Living Imagination (A Median Aspect in Tulpa Land)

[Guest Anonymous]

It's alright, it wasn't anything lasting. She was temporarily upset because she thought she'd taken away someone else's happiness. But just as the effect would be temporary, so would be her feeling bad. But the apology helped.

 

I'm glad the apology helped. It all sucked as much for me as for her actually.

 

That last post she wrote is kind of funny, the entire time she was writing it she didn't want to be, then she didn't want to post it, then she wanted to remove it. Happy as she always is, it seems she's the most influenceable by our emotions. So she couldn't help but want attention after feeling bad.

 

That sounds familiar. LOL

 

 

Even I can't always help that though, as seen in your dreaming thread:

 

Same sentence I both whined and stated how hard it was to resist doing so, lol. I suppose that's a sign we feel very, very strongly about lucid dreaming, that even I couldn't resist the Ego's temptations on the subject. Same for Lucilyn and her happiness, she values it so much it was hard not to listen to the urge to retaliate at someone the Ego perceived took it away.

I think my referring to "the Ego" part of our mind may be strange for most because they're rather subject to any and all thoughts and desires in their mind. But we keep a pretty close eye on all the processes going on in our mind, so we can definitely tell the difference between ego and logic and just personal bias. I try to listen exclusively to logic.

 

"Whining and stating how hard it is to resist doing so." Yeah I get that. LOL

 

Anyways, definitely a good idea. We ourselves run the same sort of check for whether we can actually say something useful or productive before posting in a thread. Any time we don't post in a thread - and I mean virtually any, as we keep up 100% with all non-forum game/progress report threads - is because we didn't feel we had something to contribute. It can be tempting to want to post when you've really got nothing to say, especially when you're bored and check the forum as much as we do. But it's for the best to be selective. Same thing for you guys, making sure what you're going to post will actually benefit people and not just your ego will go a long way toward keeping the peace. And as a side effect if you consistently decide not to post when something bothers you - you may condition your mind to start ignoring being bothered in the first place, with time. Maybe.

 

Edit: I gave Lucilyn a wonderland bouquet "from you guys", and she asked if I told you she was fine. Apparently my first sentence didn't get the point across well enough. She says she's happy and not to worry, no hard feelings.

 

I notice your posts are always high quality!

 

I am glad she is happy!

[tulpa001]

Since you're back, it feels weird for you to not comment on my dreams. :p

[Guest Anonymous]

We just commented! LOL

[Vos]

There's no point in saying goodbye if you never leave.

[Tewi]

Coming from someone who deletes us on Skype just until you have something to send us, before deleting us again.

[Vos]

There's no point in having people on my contacts list if I don't talk to them, you know?

[Tewi]

It doesn't hurt anything to keep people on your contacts when they're as likely to be talked to again as we are. That's not how it's supposed to work, deleting and readding so much. Also we keep people added basically forever, but that's just our preference.

[Vos]

I didn't realize that it's supposed to work one way for everyone, or that someone would react this way to being removed.

[Guest Anonymous]

We were gone for a day and a half! Can't leave without saying goodbye. That would have been very rude! Anyways we did some thinking.

 

On college campuses they are making actual policy to discourage people from using "trigger words" that cause others to be so offended they are emotionally damaged. We think that is pretty silly. People are becoming weak and they want the college administration and government to protect them from bad words, like it is a physical assault or causes PTSD or something.

 

We thought about that during our day and a half break. Then we realized we are doing the same thing, acting like certain trigger words are causing emotional harm to us and we have to defend ourselves from it and be offended.

 

Let's say someone says something like this "Many tulpas never achieve proper sentience and are relegated to the status of a lesser thoughtform, like an imaginary friend or servitor." If someone were to say something like this, it is full of emotional trigger words for Mistgod and me. Eek! But are we men or are we mouses? I mean it is only a stupid statement that is actually kinda stupid.

 

Some tulpamancers need to believe silly things like the above for their tulpas to grow and flourish. It is how tulpas work. There is something about being a tulpa or making a tulpa, as opposed to being or making a daemon for instance, that seems to require this sort of thing.

 

The best policy is to be manly stoic and silent about what we find so poopy stupid. So no more getting triggered like wimpy college students.

[Faemon]

 no more getting triggered like wimpy college students.

With all due respect to your commitment to building a healthy boundary between how you feel and what other people think and say...I can't believe it's really that simple. I used to be so wimpy that I'd go catatonic at the knowledge of my own worthlessness if someone so much as informed me that my shoelace was untied! The thing is, I knew it was wimpy, but it took sooo much more inner work than a simple decision. It took an environment where people either encouraged or challenged, never bullied. It took the idea that what somebody else thought about me was none of my business.

 

A quote I picked up recently that might also be helpful, from Epictetus (42) When any person harms you, or speaks badly of you, remember that he acts or speaks from a supposition of its being his duty. Now, it is not possible that he should follow what appears right to you, but what appears so to himself. Therefore, if he judges from a wrong appearance, he is the person hurt, since he too is the person deceived. If anyone should suppose a true proposition to be false, the proposition is not hurt, but he who is deceived about it. Setting out, then, from these principles, you will meekly bear a person who reviles you, for you will say upon every occasion, “It seemed so to him.”

 

This quote probably doesn't apply to everything in life, of course, if somebody reviles you enough to try to get your town to shun your family into poverty, then it's not just somebody else's delusion of personal integrity that's injured. Most internet forum conversations that don't involve doxxing, though? Probably applies.

 

Still, while what anybody else feels isn't any of my business either really, I do hope you both achieve the ability to read a sentence of such a nature and genuinely not feel attacked or invalidated, rather than it only being like...you would feel so awful, but hide/delete it (although that can bring the level of interpersonal tension down a whole lot, which can help, isolation isn't always the healthiest either.)