Have you argued/fought with your partner before?

[nihi0145632]

In any type of relationships, friend, romance or social, it is common to have different opinions and normally argue with one another. This is a probably a dumb question for a thread but i am curious. Have you and your tulpas fought or argued before? I know that tulpas do not entirely agree with the opinions of their partnered host as they themselves also have their very own view point, I might be wrong there but me and Summer has argued before, maybe two.

 

Our little fight isn't THAT big of a deal but we both found out a little bit more about one another I learned something from her and she learned something from me. Our little argument only made us know each other even more and do so only making our bond stronger and closer I believe.

 

How about you guys? "Who argued with their partner"

 

Did your disagreement made you closer or made you guys farther from one another?

[Ponytail]

We tend to agree on a lot of topics anyways or are logical about how we go about arguing. Generally, he just goes with what I say. I'm kinda a spoiled brat, haha.

 

However, saying that, there have been times where we have confronted each other about issues. The weren't fights per se, but they certainly held a fair amount of negative emotion to one party. However, these little bouts and confrontations usually have positive results. Because, duh, we listen to each other. I know, revolutionary. I should run a marriage counsel.

[Lucilyn]

Lumi talked about this before somewhere but I have no idea where. Like I remember almost exactly what he said.. but not exactly enough... Anyways, long story short we don't argue. Idk why. Everyone talks about arguing being so normal but I'd feel really bad if I argued with any of them. We always listen to each other and basically always take advice without question, I think. Or like, what we say is just a suggestion, that the other person takes for what it is, what we think. So like Lumi will ask me how I feel about something and I'll tell him and he'll be like yeah I guess so, but then he'll still decide for himself. We could only argue if someone actually wanted someone else to do something, which rarely comes up, and even then to argue that person would have to not want to do it.

 

I guess you could have a one-sided "fight" where someone was just mad at another, but again idk how that would ever come up with us.

 

But! Tewi did! Obviously it was a while ago but I'll say I totally forgot anyways. There's only one person in our system who would ever really argue with anyone, lol.

https://community.tulpa.info/thread-having-a-disagreement-or-argument-with-your-tulpa?pid=165673#pid165673

(oh also 100% relevant pre-existing thread probly should've mentioned that sooner)

[Doctorfoxwolf]

Yes.

 

We have spent the majority of our lives together fighting.

 

Along wit that, Meti and I have been in an argument for a while because of one of her habits, which is deifying her perception of me. I didn't like it at all.

 

He only a few days ago decided to let do it anyways, saying, and I quote "Fine, fuck it, do whatever you want. Just don't get too crazy with it."

[suhail Al ketbi]

My tulpa

Still in " personal forcing " stage .

But I saw him in ( dream , lucid dream , OBE)

And in these realms, I still not found something bigger

About his personality.

Sometimes I catch opinions in my head , like they are not mine , they are suddenly voices but still my iner voice .

And keep thinking about them .

But of course we argued in " personal forcing".

[Paranoid Llama]

My tulpa generally agrees with me in most scenarios, but in some she decides to simply acknowledge it and not fight. When I do something not good for my well-being and I know it, though, that when she gets scary ;-;.

[FallFamily]

[Tri] We've had a few disagreements with the others. It isn't that often, though. Occasionally someone's behavior is out of bounds or they are not able to handle something and unwilling to admit it and get out of the way, and sometimes the people who have to be reigned in is us. We've also had a few disagreements over choices in day to day life, but nothing major.

 

Luckily, no big arguments that ended extremely poorly have happened for over half a decade. There was a time when Hail and S. fought over the topic of whether to transition right away or to never transition (fear of the dangers) and they even fought over control of the body and in the end, Hail forced and integration but with the compromise that they would transition not right away but within 5 years and that they would start moving the pieces into place right away. That level of fighting was wrong, especially what Hail did which took a while for her to realize it. They ended up working it out eventually and making amends.

[Solune]

Oh, hell yeah. Our system has tons of arguments/debates- but we always forgive each other and learn from what happened.

Love isn't necessarily a peaceful thing- nor should it be. Love is the ultimate catalyst for change- and change is often painful (but usually worth the pain).

[Lucilyn]

Love is appreciation of life in tons of different forms! And yes lots of time changes for the better are hard at first, but if you go through with them you'll feel like it was worth it. Assuming it really was a good change anyway.

 

{We normally try and add something else after making an off-topic comment but 200% srs ain't got nothin to say}

[Stevie]

Yep. All the time, I'm a turbo hedonist with a wicked temper and Chris is more chilled out and logical. We've always ended up reaching some kind of conclusion and compromise at the end though.