Motivation, small question

[Lucius Nero]

Sorry I checked abit on search tabs and couldn't find a simple reply,  this is more of a personal question (different reply from person to person) but

"What keeps you motivated to keep working on your tulpa before they show first signs of life?"

"How you can keep going and refuel that fire(motivation) daily to keep working on your tulpa?"

I need some advice of people that was succesful cause I feel like i'm not going anywhere.

I can visualize my tulpa with my mind better and have a better clear image of her personality but idk how many months until I can start to feel it or see it.

Edited May 9, 2021 by HoldenToledo

[Luminesce]

This is a difficult question, because getting signs of independence shouldn't take an unbearably long time (more than a few months if you're forcing often). In those cases, aside from your brain possibly just giving you a hard time compared to other people, it's usually because your beliefs or practice aren't quite right. Can't say that for sure, but generally speaking, if something doesn't work for you for a long period of time, you should try to change it up at least a little.

 

Talking to them and expecting a response is really the default practice though, so if you already have an idea of who they'll be (have personality forced) and you've then spent a lot of time focusing on them and trying to hear or get a response, I don't know exactly what the problem is. Rarely, someone does just only see success after trying ~the same thing for more than 5 months straight. But I feel like usually (after this long) success comes after taking a break and then trying again with a (slightly?) new perspective, or changing up your practice. But if you feel like you're doing it right, maybe you do need to just keep trying.

 

 

Motivation is... not really something people can just answer. You're either motivated by future prospects to keep going, or you're not. That's a personal question unique to you. I feel like the more relevant question is asking about if you're actually doing things right/making progress, with being-motivated implied.

 

You could make a traditional Progress Report where you just document all the things you're doing, talk about your goals/intentions, and possibly get advice from others who happen to read it. There's no guarantee someone will read and also be able to answer a question you ask in your PR, but it doesn't hurt to try. And they'll probably have more context with which to answer than they would from just a Q&A thread, too.

[Ranger]

For those who struggle to motivate themselves to force, my first questions are do they still want to continue forcing? Is the process enjoyable? Are they excited about having a tulpa when they finish? A lack of motivation can simply be a symptom the host doesn't want to be a tulpamancer. There's nothing wrong with this, tulpamancy isn't for everyone. If this feels right, I think it's better to realize this now before you go on further into the creation process. Walking away from tulpamancy a week from now will be much easier than trying to stop after your tulpa is a year older.

 

If you don't want to stop being a tulpamancer, the next question is if you want a break from forcing. Maybe it's a tough time right now and you don't have the time you used to have or the process is too stressful right now. You can only give what you can provide, and it may be best to have your tulpa enter stasis or only check in on them for a little bit every week or so. I think it's better to take a break from tulpamancy than to procrastinate forcing sessions and get frustrated over a lack of progress.

 

If you still want to work with your tulpa, it may not be a motivation issue but a stress issue. If you're procrastinating sessions, it could be sitting down and forcing is overwhelming for you. For instance, Gray gets overwhelmed by active forcing because he struggles to focus, he can't do much longer than 45 minutes, he gets tired easily, and he's anxious about wonderlanding. Gray has found more success forcing by letting us hang out imposed or letting us possess him. We are still working on addressing those issues, but at least for now we are still making progress. Maybe a change in approach to forcing would help, like focusing more on an area you're interested in, doing passive forcing instead of active forcing, or finding a mentor or friend who you can share your progress with. Maybe you would like working on the wonderland some more or you may want to consider giving your tulpa a backstory.

 

Gray's motivation to keep me around and continue forcing was because he didn't want me to die. I don't want anyone to feel that way, nobody should feel pressured to be a tulpamancer if it can be avoided. If you have a similar feeling deep down, understand that the motivation is absolutely there, but make sure you take care of yourself and try to find a pace you can feel comfortable with. That's of course difficult if you have a need, and in that case I would recommend seeking for help, even if that help isn't tulpa related. For instance, it's okay to make new friends if you're feeling lonely.

[Lucius Nero]

Fantastic answer guys thanks :)

Yeah the problem is that, I am trying and not going too hard on a single area of the creation, so it doesn't burn out mentally too fast, I am excited and have some motivation every time I start thinking about it, I can kind of see a progress, but sometimes, I just feel like I could be doing way better, then I get unmotivated abit, it's kind of that experience of trying something new for the first time without knowing what to expect.

I'm not gonna lie I am a quitter very often, but I always come back, but I just don't have any expectation of when things will start showing a sign of life,  I know once it does it will change dramatically for sure, but I feel like incapable sometimes. Should I just have some more faith on the process that sooner or later it will work out?

[Moltosha Shadow]

There is nothing wrong with taking breaks as needed. Celebrate what progress you make and if needed, write down what happened so you can more easily remember what you did.