Your tulpa - from a very formal manner of speaking to a "warmer" manner?

[Yori]

If you have a vocal tulpa, did your tulpa start out speaking in a very formal, cold, sort of "flat" manner, and start speaking in a more emotionally warm, individualistic, or lively manner over time as they progressed?

 

I'm wondering if there are any people whose tulpa started out like this and then changed over time, and why they think that is.

 

I'm having a hard time thinking of good words to phrase this question with, so I hope that "warmer" here is good enough.

 

I think it could be something that happens when your tulpa is weak and doesn't have as much of a personality yet. Addressing those people who fit the criteria, do you agree?

[Guest Anonymous]

For the most part, yes.

 

I did very little work regarding personality and my tulpa, Krystal, had this very flat motherly vibe when she became vocal. Very kind, didn't disagree much, caring, and generally bubbly. As she progressed she became more insightful, much more opinionated, and individualistic as you've described. I can't say she's become warmer. She's become harsher; she has a spine and will support it. At the same time her words have much more meaning behind them. I can have conversations between her and they aren't petty or one-sided like before.

 

I think the most amusing bit is that she's moody now. I struggle to describe it; her personality isn't like a television show character. One sided, predictable. She is very humanistic, it's like she has many little personalities, quirks that add up to who she is instead of one general personality. I've noticed that she has good days and bad; days she's bouncing off the walls and other times I'll struggle to get her to talk. Her mood defines what she'll say and it isn't the "I'm angry with you so I'll act angry" cliché. It's subtle.

[Linkzelda]

To add onto that, it was basically the same for Eva. Before I knew about tulpas, she already existed, though she was more silent and just ended up being a “fixer” for situations where I wasn’t competent to solve myself.

 

It’s almost as if I was seeing her possess most body parts for whatever occasion when I felt sort of helpless to do anything. And the intention was for her to have many roles, the most dominant being a motherly companion of some sort.

 

When I tried to create her in lucid dreams, she wasn’t the type of person to be at your beck and call. She preferred to see other people talk about how they dreamed about her, how she held her own ground and didn’t want to become a “yes” man to me all the time.

 

It took a while for me to realize her not existing in my dreams for a long time was merely a front. I was mostly focused on finding her in my mind when she’s already made herself present outwards (sorry for the false dichotomy there, can’t really explain it too well). The initial stages will feel like you’re just clustering anything that will feel reasonable for them to garner an identity in. Almost as if they’re just becoming a victim of a negative self-fulfilling prophecy with no freedom.

 

But in time, sublimating those entrenched predispositions becomes more complex, and it’s an understatement to state that your tulpa’s self-schema of themselves is a totality of clichéd subsets to fit a self-fulfilling prophecy. You detach yourself from your fear of trying to apply morals and ethics to them because they're already competent to make their own.

 

And when that happens, there's nothing to be fearful about anymore, and your life changes completely. At least it did for me, and it’s still growing, and it’s going to be difficult to stop that overwhelming change that both you can your tulpa can share together.

 

When you do mental activities to increase your overall cognition, the whole stagnant and cold demeanor that feels like they have no purpose starts fading away pretty quickly. I guess in short they learn how to find themselves by continuing to exist and understanding their capacity to change how they're living despite of their skewed and twisted origins of being created from a simple thought that leads into a chain of desires and other processes.

 

But until then, if you don't put in the work and the commitment into it, you'll be at an impasse for quite some time. The secret is to get over whatever strife you have with tulpas in general as quickly as possible, but still acknowledging those same insecurities is what keeps you going, if that makes any sense.

 

Whether or not you think they're part of your "conscience" to associate with the "warmer" aspect you're mentioning or something....it could be that, but the only way to find out is to continue with the process of creating a tulpa if you haven't done so as yet. Because the anecdotes and experiential learning from us doesn't mean there's a fixed pattern for anyone, everyone is different, and the mind has many ways, possibly infinite, for a tulpa to continually find meaning for their existence.

[glitchthe3rd]

Naomi was always cold and disdainful towards me up until somewhat recently, now she seems to have warmed up to me a bit. Though I attribute that more to me taking the time to earn her trust than to anything regarding her level of vocality.

[Guest Riy]

At first when Zala 'spoke' to me it was a lot like I was just hearing myself talk inside my head, and her speech patterns were a lot like mine. Though recently she's started to be a lot more inquisitive and speaks to me more like a daughter would speak to her father rather than to a stranger.

 

I think she's starting to pull information from my memories and she's using that to construct a way of speaking that she knows I would find comfortable. She has yet to be 'emotional' though I have noticed she has a bit of a flair for irony.

 

I don't think it has to do with 'weakness' I just think it has to do with development. I can only assume that young tulpas will be very robotic, rigid, and incapable of 'thinking' for themselves, which is why they always seem very formal and polite, just a theory.

[cartowheel]

I'm not very far in my tulpas development, him being only about a month or two old, but so far he's not been very vocal at all, but when he does speak, it's pretty formal, as if we were only acquaintances, which makes sense.