Personal Concern About Unwanted Thoughts and Form Creation

[Dervich]

I've started creating my tulpa today and I'm wanting to start with personality work, though I believe it'd be best to have a form to help her develop. At this point it is not hers directly as I haven't given it to much thought, though I'm having concerns about some unwanted thoughts. I'm an adolescent male and as for me it seems that my intrusive thoughts want to follow the stereotype of guys my age being the horny idiot. Not to proud of myself wanting to admit this as this is something that has stayed private, though it seems these thoughts as of late are beginning to put a pressure on the back my left hand.

 

It's more provocative than sexual and I'm feeling concerned that it will affect her in the long run if I have her become attached to that form. I hope I'm not the only one who has some sort of problem like this as It'd be nice if someone has had experience dealing with this sort of issue.

[QB2]

Just give her whatever and let her change what she wants later. It's not a big thing.

[Chupi]

Considering the average age range here, and that most people here are making opposite-gendered tulpae who are mostly attractive, you're hardly alone. I'm 27 and had similar issues, and I know that simply "putting it out of your mind" isn't really feasible. One suggestion is to relieve said urges before forcing. The only other possibility I can think of is to make her something you aren't attracted to in the slightest. (But then she may well deviate herself into something you find attractive. Or you may become attracted to whatever she is, due to the emotions she will give off.)

 

As for keeping thoughts private from her, my suggestion is to at least explain things to her. She will almost certainly eventually see these thoughts, so better to talk to her about it so you can influence what she'll think about it. Else she'll find it on her own later and draw her own conclusions. IMO less repressed stuff is better between yourself and your tulpa.

[Frosty]

IMO less repressed stuff is better between yourself and your tulpa.

 

This.

 

Just explain to her what's up. That's what I did, tulpae are pretty understanding about stuff in general.

 

I still try to keep that stuff out of my mind though, since it isn't really productive and depending on her opinion of it, there'll be plenty of time for that stuff later.

[Kindofajerk]

Don't forget if you finish the process successfully, you and your tulpa will be together for a long while. Might as well go for something easy on the eyes.

[GhostWriter]

Pretty much what everyone has said, but don't be afraid to explain things to her. If you're frustrated or nervous about something or the thoughts you're having, let her know. Lexi's told me she appreciated me explaining all the doubts or fears I had about my own thoughts. It made her more aware of whatever was going on. I'm sure she'll feel a bit more at ease if you express any fears or doubts you have about yourself and explain them to her.

[Chupi]

Yeah, explain these worries to her. She has complete empathy with you and will understand. It sure beats leaving her in the dark and letting her worry about what might be bothering you and why you're "weird" around her.

[SSaint]

Masturbating before forcing solved my problems with this, mostly.

[Dervich]

Thank you all for the advice, I really appreciate it! These definitely sounds like a good solution, I'll be going over this with her later tonight when I'm forcing personality.