Tulpa Forcing Problems

[The Shadow Knight]

I started Tulpamancy a year back, but I kind of stopped due to these issues I was too embarrassed to ask about. Finally started back up again, but I need help on solving some of these rather personal issues. Some of them are connected so by solving 1 I might solve some of the others.

 

First I get distracted very easily and I often find my thoughts wandering, how can I better focus myself?

 

Second, I'm a very sexual person and those types of thoughts seem to enter my head. I also found myself getting aroused while trying to form my Tulpa's body and it is very distracting. How can I solve this?

 

Thirdly, I don't have much time to active force during the day and I keep on forgetting to passive force. Any way I could remind myself or maybe a way I could constantly passive force?

 

Fourthly, I keep on getting the doubt that I am parroting or puppeteering and I need a way to break this doubt, suggestions?

 

Fifthly? I would also like to know how (And I know everyone is different) you are supposed to feel when visualizing or meditating and how do I know I am using my mind's eye?

[raymond13557]

i just keep my main tulpa with me at all times, not on a leash or anything, i just ask him, or her to follow me and keep me company, really me and red and my other tulpas, entities and what have you often just shoot the breeze and talk about this or that or joke around with stuff, and i rarely get distracted more often than not red will often whisper a joke about a rival of mine at work and we have a laugh, or i talk to red or shade about what we could do later on in trinity. my best advice is to keep at it.

[Akinkinit]

First I get distracted very easily and I often find my thoughts wandering, how can I better focus myself?

Try forcing near your computer and focusing on the fan hum. Playing music while forcing also helps with concentration. Like there's a song out there called Password for Entheogenic Experience by Alio Die. If you can find a copy, it is the best music I've ever found to force to.

 

 

Second, I'm a very sexual person and those types of thoughts seem to enter my head. I also found myself getting aroused while trying to form my Tulpa's body and it is very distracting. How can I solve this?

...I also have this problem... Although in my case Noriko instigates it most of the time.

 

Only way around this is to ask your tulpa to behave herself for a bit and then promise to do the lewd things after a successful forming session.

 

 

Thirdly, I don't have much time to active force during the day and I keep on forgetting to passive force. Any way I could remind myself or maybe a way I could constantly passive force?

Try asking your tulpa to visit you during the day. You don't necessarily have to visualize her. Just try to get a feel as to where she is. It's not too draining to do that and it has a similar effect to talking to her.

 

If she's not sentient enough to do that, try keeping something that reminds you of her with you, and bring up her image when you see it. Like maybe a poem or something you have her read in a forcing session.

 

 

Fourthly, I keep on getting the doubt that I am parroting or puppeteering and I need a way to break this doubt, suggestions?

Just ask her if you parroted something or not. It was hard for me to get a clear vocal response to this sort of thing at first too. But I found asking her yes/no questions, and having her push on my left hand if yes / right hand for no worked pretty well.

 

And while yes, it is possible to puppeteer touch too, just keep an open, relaxed state of mind when you ask her, without trying to force / sense anything. That way anything you do feel will probably not be coming from you.

 

Fifthly? I would also like to know how (And I know everyone is different) you are supposed to feel when visualizing or meditating and how do I know I am using my mind's eye?

I just feel really calm. Seeing Noriko with my mind's eye makes me feel really happy in a way that just picturing her does not, if that makes sense. Suppose it's just one of those things, for lack of a better explanation, that you'll come to learn to distinguish.

 

Hopefully that helps.

[sushi]

1. Anapana meditation. It's sort of practice keeping your mind focused. The more you do it, the easier it is to get focused and stay focused. It's also great when you have insomnia, because in experienced meditators, an hour of anapana can replace an hour of sleep. You can't completely replace sleep because you still need the dream cycles, but I've known some experienced meditators who only sleep 2-4 hours a night.

 

2. I've found that the more I think about sex, the more I want to think about sex. Whenever you catch yourself thinking about sex, just start thinking about something else. Anapana meditation makes this easier, but you can do it without too. At first it will be really hard, but after a few weeks (or maybe a few days, if you're a fast learner) you'll notice you'll stop getting aroused so easily.

 

3. Some people wear something that reminds them of their tulpa, like a watch or a bracelet, or draw a symbol on their hands. That way every time they see it, they can remember to force. Engineers wear a ring on the little finger of the writing hand, so that every time they write, the ring scrapes against the paper and reminds them of their oath.

 

4. I don't understand puppeting/parroting worry. If you puppet and parrot, you end up with a servitor, not a tulpa. And people who deliberately make servitors worry about their servitors becoming tulpas. Even if you do it wrong, you still end up with a tulpa, so why worry about it?

 

5. Have you seen Hangover 2? There's this scene where Alan is meditating in a Buddhist temple, and suddenly he gets a flash of the previous night, which he hasn't been able to remember until then. That really happens -- but it doesn't happen to beginners who just sat down, like it did in the movie. All of my experiences happened when I was meditating 4 - 12 hours a day, for ten days straight.

 

I've had this experience when I'm meditating of suddenly seeing something so vividly that I have to open my eyes just to prove to myself that they're actually closed. For me, the things I see are usually from my distant past -- kids I knew in high school (I left high school fifteen years ago) or books I read during my childhood (twenty or twenty-five years ago). Things I haven't even thought about in years.

 

Most of my visualization isn't like that though. There are certain images -- very familiar images -- that I can just see whenever I close my eyes. But they're still not perfectly vivid. They're still vague around the edges of my focus, and I'm missing a lot of details.

 

Have you ever seen one of those Magic Eye pictures that used to be really popular? It's kinda like that. You know how you can see the full 3D image, and everything's great, but then there's like a little small detail in the corner that you can't quite make out, and when you look at it, the whole image just vanishes, and you have to start over? Visualization can be a lot like that.

[Kaga and Company]

As someone with ADD, I totally understand not being able to focus. I find active forcing very difficult myself for the same reason, which is why I don't do it very often. The majority of my tulpa progress comes from passive forcing. It actually works out very well for me. If you can't make yourself focus, I recommend placing an emphasis on passive forcing, and then maybe try some active forcing when you're just having a good day and your focus happens to be really with you for once.

 

As for remembering to passive force, I recommend what others have already suggested: just find some way to remind yourself to passive force. Or, if your tulpa is already sentient enough to do this, just ask them to follow you around throughout the day. Works wonders for me.

[The Shadow Knight]

This is all actually very helpful, Its given me some things to try at least. Still the whole sexual thing, curse hormones lol.

[Raetin]

The problem with the sexually... I am 15, trust me, I know what you are talking about. And I really don't want my tulpa to know everything. But sooner or later she will, and somehow I will have find a solution.

I could start a relationship with her. I really don't have a clue :D

 

You can make her form into something you don't find sexually attractive. I'm talking like a ball of light (like Navi), an animal, or a cartoon form. (like one of the enemies from Super Mario or a character from Animal Crossing).

 

If you don't want to do any of that stuff with your tulpa, it will be so much easier if you do this.

[The Shadow Knight]

I have tried, believe me, but it just keeps sort of morphing back into that form x.x

[Bambi]

1) Definitely take up meditation. Also, I'll say this again later on in the post (and others have already said this), but try to get some form of jewelry, or mark on yourself somewhere, to remind you that you need to focus on your tulpa.

 

2) I'm asexual, so I might not give the best advice on this, but if I were you I would try to make your tulpa very sexual, and switch your forcing sessions around. One can be sexual, and another can be "normal." You can do this however you wish--meaning that you don't necessarily have to be active forcing to have a session.

 

3) Kaga and Company has beat me to saying this. You don't necessarily have to active force every day (God knows I don't). If you think that it's a problem that you don't active force all the time, then it will be a problem--so change your mindset! Although it's true that you likely to get more and better success the more you active force, if you passive force throughout the day, you'll make up for it. Try to set aside one or two days out of the week to spend a good time active forcing. If music helps you to focus, then definitely use it!

 

As for getting better at passive forcing . . . it's all a matter of doing it repeatedly. I first started with reading to James, which was sort of a pain because I kept forgetting to read *to* him. I read out loud and pictured him in my mind's eye behind me while I did so and slowly, it became easier. Eventually every time I read [and I read a lot throughout the day, (1) because I like to read, and (2) because I'm still in high school], I would remember to read to James. When I'm not reading I walk around with James throughout the day. If I see someone I know (but am not necessarily close to), I might tell him what I think about that person, or a story about them, or something like that. When I'm not at school and I'm walking Romeo, I can tell James a story about him from when he was a puppy. The list is endless, and you CAN get to the point where you're doing it constantly--just give it a few days of practice. Other people have already said this, but I'll say it anyway: try getting a necklace or bracelet or something, and use that to remind you of your tulpa.

 

4) (I haven't started parroting/puppeting, so I can't really say anything on this.)

 

5) I don't really meditate (though I have before), but I've visualized quite a lot. I don't remember ever feeling anything. Now, that's not to say that I haven't felt James before; James has a very strong, warm feeling to him, but that feeling has only come from a lot of forcing (passive or active) or when I first woke up and could tell that he had been with me in my dreams.

 

Now, as for the mind's eye thing . . . I want you to do exactly what I say, okay? It's really very easy. I want you--without closing your eyes!--to picture a beach ball. See it? Okay, that's your mind's eye. It's that simple. Don't over think it. :)