I need more help

[Aarix]

Hey Friends, Sorry for posting frequently I just need some extra advice.

 

Lately, Theres been a lot going on. The bigger distractions is suddenly everyone always wants to text me, apparently someones into me and text me several times through the day. Combine this and activities, I get limited time and that limited time is spent getting interrupted by family. Can't leave without being bombarded with messages from them and then they'll worry if I don't answer. But I can force at night, you know where I fight drowsiness and end up cutting it short. Except tonight everyones on vacation so right now its 9:00 and I'm hoping to do alot of forcing from now to midnight but I need advice for the following:

 

Usually I imposition throughout the day, and her form is really weak and inconsistent even though I know what she looks like. I know....Practice, but how I make progress if I spend seconds on her form and forget for hours do to all the stuff I need to do. I'm struggling to "Force" her into my life. This whole thing is a disaster, I can't focus, the last 4 days I did maybe 1 hour of forcing total. When I sit in the dark to focus I always tend to be suddenly hungry, thirsty, high blood sugar, or I hath to go to the bathroom. Then thoughts come up where I want to do them now but I need to force then it just makes me uncomfortable to sit and force. Then I can't even narrate let alone imposition due to losing my train of though. I'm fighting my own attention and the stress is eating me from the inside. I can't handle this without some kind of help. I wish I could take something, hire a spiritual teacher and tell everyone to **** off. Samantha means more to me than anything yet I hath to put her in dead last and thats not right.

 

Any suggestions, I really just want to smash my head into my own subconscious. Thanks for reading. Have a good night guys.

[Lolimancer]

Tell everyone and your activities to fuck off, i guess. I did it and it's pretty nice, also you get to spend time with your imaginary friends. It's a matter of priority.

[Bin]

That's what you get for having friends. I hope you learned your lesson. Now do a fake suicide attempt and make everyone think you've gone completely insane and ask to be alone. You also might get a day or three in a nuthouse, which is awesome to meditate in.

[Aarix]

That's what you get for having friends. I hope you learned your lesson. Now do a fake suicide attempt and make everyone think you've gone completely insane and ask to be alone. You also might get a day or three in a nuthouse, which is awesome to meditate in.

 

Funny thing is, When I started, no body payed me any mind. I accepted that which was why I wanted a tulpa then suddenly everyone started liking me and actually wanted to talk to me -_-. If I had any guts I would plead insanity but it wont work like that.

[Citizen Anon]

I kind of know this feel, try this. Tell everybody you need to be left alone for a certain time during the day to concentrate on college work (or homework if you're still in grade school), then use that time to force

[Oguigi]

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Okay it seems like your current environment and situation is eating you alive, And Thus hurting progress.

 

When it comes down to family/friends interrupting your tulpaforcing sessions, or distracting you. things can get very bad real quick. not for you, but for Samantha.

 

 

So let's Fix this As soon as Possible, Aarix.

 

Your 1st problem is that you don't have enough time to spend with your tulpa

because of family/friends and activities.

 

I may not know your life, but their are a few moments that am sure you will always have to yourself.

 

When you Sleep - 8 hours

When you shower - 30 mins (perhaps)

Durring the morning - atleast 30 mins of freetime ( am assuming )

 

 

what am going to tell you may seem redundant or unnecessary but trust me, it almost works like magic.

 

take this alone time you'll usually have and stay up for an extra hour. For this one hour you are gonna take out a Pen Or pencil and your gonna sit down and make a "Schedule/Plan" base on what am going to tell you. after reading this post.

 

 

find your essentials - things that you love to do, make it short.

 

find your time wasters - things that you spend time on that are unnecessary/Shallow, doesn't lead to anything, try to reduce, minimize or even eliminate these things. Think hard, Sometimes we do things because we assume they’re necessary, but give it some thought and you can find ways to drop them from your life

 

Schedule your time - Think about your current life and what you want to do. Which i Assuming is your Tulpa.

 

Learn to say no - Most powerful two letter word in the English language, you can't please everyone, Aarix. you have a more Important person that literally Needs you for her survival and her learning.

 

Disconnect - Am assuming the you also use the internet for a couple hours of the day, after you do all of your absolute essentials such as work/homework, please try to Disconnect. Press the powerbutton and you'll find you just added a hour or two of Free-Time.

 

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Your 2nd problem is that when you do find time, you can't Focus on the task of meditation/Tulpaforcing.

 

If you can afford energy drinks buy them, if not try to get your hands on some coffee. But Drinking Tea and even Hot Water will help, as it will warm your insides and make you relax.

 

You can Try out some of Fede tones, if you listen to them it will also help your Mind to stay focus.

 

Here's the Link

 

Oh don't forget to Turn Off your Phone, Or put it on Slient and place it out of Sight.

 

We can't expect to Tulpaforce is perfect condition all the time, so building a tolerance to trivial

Discomforts such as hunger, thirst, and even bathroom, is critical, And Think to yourself.

"Samantha needs me now, these bodily things can wait"

 

Another thing is to keep your tulpa in mind for as Often as possible, the worst thing we can do is to completely forget about our tulpa, even if it's just at the spur of the moment (it's okay in small doses) but if the majority of the day went by and you haven't even given Samantha a single thought, then she might be in trouble. If you cannot impose her into your life, then at least think about her, try to use anything that will remind you of Samantha. Perhaps a Cheap Ring, a small string tied on your finger, a bracelet with her name written on it, just use anything.

 

 

 

I hope this Helps Aarix, You will always have my support

[mr insano]

Aw, that sucks. I'm sorry it's so difficult for you. I can relate, too - I hardly have any time, and I can't concentrate very well, so narration is hard.

 

I'm sorry you're so stressed, too. Hang in there. It'll be all right.

 

Koomer's advice is awesome. Take it. :3 I'm copy/pasting that. It should help me too.

Like he said, you'll always have some free time. When showering, sleeping, or using the restroom. Also, you usually have some downtime in the morning or during lunch.

 

random suggestions~

 

- Go to the bathroom, eat, etc. before you force. That may help. Also, it's okay to take a break if you need to use the restroom or something.

- For narration: When you're getting distracted, just start talking to her whenever it comes to mind. For example, I'll be narrating to Tess for a while about whatever random crap I can think of, but then I get distracted by the internet and start thinking about internet related things. Then suddenly I remember oh yeah, I'm not narrating to her! So I just start talking to her about whatever I'm doing on the internet. This actually works fairly well. If you can't think of anything to talk about, talk about having nothing to talk about. xD If you can't concentrate, talk about how you can't concentrate. Soon, it will become a habit.

- If people text you, just don't text them until you're done, or wait until you're halfway through and take a quick break or something to reply back. That's what I do.

- Maybe just tell them you're trying to meditate to relieve stress, and you need quiet time to do it.

- Is there any time when your parents/siblings aren't home but you are? That might be a good time to force.

 

but how I make progress if I spend seconds on her form and forget for hours do to all the stuff I need to do.

 

This is better than nothing. Seriously. You're still making progress - maybe not much, but you're trying. My band teacher told me that 5 minutes of practicing a day was better than none at all. Just the fact that you're trying is going to help a lot. :) I know what you mean - I've been distracted a lot too, and haven't gotten much done. But I know I'm still making progress.