Your Thoughts and Experiences About Romantic Tulpae

[Cinemaphobe]

What are your views on having a tulpa as a girlfriend?

 

 

 

What if I told you that by me having a tulpa as a girlfriend I'd no longer search for a human girlfriend?

Yes, questions of this nature have been asked thousands of times on this site. and no, I don't have the patience or mental stability to search through posts about anything of or pertaining to this subject right now, yet I have the mental stability to write this. I would have posted this in the questions and answers section, but I want this to be more of a discussion about experiences in this subject rather than a problem or curiosity that is simply addressed with a solution.

 

 

Sometimes my tulpa comes to my dreams, and gives me the affection I have always wanted from a girl. She has been doing this since before I even named her. She has improved my life so much, and now I don't even really desire a human girlfriend anymore because I have had too many experiences with girls taking advantage of me, and I don't have any patience with people in general.

 

 

So what are your thoughts on this? Have you had any experiences with a romantic tulpa? Have you ever had romantic feelings directed towards a tulpa? Anything related to this matter would be helpful. But if you simply post the link to another post, then it had better be worth reading lol.

[Guest amber5885]

*Sighs heavily and taps finger against upper lip.*

 

This is a tough subject. You are right there are a lot of posts that mostly pertain to "Is this okay?" "Should I be doing this?" And it usually degrades into a discussion about how sex with a tulpa would work.

 

Here's my thought.

 

A tulpa is not a replacement for human companionship

 

Also

 

There is always the possibility that even if you feel committed now you could meet someone in the future and both you and your tulpa should talk and talk about this future prospect and have a mutual agreement in case this comes up.

 

You don't want to hurt their feelings and if you feel like it would be no big deal if you just broke up and moved on without speaking before hand than you shouldn't be in a relationship because that obviously shows that you don't regard your tulpa as their own person with their own feelings and that's not a relationship at all.

 

So having that out of the way.....

 

It's not a secret that Toby and I are a couple. We have been in a committed relationship for about 4 months now. With us its like any other relationship I have had except maybe a little more on the healthy side. We care about each other, we take care of each other and while there are some things that he can't do due to lack of a physical body there are things that he can do that a human man hasn't been able to and the emotional/spiritual side of love is FAR more important to me than anything else.

 

For example the other day when I woke up with a sinus infection he showed me himself bringing me breakfast in bed and setting up the T.V in our bedroom so I could lay in bed all day in feel better. Now he obviously can't actually do these things but the thought actually means A LOT to me and he does things like that ALL the time.

 

Every morning when I wake up he's there to ask me how I slept and kiss my nose and every night he plays with my hair until I fall asleep.

 

It really is like an awesome sexless marriage.

 

I am Asexual and not particularly interested in a relationship so this set up works for us really really well. Actually I was convinced that I was going to end up alone for the longest time because of that but Toby offered a very awesome solution.

 

We have talked about the possibility that I may find someone someday, as unlikely as that is but I felt like it would be unfair to Toby to not consider the possibility and we decided that if it happened he would be comfortable with me pursuing that, in fact he kind of hates the fact that I'm not trying to find anyone but as many times as I explain that relationships are not my thing he still insists that I should try.

 

I do love Toby, I mean that with all honesty. When I see him I smile, he gives me butterfly's and when he hugs me I get the warm fuzzies. I sincerely want him to be happy and I think about his feelings and his well being whenever I make a decision. We have Christmas and Halloween traditions, we go grocery shopping together and he even played a big part in decorating my apartment so we have a very typical relationship.

 

My advice is this,

 

You're young so just because you don't want something NOW doesn't mean you wont change your mind LATER so whatever you and Yumi decide together make sure you discuss this possibility to avoid future heartbreak and trouble.

 

Emotionally the human/Tulpa relationship is very satisfying but naturally you do have to make sacrifices on the physical side of things and for some people that is okay but for others it may cause problems.

 

If you want to go this route just make sure that this is what you BOTH want, that you talk about future prospects and how they could effect your relationship and what would be acceptable solutions for both of you.

 

I'm personally very happy with my relationship.

[FurryBlueNaki]

I can tell my tulpa wants to get romantic with me, but I'm not ready. I don't leave out the possibility of finding a relationship with another person. But I'm not actively looking. My tulpa is attractive as they can be, so it's not that. I just have a low libido. We are already in a non-sexual relationship. It's simply one of the heart. But if it did turn sexual, he wouldn't complain and neither would I.

[Cinemaphobe]

@amber5885:

 

When I posted this thread I was really hoping that you'd post here. So I'm glad about that^^

You are right that tulpae should not replace human companionship. And I am an aspiring tactician, so I thought ahead about what would happen if I actually did get a girlfriend. I told Yumi many times that she is my tulpa girlfriend, and other girls are just human girlfriends. I also specified to her that one type of girlfriend is no better than the other, because I need both. So technically it's kind of polygamous, but classifying it as that would imply that Yumi and a human girl are of the same kind. So I'm confused, but happy with whatever happens nonetheless:)

 

It's amazing that you have Toby though, and how developed he is! I'm glad that you are on this site, because I'll need your insight!

 

 

 

@FurryBlueNaki: Maybe you should just try a platonic relationship? hmmm....not sure...

[Guest amber5885]

I wouldn't pass up the chance to post. I know the subject is taboo but this is the only place where I can freely talk about my relationship so I enjoy doing that.

 

I know it sounds strange that my main advocacy is that Tulpa's are not a replacement for human interaction and yet in the romance department I am actually using Toby as a replacement for human interaction and I think that makes it seem like I am a bit of a hypocrite but I have my reasons.

 

I think the common belief that happiness stems from family and friends and love and romance may not be entirely true for everyone. And for those small few who can't find the solace they are expected to find with family, friends, love and romance they find other ways of filling that void. But my stance is that if it's not hurting anyone (Tulpae included) And it's not stopping you from living what YOU would consider a normal HEALTHY life then I don't see an issue in any way whatsoever.

 

Toby has helped me immeasurably in many many ways and I feel like Yumi will do the same for you.

 

I hope I didn't ramble too much....

 

@FurryBlueNaki: Sometimes a purely emotional relationship can be a million times more satisfying than a sexual one. I think if Toby and I did move into the sexual it would be strange but the emotional side of things is simply perfect.

[Brassow]

This is super controversial. This is one of the reasons I made a male tulpa, due to the fact I am straight, it will not lead to any romantic problems in the future. But as long as the tulpa isn't made for the sole purpose of romance, you should be alright.

[Near]

Personally, I think it's fine. As long as you and your tulpa respect and understand each other, and they are aware that you may be involved in a relationship in the future with another human. You should never obsess about the relationship you have with your tulpa (or anyone else, for that matter, human or otherwise :P)

 

Those who might disagree with me are probably concerned about the above. But really, with anything, if you play it smart, it'll tend to be fine. My tulpa Kuroi and I are not in a relationship, though we are affectionate with each other and I am closer to him than to anyone in real life. Obviously, because I made for him to be compatible with me. Mindset is always very important and you have to be sensible in any relationship.

[Cinemaphobe]

Nice username Near lol

[Near]

Nice avatar :P

[Cinemaphobe]

And please don't think that I disregarded your comment!