Sexuality and having a Tulpa

[Guest Anonymous]

This thread now has a different topic. It's about how hosts handle sexuality and their tulpas in general.

[Guest Anonymous]

Whao DUDE. Why would this even enter into your mind? LMAO! I guess the best way to find out is for you to have an orgasm and then ask her if she suddenly felt something. LOL Oh my god I am laughing so hard right now I can't type so easy. oh gods.. thanks for the mirth.

 

I am sorry I really do understand you are serious.

 

This is how I view these things personally. A tulpa will only do the things you consciously or unconsciously want them to do. Just for the record, I have never given Melian a secondary side effect orgasm. LMAO! I am sure she wouldn't mind however, if it were possible in some way. Melian has no real anatomy and physiology. Her sexuality is not biologically based it is imaginary, like everything else about her. So it is up to my mind what she does or does not feel sexually.

 

I really think a lot of people take the sentience thing just a bit too far. I don't say that to be mean, but my gods man. LOL You, my friend, are very entertaining and I love you and your tulpa. My wife was coming into the room wondering why I was laughing. Oh lordy. LOL

[Guest Anonymous]

Well, so far, she has done a mountain-load more things I didn't expect or know about than things I was directly and instantly aware of.

I actually didn't even try if I can control her at all yet. (I guess I can?)

 

That's another reason why it bothers me so much.

I mean, not that I wouldn't trust her to stay in our wonderland when I ask her to, but you know what I mean.

 

 

Greets,

AG

[Guest Anonymous]

You know once I stopped laughing at this idea, I began to think about it a bit more. I suppose it would be totally possible for Melian to feel my orgasms if she wanted to. She just doesn't seem interested in it. I really have no desire for her to share in orgasms, but it is actually a very interesting idea. I am sorry to laugh at first. LOL (still laughing a bit)

 

I suppose, like everything else, such things would vary and be different for each tulpamancer you ask about it. Someone on this forum may very well share orgasms with a tulpa. I would be interested to know I guess.

 

Oh and why is it embarrassing? Don't be embarrassed about your sexuality, we all have sexuality. Nothing wrong with being interested in the dynamics of a good orgasm.

[Guest Anonymous]

Well, yeah.

I just don't want to... "share" one with her.

 

I want to know how likely that is, taking into account the things mentioned in "facts", and what I / we could do about it.

 

 

Greets,

AG

[Luminesce]

It's less controlling her and more controlling... the quality of your mental relations to them. Best done with their collaboration. But it's similar to when people agree upon privacy or such things with their tulpas, no different in my opinion. Changing how connected your senses are or at least agreeing on how much they should be is about the same thing.

 

I mean, privacy with my tulpas has always been a mix of "We literally exist in your mind and couldn't not-understand anything that would otherwise cause embarrassment" + they just don't care to involve themselves. They aren't connected to my senses in that they feel what I feel, rather they have access to all of my senses and memories and such. So they're aware, but not connected. But there's no room for embarrassment when you share a mind, IMO.

[Guest Anonymous]

Well, so far, she has done a mountain-load more things I didn't expect or know about than things I was directly and instantly aware of.

I actually didn't even try if I can control her at all yet. (I guess I can?)

 

Note I did say that the things a tulpa does are the things you conscious and unconsciously want them to do. You would not be aware of unconscious desires. That is why they are unconscious.

[Raetin]

QUESTIONS:

- I'll be upfront and direct about this: Will I run in danger of accidentally making her come when I have an orgasm?

- Even if not, will she be able to... "tell" what's happening? Like, even if it doesn't exactly cause her to have one herself, it'd still be weird if she felt something from that...

 

Lol, no, at least in my experience. My tulpas don't randomly have orgasms when I'm masturbating by myself. Unless we're doing it together! ... Ignore that. If you aren't doing it together, you won't have to worry about this.

 

For the second question, if you ask for some privacy, she'll leave you alone and you could do it scott free. Trust me, they won't know unless they're actively watching you. Or if you're sending them thoughts, for some reason... Think of it this way. All of your friends probably have masturbated. I doubt you think of that when you're talking with them. It would be rather odd if you did.

[Guest Anonymous]

I mean, privacy with my tulpas has always been a mix of "We literally exist in your mind and couldn't not-understand anything that would otherwise cause embarrassment" + they just don't care to involve themselves. They aren't connected to my senses in that they feel what I feel, rather they have access to all of my senses and memories and such. So they're aware, but not connected. But there's no room for embarrassment when you share a mind, IMO.

 

Holy crap Lumi! Yes, this describes Melian exactly. Thanks. I can always count on you to find the perfect way to articulate things. Your tulpas and Melian do function in similar ways or we do regard them in similar ways.

[Guest Anonymous]

Okay, I'm gonna try. Maybe.

 

"Will I run in danger of accidentally making her come when I have an orgasm?"

You owe me a new pair of sides. But if you are serious, then the answer will be "maybe". But it won't be accidental.

 

It may be a mindset type-a-thing but I believe that the tulpa experiences everything you do, as in the counsciousness you have is shared between you. They can choose to ignore or focus certain senses, but the baseline is this: they feel everything you do when they're there, want it or not.

 

Edit: That includes memories, even if they won't remember everything you do immediately. But they have access to it. They just aren't aware of the memories you make in their absence, thus they will need an "entry point" to recall them. So you either give them one - by showing the first memory you have over that period, or they'll find it themselves.