Before your first tulpa, did you use to talk to yourself?

[LifeInside]

Hey! So that's my question. I've always been one of those who talks to himself, in the way people usually talk to another person, like this:

 

-So I should probably do this...

+No! Cause if you do there'll be no turning back

-But what if I just give it a try and see what happe...

+No. Trust me. Don't do it.

 

That's the kind of conversations I keep with myself. And, of course, I know that it's nothing but the way I think about things.

 

Now, I've started my tulpa almost a month ago and got used to talk to her in my mind and say her name before talking. But the thing is, I've realized that sometimes, I am like "hey Seren, bla bla bla..." but even though I said her name, I was not actually thinking of her. When this happens, I immediately start directing what I say to her.

 

Also, since I "answer my own questions" as if I were someone else, I've realized it could lead to confusing the answers of my own with Seren's.

 

However, it doesn't happen very often but it still makes me wonder whether other people experience this or not. If you actually have, is there anything you advise doing about it?

 

Thank you!!

[Vos]

Answers that you get from your tulpa should feel 'alien' and should be distinguishable from your average mental ping pong. Maybe you could get yourself into the habit of saying your tulpa's name at the start of these so that you catch yourself when this happens and end up direction your thoughts to her.

[Temar]

My host still talks to herself quite frequently. Like you said, it's just how she thinks. It helps her get a handle on a situation to outline what's going on out loud. Things like listing what she needs to do when running errands, or planning what project she'll work on next at work.

 

From what I've seen, nothing bad comes from it. Sure, it's less time with attention paid to us, but this isn't about us. It's about her own thinking style. (And it's not like we don't offer input anyway. ;) )

 

Since you're still working on developing your tulpa, it's a good idea to get in the habit of directing your questions to her, even if she doesn't answer. No need to pretend that your automatic answers are her... instead, don't answer yourself. Listen for her answer. You'll learn how to tell the difference. She might not answer right away, nor all the time, but it gets both of you in the habit of interacting that way. Besides, she's your tulpa. Her opinion on stuff matters.

 

Basically, feel free to keep talking to yourself if that helps you think, but get in the habit of including your tulpa in the conversation. It's not a bad thing to be talking to yourself, but it's better to be talking to your tulpa. Especially when you're just starting out.

 

After a while, she'll start joining in on her own, whether you think of her or not. ;)

[Sock]

I spoke to myself a lot prior to starting work on Midori.

 

What I did isn't really different from what you did: prefacing my lines with her name, or actively asking what Midori thought at the end of a comment train. Since then, I try to call up and makes sure the person I wish to contact is in mind and listening before I start going. You may have to force it for a while, though, make a note of remembering who you're talking to, and it seems just saying her name is not enough. Maybe pausing for a moment when you notice yourself talking, then turn your thoughts to her, just to make sure your feelings are aimed at your partner, and not whatever else happens to be listening.

 

Peace.

[Guest Anonymous]

Mistgod: Yes, I did. I also had many imaginary friends as a child.

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Still, I had no difficulty distinguishing between myself and my thoughtform Melian.

[LifeInside]

Thank you guys for such a quick feedback! It's pretty useful to hear about hosts and tulpas who have been involved in a similar/identical situation. It's a little hard to remember to think to Seren when she's not fully vocal yet but, as said above, we'll get there :)

[Luminesce]

That's a pretty likely yes for most people. Not me, though.

 

Never was creative, never was imaginative, didn't daydream, didn't talk to myself (not directly anyway, of course I had thoughts in the form of words).

My tulpas were spontaneous in the truest sense. The idea formulated itself in my subconscious that I could treat an imagined person in my head like they were separate from me, and here I am seven years later. But yeah, I'm pretty different from most norms in some way.

[JoyStar]

I don't have a tulpa, but I had wondered if people who talk to themselves (I do at times, including back-and-forth dialogue for story purposes) seemed to have an easier time with tulpa forming. Nice to see these responses!

[Metatron]

Well, when I used to debate decisions before making a tulpa (and even now at times, when I sometimes shut them out accidentally), it has always been more of a running dialogue, a stream of thought. Like, for example, "Should I stay up? I have an exam tomorrow, so it wouldn't be good to be sleepy... but on the other hand, I really want to play this game so maybe just a little bit. And if I study after, it won't be too bad..." As your tulpa grows, sometimes they'll even interject your train of thought, or just serve as a counselor of sorts.

[Guest Anonymous]

No, I didn't.

But funnily enough - now, when Esterina isn't there and I'm playing a game or so, I sort of commentate it in my head. xD

And I also, for example, curse out loud instead of staying silent more than I would've before I met Esterina.

 

I'm normally a rather quiet guy.

But now that Esterina is with me, I suddenly talk to someone most of the day. xP

So I guess that's why.

 

 

Greets,

AG