Wasted opportunities

[TB]

Did I make this thread before? I don't know. Hope I didn't.

 

Anywho, I have this issue where I will spend a lot of time talking to myself, then suddenly remember oh, Rena exists. Why didn't I just talk to her all this time? It's really annoying and makes me not include Rena in as much things as she could. Trouble breaking this habit my habit to talk to myself is just too strong

[Guest]

I feel like if you can strengthen Rena's presence first, then it'll be easier. Enough to actually have her listen to you without you having to remember her. I was like that before too but uh, I guess my tulpa became relevant enough that remembering to do stuff with her was my normal, no, actually, I didn't even have to remember. Perhaps Rena isn't relevant enough to you? (sorry if this sounds rude, it isn't my intention)

 

Maybe you can set up ''presence triggers'', what I mean by this (I just made it up) is associate stuff to her so upon seeing this ''trigger'', you remember her. And once you have become aware of her presence, focus all your self talk to her.

[TurboSimmie]

You need to catch yourself as often as you can when talking to yourself and deliberately focus on talking to Rena instead rather than yourself! You can use aids to help you, like a piece of jewelry that you associate Rena or something like that that keeps her in your mind more often! Believe it or not Phil still does talk to himself at points, and I step in and say "Hey, you're talking to yourself again, talk to me instead! 😁" I don't know if Rena is active and/or assertive enough to do that herself, but I would recommend that for her!

 

Like any habit this takes practice. Just keep doing it and eventually your default mindset will shift from "talk to myself" to "talk to Rena!" 😊

[Guest]

Often when I'm talking to myself, when I remember, I ask for one or more of my headmates to join me. Then the party really starts.

[Slipper]

   I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with taking time to talk to yourself, as you still deserve to have private time even if you're a host. But the easiest way to talk to your tulpa more is to do stuff with them. Sit down and watch a show/play a game with the intention of commenting or discussing it together. Anything that gets you guys focused on each other.

[Lucilyn]

just gotta hold the intention to talk to her more often until it becomes a habit

 

I agree with Simmie

 

we think stuff alone way more often than we talk to each other, but we always make sure to include someone on anything fun, interesting, engaging or relevant to their interests
(for example, playing Slime Rancher 2 for the first time today, I made sure to share the joy of filling our ranch with bunny slimes with Lumi)

[TB]

I almost forgot I made this tthread.

 

Thanks for the replies. Hmm. Yeah there is an inherent joy to talking to myself. Once I remember Rena I feel like I can't think of anything to talk about suddenly. It's hard and I don't know why that happens. Like remembering Rena just ends the conversation. sigh. I'm really bad at talking to my tulpa for extended periods of time

[Stardog System]

hey, lol. i have the same issue (and my tulpa has the same name), so let me know if you find a solution to the problem (i just thought it was cool that our tulpas are so similar). Right now the best thing I can do is tie a thread on my finger and whenever I see it I remember to say hi to Rena.

[Moon Voilo]

Most tulpas can come to the front without the host first calling them, maybe you could practice that skill with your tulpa.

Bewarned it can be annoying, just ask my host lmfao /lh

[TB]

What is proper practice? To post in this thread again or make a new one? I had a thought.

 

If I am "talking to myself" for an extended period of time but then assume Rena was there hearing me anyway, does it count towards vocalization training to her? Or does it have to be deliberate the whole way through? Sorry if I shouldn't have posted here

 

Also cool MaybeMinthe that we have tulpas with the same name. I meant to quote you so you'd maybe see this but I already posted it and don't know how to do that when editing.

Edited April 28, 2023 by TB