Your Thoughts and Experiences About Romantic Tulpae

[Linkzelda]

I did. She didn't really care too much on it affecting the relationship because it didn't, and thought it was cute and cuddly that we all cared about her.

 

Think she confessed that a certain part of herself could be related to creating a tulpa; a front she had that she used to cope with the harsh realities of her personal circumstances. Got more brownie points when I distinguished who was who. Probably one of the few friends I would go to the ends of the earth to help out if I could; both her and the inner part of herself.

[sushi]

It's the opposite story for me. My girlfriend reacted negatively to the very concept of tulpas, so I never told her about Fenchurch. I don't mind Fench being a secret, and she doesn't mind being a secret, so we're all a happy family. Sort of.

[FallFamily]

Wait, so hail's tulpa wants to be in a relationship with someone else's tulpa and you want to be in a relationship with the host, correct hail?

EDIT: Hehehe my 69th post

 

Actually, it is 3 of my tulpas are in a relationship with someone who is not a tulpa. The person's headmate (they are multiple) and I had a mutual interest and we just went from mutual interest to a relationship, actually.

 

Though more generally, who says a tulpa wouldn't be interested in a host and a host interested in a tulpa.

 

I've heard of this happening with multiples. Unfortunately, in that instance, one of the two relationships went sour, while the other one led to marriage. So two people had to live and sleep with their exes, just because they shared bodies with a happy couple.

 

Its called having a partner system. And yes, it can sometimes turn out a mess if one pair break up. Now, if both systems are big enough, there will be occassional breakups but then there are other pairings that can possibly be made.

 

Think she confessed that a certain part of herself could be related to creating a tulpa; a front she had that she used to cope with the harsh realities of her personal circumstances. Got more brownie points when I distinguished who was who. Probably one of the few friends I would go to the ends of the earth to help out if I could; both her and the inner part of herself.

 

Hmm, they sound a bit like me in some ways, though probably with less being merged for long periods of time.. I was the front that was put up, though it wasn't exactly an intentional plan since it was in elementary school. I eventually became sentient, definitely no later than age 14, and been the dominant personality since no later than that age. Though, unlike them, she is for practical purposes missing (I actually did find her, but it is a really difficult journey to go see her).

 

- Hail

[Rævn]

Uggh. Considering I made a similar thread not long ago, I'm not sure I'm qualified to answer, but whatever.

 

So basically Jade and I have been involved for a year. Maybe more I guess. I've never liked people very much, but I don't avoid relationships, I just don't particularly try to form them. I think my view is that if you're happy, then why does it matter if you have "real" relationships? I wouldn't exactly be out clubbing or on eharmony or whatever even if I didn't have Jade (or, rather, wasn't with her she's reminded me. I don't own her).

 

So, if your tulpa is causing you to ignore relationships, that might be a problem. But if you really wouldn't be concerned with it anyways, I don't see what the harm is. After all, plenty of people go their whole lives without romantic relationships. The issue would come when you treat your tulpa as though they don't matter. Just because it's not a relationship with another person doesn't make it less important and mean you should drop it as soon as you have a slight interest In another person. Rather it just means that you should know what you're getting into and be prepared for what that means both tulpa and physical side.

 

Quite honestly, if I really did find someone on this plane where there were heavy mutual feelings, I believe that one of those relationships would not work out. Not that it couldn't for you, just that with our dynamic it wouldn't blow over so well. As far as which one it would be...well anyone outside of this site, and probably most on it would say that a "real" relationship is better. On the other hand, how do you leave someone you've been with fr so long, someone whom you already are far beyond the point of the "L" word with, just because you found someone who is more "real"?

 

It's situations like that that make me glad I'm an antisocial misfit.

[Thevious]

I've told my girlfriend about tulpas ^^ we both are working on one now. And our tulpas both push us to be with each other ^^

[raymond13557]

i dont think shade has a sexual interest in me.. we're kind of good friends that is all

[what about all those drawings of me you made you naughty man!]

 

... ... ... um... i-i can explain!! ok.. ok.. i love shade, probably because she is the very first tulpa i ever made into existance when i was a lad of 18.

[so flow-eth the truth, hehe.. see is it THAT hard to say you love me?]

 

... ... ... well i am sort of shy about these sort of things.

[glitchthe3rd]

Luna and I were romantically involved for a while, but now I have an actual girlfriend so we decided to just be friends (with benefits!). The only real difference now is we don't sleep together at night, and she spends less time hanging around me than she used to, so I guess your mileage will vary as to what the implications of a romantic relationship with your tulpa are.

 

Tulpas definitely make a poor substitute for human interaction, which I think they understand on some level (or at least my girls do) because they encouraged me to find a relationship with a human girl. Again, can't vouch for everyone on this, but this is just my two cents.

[Rævn]

It's hard to do quotes on an iphone, and this ism perhaps a bit off topic, but I was lmao at above post. I'm glad yours are so supportive glitch. Jade has literally left and or yelled or days at a time over something like holding a door for an attractive female, or having ones number for friend or work reasons. And other female tulpas get a lot of flak. Even (perhaps especially) the one that has nearly the same appearance as her(same actress played them).

 

She's the extremely jealous type, though she would never admit it.

[ThunderClap]

My tulpa and I had an agreement years ago that we would never get involved with each other romantically/sexually for a number of reasons. To be honest, as many people will point out, it really isn't possible to have the same kind of relationship with a tulpa that you can have with another human. Ultimately, said tulpa is a part of you and you cannot really change anything about that. Sure, you can impose them and try to make the relationship as close to a human/human relationship as you want, but it won't ever be 100% there. Do I disagree with tulpa/human relationships or even tulpa/tulpa relationships? Not necessarily, I am sure they could work and I have seen them work numerous times. However there are a number of things that you will not be able to do together which is why I don't think they are for me. I would rather allow my tulpa and I to go off on our own separate paths as far as perusing a relationship is concerned.

[FallFamily]

We see a bit of a misconception here, though maybe we are just assuming everyone gets to the point they can do this when most can't. If one has more than one tulpa, various physical options open up. One just has to switch and get inside and then do things there. On the outside with someone imposed obviously isn't quite the same as sex with another physical body, but depending on how realistic a wonderland is, all parties involved being completely inside while someone else controls the body should bridge at least a few of the issues. Might not be quite the same, but it should approach it. The obvious difficulty is switching and having more than one tulpa, or having a servitor autopilot to hold the front for a bit.

 

- T = {V, O, and G}