My current situation

[Usbac]

Hi everybody! I'm here for tell some of my story, I was started working in my tulpa on December 10th of 2012 but this wasn't a good year (the school changed me of class, now I can't see some of my friends more, the studies became somewhat more difficult and another things...)

 

So... I've been working in my tulpa in this year but very little, no more than a few minutes daily, and I haven't any response of her in this year of little work.

 

But I promised that I never will forget her, I said yesterday that this would be a new round, a new year, now I do more daily narration, now I will pay more attention to my tulpa, and yesterday I could feel a slight pressure on the right side of my head while I was narrating to her, this is a progress I guess.

 

I hope this time I can do it better, and don't make the mistakes of before.

Whatever, the english isn't my natal language so sorry if I have some errors... happy christmas to everybody and thanks for being a great community :)

[Burshamo]

Hi everybody! I'm here for tell some of my story, I was started working in my tulpa on December 10th of 2012 but this wasn't a good year (the school changed me of class, now I can't see some of my friends more, the studies became somewhat more difficult and another things...)

 

So... I've been working in my tulpa in this year but very little, no more than a few minutes daily, and I haven't any response of her in this year of little work.

 

But I promised that I never will forget her, I said yesterday that this would be a new round, a new year, now I do more daily narration, now I will pay more attention to my tulpa, and yesterday I could feel a slight pressure on the right side of my head while I was narrating to her, this is a progress I guess.

 

I hope this time I can do it better, and don't make the mistakes of before.

Whatever, the english isn't my natal language so sorry if I have some errors... happy christmas to everybody and thanks for being a great community :)

 

Maybe you were just approaching tulpa creation in the wrong way, and your resolve to do better helped you in "feeling" your tulpa.

I'm in no position to give you real advice because I started creating Vera 3 days ago but I can tell you I started feeling pressures 30 minutes in, and now I can feel her almost everytime I "talk" to her.

I suggest you to do some passive forcing whenever you can: on the past days I communicated by thought only but this morning I started talking to her while driving to work.

It can feel strange but i guess it helps a lot, just believe he/she's listening to you.(I felt a medium pressure when writing her name, maybe she likes being talked about?).

I think you just have to be in the right mindset and believe in yourself and your tulpa.

[Redline]

Hey, these things happen. The important part is that you're willing to make up for it and push yourself to pay more attention. Don't overdo it, though. Too much narration is unheard of, but I'm pretty sure paying full attention to her all the time will have a few bad consequences. Just take things slow and remember that you made her a promise.

 

Beyond that, you sound like you're a good host. I'm sure Kiä will be just fine.

[Guest]

I know exactly what you're going through, friend. I got into the concept somewhere back in May or June, and got a literal zero amount of progress until just a month or so ago. First week of work, did plenty, and slowly, the active forcing and narration decreased, even hitting no work for about a month and a half, somewhere back there. But I never wanted to give up.

 

Miriam seemed so great, the idea of having her with me, being able to tangibly see or hear her, was just so appealing. Just being able to speak with her, even. I never stopped thinking about her, and decided that no matter how long it was going to take, even If over several months of nothing but really pathetic narration, I was going to get her speaking. And I did!

 

I know how boring it is, but there are a few things I was able to try out, near the end of the silence, right before she spoke, that were really helping me get through. One was writing. Writing with a pencil helped keep me invested. I'd try for a page every day, and oftentimes scored two or three. Just narrating. I'd write my thoughts out to her. Rant about school, talk about my favorite music, talk about what I was hoping we'd do once she started speaking, etcetera. I wrote to her like it was a letter, and it helped keep the feeling of her in my skull.

 

Another activity I took to, was.. Kindof imagining she and I were sitting on a grassy little hill, talking about whatever, kinda like in the writing. It was just a little more.. Pleasent, I think. I'd put my arm around her, or whatever, and just speak about whatever came to mind. I was always personally interested in pursuing a loving relationship, so I guess that made it easier. Could hug her, or lay next to her, and kinda cuddle or whatever, so I was a lot more keen to stick around and keep talking.

 

Last one was based around music. Any time I'd listen to it, I'd try and pull up an evnvironment that visually suited the way it sounded. She'd move around accordingly, depending on how she felt in each place. Found out that she isn't fond of where we go when darker, more atmospheric music plays. But it's a great way to bond and practice visualization on the fly. Just exploring places with her.

 

Anyway, sorry for getting off track, I'm just recommending things that helped me, seeing how we were in the same boat, generally speaking. I did good with them because I: like writing, enjoyed the ranting/intimacy that came in that little hill, and adore music to no end. So yeah, just figure out what you enjoy, and how to make an activity out of it.

 

Also, make a progress report. Feedback helps so much, and you're less liable to be lazy when you've got people watching, and expecting things of you.