Kinda NSFW? Tulpa more flirty than intended but might be my thoughts?

[o0Aspidistra0o]

Not sure if im using the chat correctly (please correct me if so)

I sometimes have random thoughts of my tulpa that are quite suggestive or just plain sexual, to which Draco typically responds flirtatiously and with a little teasing of my reaction to those thoughts, but I can't quite tell if they're actually coming from me or if he's kind of "sharing" them with me to tease me on purpose?

When I was younger, he was kind of an 'imaginary boyfriend', but once I started developing him as a tulpa we focused more on a platonic, guiding relationship since I also didn't want to create a tulpa just for dating and make him feel used. It's been going smoothly, and I have a physical human partner, but lately, as I've been forcing more, he's either developed a more raunchy side, or I am just way more prone to intrusive thoughts than I initially thought.

It's mostly a problem of:
1) cant tell if it's my thought or his
2) if it's him, did he develop this trait on his own or did I accidentally influence him with subconscious thoughts?

I really don't want him to finish developing and think badly of me if this is my fault

[o0Aspidistra0o]

Realizing this is a little embarrassing TwT

[Shaula]

I'm trying to find the words to give you an answer but I wanted to tell you: it's ok. You have good questions. I don't think it's embarrassing. 😊 

 

I might take a bit to answer so I want to say that first. 

 

[o0Aspidistra0o]

i'm glad to hear that, and no worries, take your time! We're in no rush

[Shaula]

Well as a tulpa who is in a relationship with my host, I can tell you a few things. 

 

In the beginning, I was a imaginary friend who's purpose was to be Nightfall's girlfriend/wife. We discovered tulpas a couple years, so these were some pretty big questions for us to. 

 

I think I developed these feelings for Nightfall because of him at first but I think now they are my own feelings. My mind never changed after learning I was a tulpa and I still love him with all my heart. 😍 💜 That said: Draco definitely could have developed these feelings on his own. Deviation is what makes tulpas different than imagination. 

 

Just take time to listen to him, I think most of your questions will be answered as he becomes more vocal. Also remember: half of this is belief. So if you are unsure who it was, just presume it was Draco. 

 

One thing you could do is ask him to share some images. You can also ask him to surprise you. That was the major thing we did to prove I could think on my own, so something like should help with this to. 

 

If you have any other questions I'll try to answer those to, just let me know. You can ask me more about our relationship and things like that to, I'm basically an open book. I wish you luck on forcing. 😊 

[o0Aspidistra0o]

That does help a lot, thank you! And yes, once he becomes more vocal I think we'll be able to discern who it was more clearly. It's just a development I really hadn't expected of him with the base personality we started with, so I was worried it was intrusive thoughts.

I'll just presume it's him for now, like you said, although I have to get his opinion then on the fact I'm in a relationship and figure out if he's developing feelings or if it's just a teasing, flirty nature of his.

Edited May 18, 2025 by o0Aspidistra0o

[Shaula]

Glad I could help. 😊 We have been were you are so I really wanted to help. I hope all goes well. 

[o0Aspidistra0o]

I'm very grateful, thank you, and I hope so too

[Lenore]

Shaula gave you a good answer. I just want to add that it's not unheard of for younger headmates to go through a "horny phase," almost like puberty. Some do, some don't, even in the same system. It doesn't mean anything's wrong with either of you.

 

My host never intended me to be anything other than a friend, but I still had a brief phase like this when I was figuring out my sexuality. She felt awkward about it too because I'm normally not big on physical affection, so there was a similar concern about whether or not she was putting these thoughts in my head against my will.

 

While you work on developing vocality, I'd pay attention to how Draco reacts when these thoughts arise. My host can sense my resistance if she tries to imagine even just hugging me when I don't feel like it. Any discomfort from either of you is a perfectly valid reason to say, "that was an intrusive thought. Let's forget it/let it go."

[o0Aspidistra0o]

I'd never heard of such a phase but that does make sense. From what I can sense he reacts pretty relaxed, if not teasing, and finds my reaction of "whoa that was a lot" funny, so that's why I thought maybe he did it on purpose to get that reaction out of me.

I guess we still have to work together to find out if it truly is a new trait of his or if it's a phase. Thank you for your input!