Am I doing things right?

[Paranoid Llama]

My tulpa hasn't gained any independence yet. It's at the level of a day dream, and there's really no life in her. I'm not expecting there to be though, I only do 20-30 minutes of active forcing and passive forcing as much as I can. What I want to know is if what I'm doing during forcing is right.

 

Usually I imagine being in my wonderland and enter my tulpa's house. She's there and I have to parrot her actions and voice to spend time with her. We do some activities like walking around, exploring, building a tree house... then we end off by returning, and I stop. We sometimes stay at the house and I use symbolism to stick my selected personalities to her, but I ended up stopping because I want her to choose when she gains a voice. I also narrate to her without imagining the wonderland, explaining to her about locations, people, actions and objects in my life. I then often ask, "I'd really love to hear your voice..". I have her form down and a rough idea of her voice.

 

I realize forcing has always been subjective, but is there something I'm doing wrong here? If so, I don't want to continue doing the wrong things and having nothing at the end.

[nivereno]

Mindset of not expecting to get anything won't get you far. I mean it will but only with loads of time. Otherwise seems pretty ok, if you feel like something is off then try to fix it, if you don't then just continue.

[Luminesce]

Well, when forcing a not-yet-sentient tulpa, what you're doing is training your brain to have a tulpa in the first place. You're teaching it, through your intent and practice, what it should do. That's why we tell people not to doubt their tulpas, not because they already exist but because it's just counterproductive. Intend for your tulpa to be a certain way and think and act for its own, then spend time with them in any way you want that cements those thoughts in your brain. Narrating with the expectation for them to listen and understand, puppeting them so your brain gets used to them acting on their own, or just spending time visualizing yourselves together, whether they do nothing or are puppetted or actually have some influence on what they do.

 

You literally have to expect sentience and independence in order for it to be created. Don't get too caught up in rights and wrongs, or what your tulpa is or isn't. Spend time practicing and intending for them to become a tulpa, make some good first memories, occasionally see if you can get them to respond.

 

Also, as this is a new phenomena for your brain, their mindvoice will probably sound like yours at first. Again we say to believe in them because the process of developing their own feeling/sounding mindvoice takes practice and intent. The golden rule here is "Is that something I and my tulpa would want them to say? Would they be upset if they didn't say this but I thought they did?" For me, since Reisen at first almost exclusively tried to comfort me, I came to this conclusion on my own. I realized even if I was making it up that she would never be upset with me thinking she said it. And not long after that, her thoughts/mindvoice developed a feel to them that made it easy to distinguish from my own. I say feel because mindvoice "feels like sound", your tulpa can talk and sound like them, but you more feel than hear it. You can force their voice later if you want.

[Paranoid Llama]

Thank you for both your advice. It seems that the possible doubt from this question was what was wrong!

 

I'll continue what I currently do and hopefully have her communicating soon! Again, thanks!