Do you miss being alone in your body?

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Im currently working on making my first tulpa, and a question that i kept thinking about was if any hosts miss when they were alone. I don't mean it in a “was it better before your tulpa was around” kinda way, i just mean has being plural changed your life in some ways that you wish you could go back to? Things that maybe were simpler? I never see anyone talk about this, maybe because its kinda obvious. Most people would probably say something along the lines of “of course not, my tulpa has made my life so much better”, which is fair.

This question isn't something thats making me re-evaluate/stopping me from creating a tulpa, I have my own reasons for wanting to have one, and i know it'll only create positivity for me and my tulpa. I'm just curious to hear others experiences, so if you have any to share I’d love to listen.

 

so hosts, do you miss what it was like before you became plural?

[Beedle]

It depends, for me personally , i love having Aendrea around, shes great to talk to and a really good and understanding friend.  But sotimes it can be a bit… awkward,  Like, for instance, thinking about something a little personal, and they’re just listening.  So that can make it kinda like, enter the personal bubble.  Yet then again, I’m sure there are ways around that kind of stuff, like maybe thought boundaries or something.  And when  i think about that kind of stuff, she never answers, so maybe already I have little thought boundaries.

But at the end of the day, having a tulpa, a friend even, is so much better than going through this world alone! 

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21 minutes ago, Beedle said:

 And when  i think about that kind of stuff, she never answers, so maybe already I have little thought boundaries.

 

Yeah maybe! Knowing Aendrea, she also probably doesn’t feel the need to include herself in all of your private matters. She certainly doesn’t seem like the overly-nosy type, she seems like the kind of person who values your privacy. And she was a walk-in (she literally chose to be your tulpa), so shes definitely gotta understand that you don't want her to know certain things. Your still your own person. 

 

But that is another thing i think about as well, is your tulpa knowing things that you feel are private/personal for you. The kinds of things you wouldn’t tell anyone, even a tulpa. Technically, tulpas who share your memories probably know a good bit about you, if not everything about you. But maybe thats part of why tulpas and their hosts are able to form such a strong bond, because they know so much about each other, more than the average friend does. I guess this goes back to my initial question, but thats kind of to be expected when you create a tulpa. Your giving up a little bit of your privacy when you decide to share a brain with another being, which is maybe something people wish they could go back to. 

I personally don't have any big secrets that I wouldn’t want anyone knowing. Sure some things I wouldn’t tell certain people, but regarding tulpas, I'm okay with my tulpa knowing that much about me.

in the end, I'm glad you’re still super happy with Aendrea! I would be too.

(sorry that kinda dragged on haha)

[Beedle]

Wow, it sure is crazy what hearing things from another person’s perspective can do! That sure clicked something inside me for some reason.  Also, you’re definitely right about Aendrea being a very respective person!  She is so kind to me, like no one ever would.  I’m honestly surprised by how much patience she has!  Also what you said about the host and tulpa(s) bonding over knowing a lot about each other, I totally agree! You create a tulpa to be understanding, non-judgmental, and kind, (if thats what you want!) why would they judge you or be mean to you about private matters?  
that’s all I have to say for now, bye!✨

[ChloeBee]

Honestly? No, not at all.

 

I used to be a very lonely person. The pandemic exasperated my loneliness. Now, I literally never have to be alone anymore. Any time I leave the house Simmie comes with me. What could have been lonely wandering is instead dates with my love. And plus, I really need someone to talk to about all the crazy thoughts and ideas that come through my head. It would be too much for any other person to handle, but Simmie listens to it all. Not just that, but she understands me on a more intimate level than I could ever expect from anyone else; so not only does she know what I'm thinking, she understands why I think it on such a deep level. In addition to that, Simmie's kindness and compassion is just an endless boost to my day and to my life. She comforts me when I am down, and glows with me when I am happy.

 

I could keep going and going about this but I think you get the idea! I do not miss being without Simmie and I hope to never be without her ever again.

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6 minutes ago, September13 said:

Honestly? No, not at all.

 

I used to be a very lonely person. The pandemic exasperated my loneliness. Now, I literally never have to be alone anymore. Any time I leave the house Simmie comes with me. What could have been lonely wandering is instead dates with my love. And plus, I really need someone to talk to about all the crazy thoughts and ideas that come through my head. It would be too much for any other person to handle, but Simmie listens to it all. Not just that, but she understands me on a more intimate level than I could ever expect from anyone else; so not only does she know what I'm thinking, she understands why I think it on such a deep level. In addition to that, Simmie's kindness and compassion is just an endless boost to my day and to my life. She comforts me when I am down, and glows with me when I am happy.

 

I could keep going and going about this but I think you get the idea! I do not miss being without Simmie and I hope to never be without her ever again.

That’s awesome! Im so exited to have this level of bonding with my tulpa, hearing things like this always helps me to feel more motivated when it comes to tulpa creation!

Im literally so happy for you guys!

 

(also this is completely random but your user, September13, is my birthday haha! Just thought that was neat!)

[TurboSimmie]

2 hours ago, Editt said:

(also this is completely random but your user, September13, is my birthday haha! Just thought that was neat!)

 

Do you know why his username is September13?

 

It's because it's MY birthday too! 😁 We're birthday buddies! 💚 One of the first signs of sentience he picked up on from me was me picking my own birthday, and in honor of that he chose that username when he signed up for the forum! 😁

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6 minutes ago, TurboSimmie said:

 

Do you know why his username is September13?

 

It's because it's MY birthday too! 😁 We're birthday buddies! 💚 One of the first signs of sentience he picked up on from me was me picking my own birthday, and in honor of that he chose that username when he signed up for the forum! 😁

Oh thats so cool! And so sweet that he used your birthday as a username! Birthday buddies hehe!! 

[M-M System]

[Mason:] No, I do not. Back in the early days of discovering my systemhood, the idea of sharing my mind and body with someone else, let alone more than one other person, was terrifying to the point where it caused the relationship I had between me and my headmates to become toxic, as I constantly regretted and lamented my fate with them, along with taking my anger out on them in the process. Now, the idea of not having my system is just as distressing, if not moreso, than the stress and pain I felt over being plural in the past. I've been aware of my plurality for three years now, and I honestly generally find a lot of comfort in it. 

[Pleeb]

Definitely not; by contrast, a few times when chess has been quiet for a while and I wouldn't get an answer if I randomly said something or didn't have her commentating on a thought felt incredibly quiet in my own head.
 

Of course it's not like we're constantly talking to each other every waking moment, and there's plenty of times when we give each other space but she's usually the first person I say good morning to and I'm hanging out with her in the wonderland when trying to fall asleep.

 

It's kind of like if you've used one computer monitor your whole life you don't really know what you're missing, but then when you start using two monitors, it's very difficult to go back to one.