Personality Tainted Skills

[An Ashy Individual]

How differently do all of you do things in comparison to your fellow headmates?

As in, do you talk in a different tone? Write in another font?

 

More or less, the way I do even basic things is very "me" - be this walking, talking, writing, thinking... Etc.

I invested quite a bit of time in order for it to be like that, too.

The problem now is that my headmate does these basic every day things in a way that is very me coded, which is quite odd for both of us.

(Probably the weirdest thing we noticed is that we have different accents in mind voice but the same when actually speaking.)

 

Does anyone else have a similar experience and if yes, what did you do about it?

[TurboSimmie]

I type with a lot more emojis than Chloe does. 😄😁 She's much more prone to using "lol" than me, hehe. Neither was a deliberate choice, it just kind of unfolded that way. I guess I have a bit of a different cadence than Chloe when I talk too, but I can't really describe it as I haven't recorded myself talking before. Sometimes I think I have different handwriting than Chloe but I think it's more of a matter of being willing to slow down and write neater. 😄 Chloe also says that I'm a bit more "in-tune" with the world around me and she's more of an airhead--not sure how true that is. 😄 But sometimes I think that colors are a little more vivid when I'm switched in. Chloe is also much more inclined to wear sunglasses than me for whatever reason. 😎 We both generally walk the same though, and neither one of us has a noticeably different accent.

 

4 hours ago, An Ashy Individual said:

The problem now is that my headmate does these basic every day things in a way that is very me coded, which is quite odd for both of us.

 

Oh yeah, there is definitely bleed-over when I notice myself doing or saying something that feels very Chloe-coded (or vise-versa), but I think that is more just the fact that we share a brain and are always together, so we were always going to rub off on one another, our habits, our quirks and such. 😁

 

4 hours ago, An Ashy Individual said:

(Probably the weirdest thing we noticed is that we have different accents in mind voice but the same when actually speaking.)

 

I think that just comes down to how the brain controls the mouth, lungs, and vocal chords. You've been so wired to talk a certain way that it's a huge effort to change it even if it's easy in your head. Chloe is having a similar problem but with mtf voice training; it's hard for her to find her "girl voice" when she's been talking and sounding like a "man" ever since her voice first dropped about 25 years ago. The throat and mouth machinery is so used to working a certain way that forcing it to do something different is tough!

 

4 hours ago, An Ashy Individual said:

Does anyone else have a similar experience and if yes, what did you do about it?

 

We try not to sweat it too much. If I'm feeling a bit too much bleed-over I try to focus on things that are more Simmie-coded, like listening to "Simmie music" or going out in nature and surrounding myself with the color green (my favorite color), or otherwise do things that we both strongly associate with me. ☺️ It helps to do things that center yourself in your identity, and that goes for anyone, host, tulpa, or singleton! 😁

[SeekingMyPlanet]

Lavender has the concept of a "mind rut" where our mind is so used to operating in a certain way, whoever is using it seems to be drawn into the rut. We liken it to a wheel rut on a dirt trail, where once they are worn in, wheels tend to get stuck in them.

 

What do we do about it? I guess we see it as a general hazard of sharing a cortex and we live with it. And my clever headmate makes up interesting language to describe it.

[Shaula]

8 hours ago, An Ashy Individual said:

How differently do all of you do things in comparison to your fellow headmates?

As in, do you talk in a different tone? Write in another font?

 

A most of our habits physically are basically Nightfall's habits. We do have different walks and things like that. My stance is a little more girly, Jezebel is a little more stiff, and Linda has no definite stance, she's just wild. Stephen and Nightfall pretty much do the same things. 

 

We also speak a little differently. We all roughly a similar vocabulary but will say things in a slightly different tone or wording. Some silly things are: Linda uses terms and words that we didn't know we still remembered ("uber" and "mando" were the most recent) and Jezebel refuse to use contractions (like can't and won't) when speaking. 

 

Online is basically the same thing but emojis are added. Me, Jezebel, and Linda use this kind (⁠✿⁠^⁠‿⁠^⁠). Me and Linda use regular emojis but Stephen uses them sometimes too. 

 

8 hours ago, An Ashy Individual said:

The problem now is that my headmate does these basic every day things in a way that is very me coded, which is quite odd for both of us.

(Probably the weirdest thing we noticed is that we have different accents in mind voice but the same when actually speaking.)

 

We do that, Nightfall has felt like using emojis sometimes but decided not too. Linda has once or twice wound up with Nightfall's level of energy. Jezebel even uses contractions when speaking or writing (but edits the writing). 

We all use Nightfall's voice to a pretty close similarity, although Linda tends to speak a little more nasally. 

 

8 hours ago, An Ashy Individual said:

Does anyone else have a similar experience and if yes, what did you do about it?

 

We don't worry about it (minis Jezebel with contractions, lol.), it's bound to happen if you share a brain. 😁 A few times we did try to help Linda feel more like herself because she's way more hyper than Nightfall ever will be. 😆 Basically we just let her decide what to do and give her room to be Linda. Watching Dragon Ball (which she really likes) and talking to a few friends seems to bring the most Linda parts of her out. Her level of energy and Linda style dialogue is at it's best during these times. 😊 

[mattx]

Do keep in mind that the body, regardless of who is driving it, stays the same - the voice for example isn't something you can realistically change unless one of you makes an effort to do so but then again, why would you? Stressing your voice just to sound different seems ridiculous, we're not piratesoftware

 

When it comes to mannerism, things may differ. I'm known to dart around and often do things in a rushed way while Cheryl is much more calm (and arguably disciplined) and she is a lot more methodical in her steps.

 

One thing I've noticed is that during possession/switching when she is talking to me she'll look sideways to the right (using my body) almost as if I'm standing next to her, whereas I just "stare into nothing" without moving my eyes when I want to speak and "see" her - it's weird but it works.

 

 

[Athelas]

When I first started switching, it bothered me to speak in the body's voice. For one thing, it's very different from my mind voice. I also strongly associated it with my host. I found myself trying to speak in a lower tone to compensate, but that only sounded more unnatural.

 

The solution to this was practice. The more we switched, the more I got used to hearing my words in the body's voice. Affirmations also help when my actions feel too "host-coded."

 

As for handwriting, we put in the effort to give me my own writing style. It was a fun way to practice when I was learning possession. I only use it in places no one else will see and question it. I can easily fall back on the body's muscle memory to copy my host's handwriting.