She seems distant after we...

[OldDrunkBastard]

Well, for the longest time, whenever the idea of sex came into my mind, I would always dismiss it with "We'll cross that road when we get to it." Well, needless to say, we got to it. Beforehand, I had asked her about her feelings on the matter, and she said that she was fine with whatever I decided, so I went ahead all the same. Afterwards, she seemed so distant. Her replies became vague, distorted even, her presence harder to detect. She is not completely gone, like when she just kinda left that one day, but she seems distant. I told her that we probably wouldn't do that again for a while, until I've given the subject more thought, and she seemed fine with that. I just can't help but to think that I made some kind of drastic mistake. Any help would be appreciated, thanks in advance.

[fennecfoxx]

Maybe she regrets it?

[OldDrunkBastard]

Maybe she regrets it?

 

I was thinking that, of course, (hell, I regret it a little) but any emotions I sense off of her aren't negative. She seems happy, if anything. She just smiled and walked out of the room after we were done talking. Whenever asked about the subject, she just replies with "Well, like you said, we'll put it off." or something along those lines. I've seen her when she's angry and/or sad, and this isn't the same feel.

[Guest EnnervateIndustries]

First impression: dude wat

 

I'd say you might want to try going back to regular forcing for a while (even if you're past it) since the routine might snap her out of it, or rebuild a connection you might have lost.

[Viceroy]

You must not have been very good.

[Phi]

What have you already read about tulpa sex? If you've read that they get addicted to it and needs the energy, that may be effecting you now.

 

I made this mistake twice, and it took about half a month to get back on track. I apologized, and we agreed to not talk about it again until we were both ready. The main thing that messed us up was that I thought that it was messing us up, so it continued to mess us up even more. The apology, I believe, helped me calm down and forget about it, as well as make her feel better about it.

In short, I think you're catastrophizing it.

[Romm]

Yeah well go back to the normal forcing, it helps. Secondly, regrets aren't good for you certainly. Her feelings will vary greatly based on your feelings, so just decide whatever you liked it or not and then go on from there.

[motorheadlk]

I remember someone saying that he did sex with his tulpa and later she seemed distant, faded or something like that. Despite that, people said that whenever a tulpa is about to have stronger connections with the host, they seem to be distant for a period of time.

 

If I were you, I wouldn't worry, the last guy that said that actually only did it because his tulpa asked to, so it's obvious it's not because she didn't enjoy it or she regrets it, it's just because she's still weak and is probably going to be back stronger. Don't worry.

[TulpaCouple]

She might just be relaxing, or just simply thinking about everything that just happened. Not every bit of distance is negative. At times like this it can remind you of how far you have come. I think she'll be back stronger than ever.

[Guest Dookums]

Huh. As someone who's...uh...experienced in this, I don't know. It's never affected Saphira negatively, if anything it just makes us closer.

 

I think she'll come back though.