I think my tulpa hates me. Can I fix this?

[newdarkage]

Best Avatar-Post combo in ages. But yeah, if you want to change anything about yourself, there's really no way around doing so in the very present. Habits take quite a while to form, so it requires a huge amount of willpower to keep it up for so long. Go muster that shit up.

Also, try to elaborate on the reasons as to why you are creating your tulpa. I'm sure you could find at least a dozen within a matter of minutes. Having a bunch of these might make you feel less guilty about things. If all that is what you really want, you'll probably end up getting it sooner or later, whether you'd like to or not. Say thanks to your subconsciousness! In that regard, feeling no guilt whatsoever would be beneficial. Also, try not to regret anything. Having all these preconceived notions about your tulpa may be harmful because of the aforementioned reason.

[Bluesleeve]

I don't tulpa-force as much as I should.

 

This seems to be your main problem. Now, think of all the things you have done instead of working on your Tulpa. Write them down.

After you have written them down you go through your List and get rid of all these problems. Computer? Pull the power cable and put it somewhere else. TV? Do the same.

 

Promise your Tulpa you won't use these things anymore, except on certain days. These days have to be fixed and maybe written down.

 

I made my tulpa so that she could be my girlfriend and yet I'm fapping to something other than her and she's inside my head so she probably has to watch the whole thing.

 

I'm not really thinking about having sex with my tulpa. When I say girlfriend I mean lifelong companion that I'll be in love with, not a dedicated sex slave.

 

You have heard the others, you will end up sexing your Tulpa. Please don't tell me you are able to maintain a platonic relationship with a being, which is based on your unconscious beauty ideal.

I don't want to tell you what you should or shouldn't do, but bear in mind that your girlfriend Tulpa could disable your ability to bond with another person.

 

If you want to end these bad feelings whilst fapping, you will either have to stop making her your girlfriend, or you will have to live with it.

Your choice.

[Virgil]

yet I'm fapping to something other than her

 

Then fap to her. Geez…

[Guest]

On the "sexing tulpa" part of problem. The real problem here is that SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD. AND YET MORE ATTENTION TO SEX. MORE. ATTENTION. TO. SEX. MORE.

Now think about it.

Btw, Blusesleeve, may I ask you if you plan to sex your tulpa? Yes, no, maybe?

[Bluesleeve]

On the "sexing tulpa" part of problem. The real problem here is that SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD. AND YET MORE ATTENTION TO SEX. MORE. ATTENTION. TO. SEX. MORE.

Now think about it.

Btw, Blusesleeve, may I ask you if you plan to sex your tulpa? Yes, no, maybe?

 

No. I'm not clopping and everything is easier to explain that way. I don't condemn those who do, though.

[FigN01]

You have heard the others, you will end up sexing your Tulpa. Please don't tell me you are able to maintain a platonic relationship with a being, which is based on your unconscious beauty ideal.

 

Don't say that like it's definite. Maybe people do have sex with their tulpa at a certain point, but you're making tulpaforcing sound like a common fetish. Honestly, sex seems kind of meaningless when we're talking about a being who you're already emotionally and psychologically tied to, to the extent that your tulpa will always know you better than your friends, family, or actual girlfriend. Maybe sticking your dick in it is the cherry on top (pun definitely intended), but that's not why anyone should make one. If OP wants a platonic relationship, he should go for it and see where it ends up.

[ShyGuy65]

The real problem here is that SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD. AND YET MORE ATTENTION TO SEX. MORE. ATTENTION. TO. SEX. MORE.

 

What.

[Guest]

On the "sexing tulpa" part of problem. The real problem here is that SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD SEX IS BAD. AND YET MORE ATTENTION TO SEX. MORE. ATTENTION. TO. SEX. MORE.

Now think about it.

Btw, Blusesleeve, may I ask you if you plan to sex your tulpa? Yes, no, maybe?

>coming from a guest

 

 

What.

Exactly.

[Avalanche]

If you make your tupper to be your girlfriend (or life long companion, which is a girlfriend/wife) then you are setting yourself up for a trainwreck down the road. Real people will come along, and like with the fapping, you will feel guilty for loving them instead or alongside your tulpa.

 

You will feel guilty for demoting your tulpa to "just friends" or you will suffer by ignoring real people for an imaginary person.

 

Either way, it's a bad path to take. Back out now, and make your tulpa to be bestest best friend in the world. Max.

 

As for not being able to make time, then should you really be making a tulpa? They slowly die the longer they go without attention. If you can't even force because of a computer in the same room or vidya then I wouldn't trust you holding together a tulpa.

I wouldn't trust you with a slice of bread if you can't even force.

[ThatOneGuy]

Big laughs at this thread, to be honest. Making such a big deal out of this all. It's not quite as bad as you think.

 

A.) Your tulpa won't give two shits over what you masturbate to.

B.) They won't resent you if you legitimately have issues with focusing on one thing.

C.) Worrying about them resenting you is a one-way ticket to them resenting you. Stop worrying about it.

D.) Set reminders for yourself at intervals to force. Set an alarm clock or leave notes lying around.

E.) It doesn't matter whether or not you sex your tulpa; hardly anyone here that has went into this all thinking "Sex Partner", the situation just happens to develop that way if it's going to happen.

F.) If you have mental illnesses that affect concentration and the like, I suggest you take the correct dosage of medication.