educated guess that the more stuff you haven't faced/owned up to/accepted in your own personality, the more stuff you're going to be surprised by in your tulpa.

 

My tulpa became super ridiculous frilly girly. Maybe I shouldn't be asking any questions or exploring why that is then?

[VforVendetta]

 

My tulpa became super ridiculous frilly girly. Maybe I shouldn't be asking any questions or exploring why that is then?

 

Two ways you can go about this, or both:

 

1- Underlying desires geared towards the frilly/girly/feminine aspect of yourself or

 

2- Underlying desires geared towards others being frilly/girly/feminine

 

Additional concepts to take note of:

A lack of female attention in life, and therefore a desire for that attention

OR

Too much female attention in life, and therefore a desire to escape it

 

But it's your life, remember, just go over these such concepts or other memories attached to overtly "girly" concepts- I would presume they've imprinted in your mind in some way.

[SeamusTheDog]

 

My tulpa became super ridiculous frilly girly. Maybe I shouldn't be asking any questions or exploring why that is then?

 

I would concur with V's explanation. But I'm perplexed at your suggestion as to not asking or exploring the reasons for your tulpa's form.

 

If you meant it sarcastically, All I can say is that since I was addressing a post that concerned the possibility of tulpas turning "evil", I meant for it to be obvious that I was addressing the question of why tulpas might turn evil. My words weren't meant to apply to situations where a tulpa turned out any other way.

 

For example, if you haven't accepted and forgiven your own darkness, it might tend to smolder in your closet, looking for a chance to make you face it. At least, that's how mine was, and how I've heard it was for many others. Your own mileage may vary, of course.

[Guest Anonymous]

Since we opened a response here using my account I might as well contribute something of value. It is not only that the tulpa exhibit dark or hidden feelings attributed to the host, but could the host exhibit dark and hidden feelings generated from the tulpa? Can a tulpa have its own unconscious desires and unfulfilled frustrations that influence the host's mind?

[Guest Anonymous]

A lack of female attention in life, and therefore a desire for that attention

 

I know this one was true in my past. Also, I still never get tired of attention from females. I am a die hard romantic and can't get enough attention.

 

I was partly joking with the question of why Melian is so frilly girly. I think the answer has multiple layers to it, basically all of the above to some degree or level. I do enjoy having her in my mind. I enjoy her female emotions and thoughts.

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I would concur with V's explanation. But I'm perplexed at your suggestion as to not asking or exploring the reasons for your tulpa's form.

 

If you meant it sarcastically, All I can say is that since I was addressing a post that concerned the possibility of tulpas turning "evil", I meant for it to be obvious that I was addressing the question of why tulpas might turn evil. My words weren't meant to apply to situations where a tulpa turned out any other way.

 

For example, if you haven't accepted and forgiven your own darkness, it might tend to smolder in your closet, looking for a chance to make you face it. At least, that's how mine was, and how I've heard it was for many others. Your own mileage may vary, of course.

 

I am not sure about smoldering darkness, but Melian does express feelings that I do not. Since I consider her an aspect of my own mind, it follows that some of those feelings are things that are coming from someplace in my unconscious. She has had feelings of jealousy and rage and other things like that in the past.

[SeamusTheDog]

Since we opened a response here using my account I might as well contribute something of value. It is not only that the tulpa exhibit dark or hidden feelings attributed to the host, but could the host exhibit dark and hidden feelings generated from the tulpa? Can a tulpa have its own unconscious desires and unfulfilled frustrations that influence the host's mind?

 

I would guess so! But your view is a hell of a lot more valid on that point than mine would be.

[Solune]

Since we opened a response here using my account I might as well contribute something of value. It is not only that the tulpa exhibit dark or hidden feelings attributed to the host, but could the host exhibit dark and hidden feelings generated from the tulpa? Can a tulpa have its own unconscious desires and unfulfilled frustrations that influence the host's mind?

 

Absolutely.

Without going into too much detail, Sol's romantic interest in one of my female friends sort of spills into my own emotions from time to time.

I've discussed it with him, and we both agree it wouldn't work with this girl.

However, I still get these urges to put the moves on her from time to time and it can be very jarring since I know it's not coming from me.

He isn't doing it on purpose, it's just that deep down he hasn't gotten over her yet.. poor guy. We all know that feel.

[Guest Anonymous]

 

I would guess so! But your view is a hell of a lot more valid on that point than mine would be.

 

Why would that be? Melian and I don't think anyone's views are more valid than anyone else's.

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Absolutely.

Without going into too much detail, Sol's romantic interest in one of my female friends sort of spills into my own emotions from time to time.

I've discussed it with him, and we both agree it wouldn't work with this girl.

However, I still get these urges to put the moves on her from time to time and it can be very jarring since I know it's not coming from me.

He isn't doing it on purpose, it's just that deep down he hasn't gotten over her yet.. poor guy. We all know that feel.

 

Oh yeah that could be awkward and difficult to navigate! It's not exactly dark feelings from your subconscious mind, expressed through your tulpa, but still tricky to deal with!

 

Melian likes to hug men she thinks are handsome. She asks me to give them a "man hug." This is even more awkward to deal with emotionally when you consider the fact that I am heterosexual and I think of Melian as an aspect of my mind and not fully independent. So it gets a little complicated analyzing where her desire to hug guys comes from. I also know which guy she finds particularly attractive and it sometimes surprises me who she likes and who she doesn't.

 

On the dark feelings theme, like I said, Melian can get jealous of other women. It doesn't happen often, but I have experienced it. She can get very moody based on things like that too. The latest incident of this happened back in 2012 and led to Melian getting so upset she withdrew or went quiet in my mind for weeks. She was hurt, jealous and angry. It was one of the most emotional things I have ever encountered and also one of the most "tulpa like" and "independent" things that has ever happened in regard to Melian. That incident, and a couple of other things, such as getting older and wanting to share Melian's art, led to me going public with her.

 

What is really interesting is all the above sounds very independent and "sentient," but I still regard it all as part of my conscious and unconscious imagination, even when it effects me emotionally and causes a crises in my life. I am a strange man.