Romantic Tulpas and Disclosure

[Yuki]

What happened during that crisis, Mistgod?

 

My host and the other tulpa with me are romantically involved, but I don't think it's something they would care for sharing with the people around us physically. Right now, they're exclusive to each other, so if anyone will date in the body, it'll have to be me, and I'm not sure how comfortable I'd be with that.

[Guest Anonymous]

What happened during that crisis, Mistgod?

 

Without going into a lot of detail on what started it all, Melian began to fade or went dormant (disappeared) from my mind. It was the first and last time she ever went "missing." There was an emotional catalyst for it that I will not talk about. But since that incident, Melian and I have some new agreements we made in the Pinky Promise Summit I and the Pink Promise Summit II.

 

When she went missing, I got very depressed and even contemplated suicide. I thought she hated me or had contempt for me. It is a long story that only a very few will ever know all the details of.

 

Shit Yuki. Sorry, but you asked. I don't usually go EMO on everyone so, I keep a lot to myself. :-)

[warriortiltheend]

I don't have anything against people who are romantically involved with their tulpas, since it's not hurting anybody, and it could actually be beneficial for their own health. I was with Gamzee for around a year, with a few human partners here and there, none of which I told about him. I didn't really think it was a big deal. We aren't really a thing anymore, but we are best friends.

 

Quartz is affectionate with me in a romantic way. I would say his feelings are reciprocated. Neither of us take it too seriously, and I have a human partner as well. She is very accepting, but I can't see myself telling her, not yet. There are two people in my personal life who know. My best friend is aware, and he thinks it's good for me. He listens when I talk about them, and he's friends with Quartz. He knows I'm not always in the best mental state... So for him, if I can have someone to talk to when he isn't around, it's a good thing. He's a very accepting person in general. My other best friend had two Tulpas in the past; one dissipated as she got older, the other was a 'failed Tulpa,' as she put it. She's been working on a new one with supernatural determination. It's both frighting and inspiring.

[FadingSpectrum]

Najere: I keep seeing all these threads about tulpas and their hosts being involved in romantic relationships, but no-one seems to acknowledge the idea that two headmates other than the host could engage in one.

[Luminesce]

I don't ship my tulpas. The fanbase does that enough on its own.

[Guest Anonymous]

I don't ship my tulpas. The fanbase does that enough on its own.

 

Hee hee!

[FadingSpectrum]

Najere: Indeed it does...

 

I made a new thread on that topic. https://community.tulpa.info/thread-tulpa-tulpa-romantic-relationships

Resume discussion of host-tulpa romance in this thread.

[Nyx]

Jack: She told me that she started this conversation, so I’ll weigh in.

 

I don't love having to live as a secret. It's okay maybe in the workworld where we have to 'fit in' a little more. But in our private life i'd be horrified if i had to hide all the time. I'm very used to living my own external life and if my time was reduced to just a quick half hour of our own time then i think i'd go nuts.

 

That’s perfectly understandable, and it is something that I spent some time thinking about. I once thought I wanted to be an external person and have people know about me, but then I came to the conclusion that I’m happy with just being a visitor. I’m honestly not too concerned with leaving my mark on the real world—I want to observe and experience it, not shape or change it—though I can definitely see why a tulpa would.

 

I think we might be better off finding some open-minded neurotypical who we could just explain my existence to.

 

Totally case-by-case. In my opinion' date=' I would think my SO would be interested in the phenomenon, not jealous. I don't treat Reisen like a wife, but I love her more than anything and she's helped me through a ton of rough times in my life. Generally speaking, anyone who couldn't accept that isn't someone I want to spend my life with. But that's just me.[/quote']

 

Both of these are close to what my host has in mind. We’ll see. The sort of relationship described in the second one reminds me of what we have, though it does sometimes feel like we're already a married couple.

 

It's easy to imagine a relationship with a human going bad' date=' and them wanting to ruin your life and telling your friends and your boss that you hear voices, and potentially getting you fired or costing you other relationships.[/quote']

 

Exactly. As much as I like the outer world, the last thing I want is someone using me as a way to get petty revenge and sabotage my host’s life. I don’t think I would be able to handle that. There are good people out there. I understand that. Only I’m not convinced that this is a risk that she should be taking.

 

[Host: Thanks for sharing, everyone. Interesting to see a whole variety of responses.]

[Hierophant]

I've been going steady with my two tulpas for a while now in a triad. I have made some efforts at telling my friends and family about them, but without much success; personally, I think that telling people about your tulpas should be avoided unless you have some real understanding friends/family (like Mistgod's wife).

 

I do feel insecure sometimes, knowing that I won't ever have a "real" girlfriend, but Ivy is always quick to point out that having a real girlfriend isn't necessarily more advantageous :P

[Guest Anonymous]

I won't dwell on this too much, because it is too personal for you, but I once thought I would never have a real girl friend or get married. Turned out, fortunately, I was wrong about that. You just never know in life. Don't give up on the idea completely. As they get older women tend to get nicer and less picky.