Questions, questions, annnndd... questions.

[Janni]

I'm not exactly clear on the whole forcing concept. I'm thinking it's a time where you, I dunno, just sit and refine your tulpas personality or work on his/hers image. What if you are leaving that to the tulpa? I started off with a preset personality and image, and she's changing the personality to her liking and I feel absolutely no need to even mess with that. So, my question is what do I do now? Do I just narrate to her throughout the day? Been there, tried that. It's kind of hard to focus on her when I'm doing other things. Can I read to her? That's do-able, but does it count as tulpa forcing? I've got loads and loads of time, but my concentration is SUCK ASS.

 

And, whenever I'm a bit afraid of talking to her because I'm always afraid that whatever comes into my mind is me. I mean, it doesn't FEEL like it came from someone else. It doesn't SOUND like it came from anyone else. So, I'm always afraid that whatever pops up into my mind is just me, because when I was little I'd clear my mind and have fun with whatever pops up first, so how can I be sure it's my tulpa? And another thing, I know what her personality is so far, but whenever I go to wonderland she just has a default face on which totally contradicts her whole personality, so I'm confused. Plus, whenever I go to wonderland, she seems to up and leave. The time before the last I went to wonderland, I popped in a big fancy library and was like "hey" and she looked at me and continued reading for a bit and when I was done blabbing, she just got up and left. Like, ouuuucchh, m8888.

 

And, the first few days I had massive headaches and it was awesome because I knew it was her, but all day yesterday felt more lonely than it did before I started making a tulpa. Is she mad at me? Already? God, what could I have done to piss her off so quickly??

[Darcmanish]

The concept of forcing seem to be confusing for many new people here. It is basicly just the host who is focusing on his tulpa. The way you reach this concentration is up to you. I use meditation for it but you don´t need to do that too. But i also had concentration problems and was able to fix them because of my meditation. You can use your dreams, music, games or whatever helps you to order your thoughts and calm down. You can also just sit in your room and start talking to your tulpa like she is sitting in front of you. Sadly there is no allround solution for everyone to find out what works best for him so you need to find your own way.

You can read some guides here for the forcing stuff and test it. Im sure you will find something what will work for you.

 

I had the problem of beeing afraid that my tulpa is just me too and it stoped a lot of progress. I had a strong emotional expierience which stopped me of thinking about this. Parroting can help a bit. Basicly it is always you in a physical way but not in a mental way, your brain need to learn to split thoughts.

 

For the last thing let your tulpa time to devlop it need some time. Dont try to think to much about your tulpa in a negative way and dont think she would be mad at you. How old is she? She need to learn emotions first and must learn how to use them for comunication and so on.

 

Read a book for your tulpa and explain the content can help her to learn how to speak and to see diffrent perspectives it could be helpful for you.

 

The most important thing you should do is calm down and let things happen. This sounds a bit difficult for you maybe but it is the best way to have a positive progress.

 

Good luck :)

[bunny-boi-lover]

There are different things you can do to help your tulpa find her own voice so that you are more confident it is her rather than your own thoughts. For one, maybe you could listen to different voices and give her a selection to choose from to use. You won't hear her in a physical way at first, but you may be able to hear a differing voice that sounds like whichever one she chooses after a little while. The head pressures are good, so perhaps she could also add those in or incorporate some sort of imagery that comes to you whenever it's her talking.

 

As far as how she's reacted toward you, it may just be that she hasn't really developed her personality fully and lacks the social skills to understand what she's supposed to do. Some young tulpae are like children and have to be taught how to act. My suggestion is that when you go to speak to her next, let her know that when she leaves like that it hurts your feelings because you really want to get to know her better. You may find with that her face will begin to develop less of a default expression.

 

And forcing definitely doesn't have to be something really rigid. For some, like Darcmanish, meditation works well. For me, I've always found passive forcing to be more helpful, such as reading books to a tulpa or watching TV with them, or just narrating to them about what's going on around you. Imagine how you believe your tulpa would react to plot twists or jump scares. Use things like that to help her to learn more about the world, and ask her how she feels about them. You'll be surprised how quickly a tulpa can learn and develop their own opinions that may differ from yours.