Personality What are the limits to choosing characteristics when creating a Tulpa ?

[xeraxill]

Before I begin,im not here to exclaim any complaints or redeem myself, just need to seek help and ask a few questions.

 

It all started with a show / manga called Alice In Borderland which im a huge fan of. I read it and found a specific character from it very cool and interesting (Bear in mind the character is a psychopath / sociopath.) I had prior knowledge about tulpas but I procastinated creation for a significantly long time (which probably wasnt a good idea.) Nevertheless, I came across a website with several detailed creation guides (I planned to use foghorn meditation, general breathwork meditation, and the main method was about recalling "fuzzy/warm" moments in your life and linking them to your tulpa; alongside creating a potion with their personalities, whilst also mentioning creating objects and linking them to your tulpa.

 

The problem came about when i reached out for help in the Tulpa Discord (official). I asked a few questions about creation / linking objects to characters. And when it came to the personality and I had explained that my tulpa was said "sociopath".......  I promptly got banned. So i guess my question is (since i will listen to any advice), are there limits to creating a tulpa ? Can i still make this one and do i change their personality ?  

 

(*if you are wondering "why did you come here even after you got banned and it was made clear to you that you cant have a sociopath for a tulpa", the reason is that i want a wider range of viewpoints*)

[Flandre]

I mean, when you have the choice to choose, it's not good to create a tulpa who's going to be a bad influence on you. A tulpa can be based on a character who's a sociopath or such and still have their own maybe more grounded personality though. Just don't idolize personality disorders or so on, it's really shortsighted and immature.

If you believe your tulpa doesn't intend to hurt you or others, then that's probably good enough

[Lavender]

Well, the fact of you being banned doesn't mean there is anything wrong with the way you're creating a tulpa. It just means the moderator decided something you said didn't belong on their server, right?

 

That said, I don't know much about sociopathy, but my understanding is that it has to do with not having empathy. I wouldn't want to spend my whole life tied to someone who has no empathy for me. If that's what you want, it's not necessarily wrong, but it might be unwise.

 

I personally am SO glad my host consciousness is a nice person. I could have ended up stuck with a real creep.

 

A while back I wrote a document called "the principles of free tulpamancy". You can find it here. One of the principles is "Every system is its own best judge of whether a new headmate will be beneficial". What that means in this case is that you are the one who is going to know best what kind of tulpa you want. Others can give you advice, but in the end, it's your decision.

 

Also, be warned that once you create a tulpa, they get to decide what and who they are. You can guide them, but things may not turn out the way you want. It's sort of like having children. So my advice is that if you make a tulpa, be ready to accept that tulpa as they are because they, not you, get to decide what they're like.

 

Good luck. I hope this helps.