Seebaru February 18, 2016 February 18, 2016 I searched in the General Discussion section as much as I could, and tried to look for a similar thread somewhere else, but I didn't find anything - so I'm just assuming this has never been asked before. I apologize in advance if this topic has been/is being discussed anywhere else. Let's say I have a friend who created a tulpa (note: this is just hypotetical!), and one day they tell me about the creation of their tulpa for the first time. How should I behave in that case? Don't get me wrong: I personally try to be as open-minded as I can, so I don't think I'd freak out, especially because I already gathered a lot of general information about tulpae. It's just that I don't want to start treating them differently from usual (for example, by talking too much about their tulpa), but I don't want to act as if nothing happened (by ignoring the presence of their tulpa). What is the behaviour that I should keep so that I don't get offensive towards them, and what should I avoid doing at all? It would be nice if you told me about how would you like other people to behave regarding this topic, and what would you dislike them doing/saying. (I'm very bad at writing in English, if you didn't understand what I mean, just tell me and I'll do my best explaining it better)
J.Iscariot February 18, 2016 February 18, 2016 What IS your opinion of tulpas, though? The idea answer anyone can 'give' you on a tulpa forum is that you should be kind and supportive of anyone who tells you about it. Partly because they trust you enough to share this part of their private lives with you, and partly because you mean THAT much to them so that they're telling you about it, and it's not easy to come out with that. That is typically how you're going to want to treat people. People are not actual 'people' in society, but more images, reflections of their selves that they try to 'mask'. In all cases, giving a good impression to that reflection implies being polite and nice about it. Therapists don't generally call bullshit on tulpas and headmates because they know that it's going to hurt their patients more than anything. I wouldn't like anyone talking of my tulpa, of tulpas, of headmates, of anything plurality aimed in my circle of 'friends'. Why, you may ask? Because you have two types of people, you have the average tulpamancer who has a tulpa, two tulpas.... shit, go for five or six, and you have the people who breathe and bleed plurality. Explaining it and trying to use their own perception of 'life' and 'reality' (and using terms like DID and DDNOS even tho they don't support them...) even though 90% of people don't know shit about the human mind and how it functions... I don't want to talk of tulpas in real life, because I believe tulpas shouldn't even be a thing. It would be much better if we just ditch the topic altogether and I'd act as if you never told me about it. I mean, I'd ask how your tulpa is doing every now and then. Just don't treat them differently. Treat them according to how they act. Don't venerate people, treat them for what they are. A wise man once said: 'Before judging a man, walk a mile in his shoes. After that, who cares? He's a mile away, and you've got new shoes.' Graced are those who could avoid this phenomenon. This is perhaps the worst expression of evil in humanity's history, but who am I to judge?
NoneFromHell February 18, 2016 February 18, 2016 If you don't want to treat him differently it is just fine, it is not like we're monsters or something. We have just additional nice people in our head. Neither do we want to be treated like special snowflakes. So, simply don't be all awkward about it. I think it may be nice if you would ask from time to time how things are going about this matter, so it doesn't appears like you don't care about it. But that's really all. For anything further you could ask himself how he wants to be treated. Tulpa: Alice Form: Realistic Humanoid/Demonic Creation She may or may not talk here, depends on her.
Luminesce February 18, 2016 February 18, 2016 In my own case, it's up to how involved my friends want to be. They all know I have tulpas, but they don't mention them at all unless I bring it up. So be it. But if I were actively talking about my tulpas, I'd expect at least a little investment on their part, because they're so important to me. And switching may be a thing too - a sort of borrowed phenomenon from plurality, tulpas may actually take the place of their host for varying amounts of time. In that case, if you're actually told about it, you should try and treat them like, you know, who they are. Not your friend pretending to be someone else. On the other hand, I never told my friends we switch, so I don't expect them to know. I guess just respond in a way appropriate to how much they actually share with you. Generally they'll probably mention their tulpa's thoughts on things or just greet you, so you could at least acknowledge that. Hi! I'm Lumi, host of Reisen, Tewi, Flandre and Lucilyn. Everyone deserves to love and be loved. It's human nature. My tulpas and I have a Q&A thread, which was the first (and largest) of its kind. Feel free to ask us about tulpamancy stuff there.
SparrowNR February 18, 2016 February 18, 2016 Chances are, if someone approaches you and tells you about their tulpa, it means they trust you. So first of all, feel great about that! A tulpa can be a pretty personal matter, so depending on the person, it probably took some courage to do that. If this does happen, just listen. Ask them questions if you have them; most tulpamancers understand that this is an obscure thing, and will explain anything you don't understand. Feel free to ask questions about the tulpa specifically, like what they look like, what they like to do, that sort of thing. If you want to address the tulpa, just ask; a lot of tulpas will be happy to be acknowledged by an outsider. :) (Some are shy, though, which is why you should ask first!) Really, just treat the person as you would normally. But feel free to check in on the tulpa or inquire after them later, or talk to them if that's what you all want to do! Also, it does stand to say that every tulpamancer is different. So a lot of that depends on who it is who's telling you. We're all people, so we have different preferences. The one thing I would avoid is using language that implies this is unhealthy, a disorder, or not a real phenomenon. Don't imply that it's just some sort of escape from reality. Don't imply that the tulpa is any less a person for having been created within someone's mind. Just... basically be a decent person to both tulpa and host. tl;dr: Just ask them, and be a nice person. Sparrow---Temar---Joss---Ayo--et al
Luminesce February 18, 2016 February 18, 2016 Chances are, if someone approaches you and tells you about their tulpa, it means they trust you. So first of all, feel great about that! A tulpa can be a pretty personal matter, so depending on the person, it probably took some courage to do that. If this does happen, just listen. Ask them questions if you have them; most tulpamancers understand that this is an obscure thing, and will explain anything you don't understand. The stuff in that quote is giving me serious deja vu, I swear I've seen those words almost one for one elsewhere. Especially the part on feeling good about being trusted, with an exclamation point. I dunno. It was something authoritative. So, that was a good post, good job. It really seems like a post I read a long time ago on the exact same subject.. Hi! I'm Lumi, host of Reisen, Tewi, Flandre and Lucilyn. Everyone deserves to love and be loved. It's human nature. My tulpas and I have a Q&A thread, which was the first (and largest) of its kind. Feel free to ask us about tulpamancy stuff there.
Guest Anonymous February 19, 2016 February 19, 2016 Well... hmm, it's up to you how to react to and feel about it. In our case... honestly, non-tuppermancers knowing about Esterina hasn't really been weird or anything at all. Three friends know, and my sister does. And one of these friends actually sorta befriended her, and also asked quite a lot of questions. In the end, they're simply aware that Rina's always there and that talking to me will always mean that another person is also listening in. I guess they simply got used to it, and it's really not anything special anymore. It's like with anything - the novelty wears off after a while and normality rolls around the corner. So don't you worry too much about how to react or so. ^^ Greets, AG
Guest Anonymous February 19, 2016 February 19, 2016 If you meet my host you should treat him with tremendous reverence and awe. Make sure you call him sir and all that. Praise me a lot and tell him how amazing I am and how lucky he is to have me as his tulpa. He will quickly agree I am sure. You may now thank me for responding with super gratitude and tell me what an honor it was to have my comment appear in your thread! ^ The above was silly sarcasm. Treat tulpamancers just like you would anyone else really. Most of them are geeks. If you wanna know how their tulpas are doing, just ask.
ableddistress February 19, 2016 February 19, 2016 Treat them the same way you used to. Tulpas: Gabriel Rebecca Alyssa
Guest Anonymous February 19, 2016 February 19, 2016 Yeah. What Melian and ableddistress said, sans Melian's sarcasm. :P Just treat them like always if you feel like it. You could totally ignore that they have a tupper, or you could ask about it, or befriend it... whatever. Basically, just think of the tupper as someone who tends to hang out around that person a lot. Ignore them, befriend them - hell, do what you want. They're there, ignore it or not. Greets, AG
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