Tulpaforcing with constant disruptions...

[GuessWho]

I'm hoping some of you may know of a way to help me with this problem.

 

Here Goes...

 

I live with my family (4 people) and they don't seem to be capable of leaving me alone.

Whenever anyone else is at home, I can't even get 20 minutes alone without being disrupted. (Almost all the time - my parents often work from home and my brother is on an extended holiday.)

It's a huge problem for me as someone always breaks my concentration as soon as I get it to the required level for tulpaforcing.

I try to narrate to her throughout the day, but without the tulpaforcing sessions, I am unable to sense her presence and it feels like I am just talking to myself.

 

I already have a sentient (non-vocal) tulpa, which I created last year December and I am not willing to give up on her.

(Everyone else had enough of their own things to do in the holiday season to forget about me for a while.)

It feels like she is in a 'frozen' state: At present, I am just able to give her enough attention to keep her from disappearing, but she is not developing either.

 

TL;DR: I already have a tulpa, but due to constant disruptions from other family members, I can't get a (much needed) good tulpaforcing session in.

 

Any solutions?

[redmagebr]

I'm hoping some of you may know of a way to help me with this problem.

 

Here Goes...

 

I live with my family (4 people) and they don't seem to be capable of leaving me alone.

Whenever anyone else is at home, I can't even get 20 minutes alone without being disrupted. (Almost all the time - my parents often work from home and my brother is on an extended holiday.)

It's a huge problem for me as someone always breaks my concentration as soon as I get it to the required level for tulpaforcing.

I try to narrate to her throughout the day, but without the tulpaforcing sessions, I am unable to sense her presence and it feels like I am just talking to myself.

 

I already have a sentient (non-vocal) tulpa, which I created last year December and I am not willing to give up on her.

(Everyone else had enough of their own things to do in the holiday season to forget about me for a while.)

It feels like she is in a 'frozen' state: At present, I am just able to give her enough attention to keep her from disappearing, but she is not developing either.

 

TL;DR: I already have a tulpa, but due to constant disruptions from other family members, I can't get a (much needed) good tulpaforcing session in.

 

Any solutions?

Wake up earlier.

 

Like 4 in the morning or something.

 

This will give you a good excuse to going to bed earlier, too. Which might end up giving you two spaces of time to force at, if your family has manners.

 

 

 

I know it's easier said than done, though. I was doing just this when I started and after I "lost" my hours ONCE I haven't got back to being able to sleep and wake up on time ever since. (Though I have had many problems with sleeping in general since ever, so maybe normal people can have it easier)

 

Forcing at 4 AM right after waking up, with everyone sleeping, silence everywhere and no lights... Perfect.

 

 

 

People might also be very understanding if you just say it's simple meditation. And anyone with manners will not disturb you if you ask them not to (and "I'm going to meditate" should be enough in those cases).

[GuessWho]

Wake up earlier.

Like 4 in the morning or something.

Thanks for the response.

I'm not a morning person. I'm incredibly miserable at that time of the morning.

I'm going to try it anyway.

 

...and "I'm going to meditate" should be enough in those cases...

I'm not sure what they'd think of that. They're not very open-minded.

I'd probably hear endless complaints about how I'm wasting my time. Especially since I'm supposed to be studying for exams.

I currently try to merge tulpaforcing sessions with study sessions.

I get a bit more peace, but Murphy's Law, I'll get bugged only at the most inconvenient times.

 

...anyone with manners will not disturb you if you ask them not to...

Their thinking is that it's fine to take just a minute of my time in a hour when they need help with something. (and it sometimes is.)

The problem is that that minute often coincidentally lands up at the exact moment when I least want to give it.

Even if I decline, my concentration was broken and I waste a few minutes getting it back.

It feels like whenever I hear my name, I get forcibly pulled out of wonderland and back into the real world.

Same Happens when I sleep - I could be in the middle of a warzone and not wake up, but the moment someone calls my name, it's all over.

I just wish I could fully disconnect from my senses.

 

I will definitely try the early morning thing.

Even if it doesn't suit me, I'm at the point where I may have no other choice.

 

If anyone else has more suggestions, please keep them coming. I need all the help I can get right now.

[CyberD]

I'll try to give answering this a go since no one else seems to be.

 

The whole frozen thing sounds like the first problem you need to fix. The tulpa process comes down to belief. If you believe your tulpa is frozen then you aren't going to make any progress at all. Sit down with your tulpa and unfreeze it, do whatever it takes to make yourself believe that your tulpa is there with you, that it can move about and can hear your input and narration.

 

Distractions are a problem for a lot of people and not just for things tulpa related. You need to learn to ignore them or resolve them quickly without losing your focus. There isn't really much advice anyone can give there, just recognize the distractions as they come and deal with them without forgetting what you were doing.

 

Use your time alone to learn how your tulpa's presence feels. Focus on it and get used to it quickly or you're never going to get through your distractions. If you work enough with your tulpa you'll find their presence can be quickly called upon and will persist even when you're distracted by something else.

 

Once you're used to this try to bring your tulpa out of the wonderland. There is no sense keeping it there exclusively if you can't even go there. Put the tulpa in the chair next to you and focus on it instead of wasting your limited concentration on generating and maintaining a visual of your wonderland. Not all tulpaforcing is done with a wonderland and not all tulpaforcing is done during a meditation like state.

 

Only when you can convince yourself that your tulpa is unfrozen can you make any progress at all. Get over your distractions. Apply so more focus and keep narrating during the day.

 

Quick version:

Unfreeze

Ignore distractions

Passive forcing without a wonderland

[Ginyu]

TL;DR: I already have a tulpa, but due to constant disruptions from other family members, I can't get a (much needed) good tulpaforcing session in.

 

Any solutions?

Wow, oh how I know that feel...

I've had the same problems as you (ok, I still do), but managing them shouldn't be too hard. Redmagebr is right, waking up earlier or staying up later is something I've had to teach/force myself how to do. Sure, it sucks getting up at some ungodly hour for a forcing session, but you'll be chillin' with your tulpa, so it's worth it.

 

Also, CyberD hit the nail on the head with that advice. Belief and learning to ignore or focus more intently on things is an important skill for any tulpamancer.

[GuessWho]

The whole frozen thing sounds like the first problem you need to fix....

When I say frozen, I'm referring to the progress - I have been unable to give her enough attention to progress further, but the little bit that I did manage to give her has at least prevented her from dissipating. (There is no progress - forward or backwards)

 

Still, I will try everything you said. It's been a while since I've had a good tulpaforcing session, so at this stage I'm willing to do whatever it takes to get one in.

[cruse]

You should have a go with imposition.

 

Imposition is when you bring your tulpa out like what cyberD said. Eventhough distraction can cause your tulpa to 'phase out', soon you'll cope.

 

Imposition is also easier than a normal forcing if there's a constant distraction IMO.

 

Your tulpa is also sentient already, therefore, go impose.

[Aarix]

Biggest, problem, of my life. This has been brought up in my PR for so long. It honestly is crippling, worst of all you hath to hold back the feeling to snap at them as they didn't know what you were doing. Even with a lock they would just assume you were doing something you don't want them to assume you were doing.

[Guest EnnervateIndustries]

If you are able to, try going to bed an hour (or something) early, and spend the time you gain forcing. If you do it right, it should be impossible to distinguish between sleeping and forcing. If questioned, just claim you were feeling chronically tired and needed more sleep.

 

I know some people say forcing before going to sleep is bad, but I did exactly that and I had no problems.

[ThatOneGuy]

Is there potentially any other place you could go to relax in the area and be able to concentrate for long periods of time? Potentially a park or somewhere out in the country? I've found such places out in nature to help me keep my focus tuned to whatever I'm doing.