Communal wonderlanding

[Stardog System]

My friend, Ozzy, has a form of dissociative disorder. They intentionally created their first tulpa, but due to their traumatic past, they slowly lost control of the system until even switching was full amnesic and they had no control. (they have been diagnosed for this and are currently undergoing treatment, to be clear). Their tulpas are more like alters now than anything. Ive posted about them before, but prior to their disordered plurality developing, Ozzy and I used to do a thing we'd call "communal wonderland" where we imagined a tunnel connecting our two headspaces and just told each other what we were doing whenever we "met up." It worked surprisingly well, and our tulpas got to see each other by us proxying their actions for one another.

 

After developing their disordered form of tulpamancy, Ozzy could no longer control their wonderland AT ALL. so, my wonderland had become a permanent part of theirs.

We are basically mental neighbours.

 

Blare was originally Ozzy's tulpa, and she was very violent and destructive towards their mental health. However, she ended up getting MARRIED to my tulpa, November, about a year ago. Once again, we held a wedding in our communal space. 

 

Then Blare decided she wanted to move into my headspace. I'm not one hundred percent sure how this works. I mean, I know we can't actually connect to each other's brains, but after the wedding, she just teleported home with US instead of OZZY, and she's been living here ever since. I can't really explain it. I haven't heard anything about a situation like ours before. On the plus side, Ozzy and I have a very unique bond because of it. But we can freely move back and forth between one another's headspaces. We've had dozens of parties, we can see events from our house when they're going on at Ozzy's. Obviously all of this requires communication between us.

 

However, I have been able to help my friend significantly through this. He doesn't have control of his wonderland, but I exist in it. I'm able to construct things and summon things for him when he cannot, and I'm able to help him work through the trauma his therapist has instructed.

 

I know all of this sounds crazy. I'm wondering if anyone has had a similar experience? I feel it could be a new technique. It's so natural and normal for Ozzy and I that we barely even think about it anymore.

 

Blare: alright, first of all, i'm not even that much of a bitch. second of all, i'm as confused about my existence as Laika is. i have memories from living with Ozzy, but they're fuzzy, if that makes sense. i don't feel like I originated here, though i am very, very happy here.

 

The bitch part is a lie, btw. She was a bitch. Now she's a rehabilitated bitch.

[bunnymustdie]

What you mentioned about imagining a tunnel connecting your mind space together and then proceeding to interact sounds similar to descriptions of how remote healing works in some of the stuff I've read (one example being Robert Bruce's book on energy work). These works tend to be metaphysical in nature. How one would fit your experience in a purely materialistic/mental worldview of tulpas is beyond me.

 

Some of the stuff I've read, though, have emphasized on the importance of setting boundaries when doing work like this. They've cautioned the importance of imagining or otherwise closing the connection between you and the other party each time when you're done with this sort of work, to prevent any unwanted energies/beings/bad juju from coming through that connection and influencing you.

 

I think regardless of whether you see tulpamancy as a purely materialistic or metaphysical phenomenon, practicing on your skills to sever the connection between you and Ozzy, or creating some sort of "kill switch" to close the connection in case of unforeseen emergencies, might not be a bad idea to consider if you plan to continue exploring this new technique. As a test, you might want to try to intentionally close off whatever mental connection you have to Ozzy for several days, and observe whether you can do it at all, and if you can, how easy or hard it is to do so.

 

I don't have similar personal experience, but hopefully the above stuff can offer some food for thought or directions for experimenting. Please do post more if there's more updates or other experience related to your connection to Ozzy
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Edited May 17, 2025 by bunnymustdie

[Ranger]

This is fascinating to me. I didn't think a system could lose control of their wonderland post realizing traumagenic system behavior.

 

A term people use for this is called "system hopping". It's seen as a metaphysical belief. That's really all I can add though- I'm not experienced with it, and I haven't studied it very much.

 

I agree with what bunny said

[Stardog System]

Thanks for the replies.

 

In regards to the development of traumagenic plurality, it happened pretty slowly. Started with not being able to teleport, then not being able to change his physical appearance, then eventually complete loss of control and realization that everything was now being controlled by a 'gatekeeper' entity called Mindset. It all sounds rather fantastical. 

 

It's not metaphysical, or, at least I don't think it is. It's just normal for us. We tell each other what we're doing, when we meet up- i.e. "I'm walking to the gate, Hex is with me." 'I see you!' "you look lovely" etc etc. 

 

Ozzy is my best friend and I trust that they would never intentionally do anything to hurt me. The most negativity that's come out of this is minor inconvenience like shared weather events. And I've been able to help them get in contact with Mindset, who was actually an old, dissipated tulpa of Ozzy's who had met Rena when I first created her.

 

R: Her name was Stacy back then. She was my first friend. She responds better to me than to most other people. Laika can usually get stuff out of her, too. She really resents Ozzy, though. I think she thinks she has to control everything. And she does, she handles whoever's fronting over there.

 

As for my experience with the connection, it's been completely positive. I love seeing my friends. I'm happy for Nov and Blare. I love being able to help where we can, since we're endogenic and they aren't. I wouldn't trade this for the world. It would be so lonely.

 

I tend to agree with her here. We've been doing this for three years, and it's easy to forget we're probably a unique situation. 

 

I really appreciate yall's feedback. 

 

 

Edited May 18, 2025 by Stardog System