A Few Noobie Questions.

[Skystis]

I didn't know where else to put this but if it's in the wrong place I'm really sorry.

 

So I recently came across this video about Tulpa's and found it really cool. I read into them and had fears, excitement, and just general emotions when you discover something new and amazing. All my life I've always talked to myself in my head (had conversations and such) and always wished I could have a 'friend' inside of my head with me. Of course I never went farther than thinking I was simply talking to myself in my brain until I found Tulpa's. I not only want one because 'ehe friend in head.' I feel like it would be a rewarding experience watching another being develop inside of your head and become sentient. Of course I won't be starting right away as this is a big commitment as I already firmly believe this is like having another you in your head. Reading stuff I saw people asking how to kill a tulpa off and it really offended me (to the point of almost tears) thinking about how someone could spend so many hours forming a being of thought in their head and yet just deciding to kill it off. I imagine having another sentient being would be amazing. You could share so many experiences with it and ask for advice/help and more. Teach them so much you wished you could have been taught and watch them teach themselves and grow as their own people.

 

Of course I have doubts even while writing this. How is another soul in you thinking and making decisions? I doubt and then I remind myself not to doubt.

 

So a few questions and fears and wonderings and more :

1. My main fear is my Tulpa turning out evil but not letting me know it's true intentions of hate? I intend letting my tulpa do possession (if it wishes) and letting them experience the outside world. What if they get mad and injure me? Or we don't know how to turn back and they just stay as the main host forever?

 

2. For 'raising' a tulpa (I put quotations because raising feels kind of harsh to me.) I've heard some things can make them hate you? If I say something they strongly disagree with will they begin to hate me? What if I yell at them and they get really mad?

 

3. Have people ever fallen in love with them? I'm scared that I may come to like my Tulpa too much and then poof I conceive feelings? Would it effect anything if I did?

 

4. Do they come to talk to you at will? I feel like it'd be embarrassing trying to use the bathroom or shower and they want to talk to you. Or does it just feel normal as time goes on?

 

5. Will they get jealous? If I am spending time with my 'real' friends (by real I just mean physical y'know?) will they get angry at me? I know a lot depends on personality and communication but I don't want to neglect any group of friends because of one or the other.

 

6. Can they see and hear what you see and hear? Like if I'm doing my homework or texting a friend would they see what I could see? Or stuck in my mind? Does it depend on what I allow them to do with my senses?

 

7. Also can they feel my emotions? Like when I'm feeling scared or happy can they tell?

 

I know a lot of these questions are really just based on what I do with my tulpa but I just want your opinions on it. I hope I can get help and advice. I've read a few guides as well and am going to read a lot more :)

 

 

I also have questions on the creation process.

 

Personally I feel like outlining the personality is wrong. I want them to formulate their own thoughts and opinions. But on the other end giving them a few traits feels like it would make it easier to imagine them. I also feel scared to give them a form and name and having them dislike it. I want to name them for sure but if they don't like it would they tell me?

[Elvode]

1. A tulpa don't just turn evil, something every tulpamancer need to remember is that you are always in full control of your body and mind, a tulpa cannot just take over it in any way.

Tulpas are kind beings, they are happy and love to help their host, they come with a deep understanding about their host since they know your heart and soul, treat it with kindness and you will get kindness back, they do have feelings too.

A tulpa will not harm a host while possessing, if you get into a fight with each other you need to calm down and solve it.

 

2. A tulpa will not hate their host just because there is a disagreement, a tulpa is inside the mind of the host they understand every action and thought the host has, they can disagree sometimes but they will understand why better than any person, would you hate a friend just because you disagree? or will you solve the disagreement? respect and kindness, understanding.

If someone yelled at you wouldn't you be mad? I would, but I stay to solve the problem rather than storming out in rage, sometimes a time out from each other can be needed to solve the problem later on.

 

3. Well, I've read about tulpas and hosts having relationships, you won't fall in love poof just like that... love is a feeling that needs to develop and there is a reason why you fall in love with someone.

 

4. He does come to me to talk, even in the bathroom, I had strict rules about not disturbing me in the bathroom, but do know this, they don't care what you do in the bathroom.

 

5. If a tulpa get jealous because of real friends you need to communicate with it and make sure it is fine, my tulpa tend to get jealous if I have boyfriends cause they take up a lot of my time, but I always find time to be with my tulpa, could be in wonderland or watching a movie, play a game together.

 

6. If you allow them, I allow my tulpa to do anything, I've got no restrictions in my mind at all, I don't see why I should, his inputs are important to me.

 

7. Since you share your mind they know what your feeling and when, it can be used to your advantage however, if your tulpa isn't present and you feel scared, perhaps that feeling will make your tulpa present and help you with this feeling.

 

If they dislike their form or name they will just change it.

If you don't feel like making a personality you don't have to, you can give some traits or none at all, you decide how you wish to work in your tulpa.

[Skystis]

1. A tulpa don't just turn evil, something every tulpamancer need to remember is that you are always in full control of your body and mind, a tulpa cannot just take over it in any way.

Tulpas are kind beings, they are happy and love to help their host, they come with a deep understanding about their host since they know your heart and soul, treat it with kindness and you will get kindness back, they do have feelings too.

A tulpa will not harm a host while possessing, if you get into a fight with each other you need to calm down and solve it.

 

2. A tulpa will not hate their host just because there is a disagreement, a tulpa is inside the mind of the host they understand every action and thought the host has, they can disagree sometimes but they will understand why better than any person, would you hate a friend just because you disagree? or will you solve the disagreement? respect and kindness, understanding.

If someone yelled at you wouldn't you be mad? I would, but I stay to solve the problem rather than storming out in rage, sometimes a time out from each other can be needed to solve the problem later on.

 

3. Well, I've read about tulpas and hosts having relationships, you won't fall in love poof just like that... love is a feeling that needs to develop and there is a reason why you fall in love with someone.

 

4. He does come to me to talk, even in the bathroom, I had strict rules about not disturbing me in the bathroom, but do know this, they don't care what you do in the bathroom.

 

5. If a tulpa get jealous because of real friends you need to communicate with it and make sure it is fine, my tulpa tend to get jealous if I have boyfriends cause they take up a lot of my time, but I always find time to be with my tulpa, could be in wonderland or watching a movie, play a game together.

 

6. If you allow them, I allow my tulpa to do anything, I've got no restrictions in my mind at all, I don't see why I should, his inputs are important to me.

 

7. Since you share your mind they know what your feeling and when, it can be used to your advantage however, if your tulpa isn't present and you feel scared, perhaps that feeling will make your tulpa present and help you with this feeling.

 

If they dislike their form or name they will just change it.

If you don't feel like making a personality you don't have to, you can give some traits or none at all, you decide how you wish to work in your tulpa.

 

Thanks for the response it really helped!

[Stevie]

Most questions that relate to a tulpa's reaction to (situation) can basically be answered on your own. Would a person who you have a close-knit and very personal relationship suddenly want to hurt you out of nowhere, even if it's not in their best interest? Probably not. Most questions about how tulpas behave are like that. No one who you're really tight with is gonna suddenly start to hate you because you hold an opinion, or do something stupid, or whatever. It's best to look at tulpa stuff through the same logic you'd apply to a very close relationship, whatever the nature of that relationship is gonna be, and then you have the answer to most questions like that. If something sounds off the wall for a person to do (like getting super jealous if you hang with someone else) than your tulpa probably won't be too inclined to do that type of shit, is what I'm saying here.

 

Sorry man, weird groggy middle of the night wording, but I'm sure you get it.

[Vinderex]

Hello, I'm also very new to tulpamancy, but in my little bit of experience, having general and rough ideas ahead of time can be helpful. Using myself and my tulpa as an example, the only input I gave Zyr was just that I wanted a dragon, that gave him a base to start with while still giving plenty of freedom for him to choose his own features, and even switch gender a few times before finally settling on an appearance he liked.

As for naming. I wanted to wait and allow him to tell me his name on his own once he was ready, but having no name to address him by also can make things a little tricky. What was recommended to me, and after trying it I would also recommend, is to give them a temporary nickname, but make sure it's something that you wouldn't mind calling them forever just in case it sticks. I chose Zyr because it's short and simple, and could possibly be short for a longer name, like Rob to Robert, etc. Just having something to address him by almost instantly made him more vivid, and got him started uttering a few words, he still wasn't particularly talkative for a while, but his silence had been broken at least. We've since come up with Zyrilen for his full name, so Zyr still works perfectly as a nickname.

If you're worried about not giving them enough freedom to choose their own identity, then simply say so to them. Give them a base to start with, but let them know that it's simply a base, and that they are free to alter it as they please, and they will.

Most of all, have fun. :)

[Guest Anonymous]

1. Been there, done that. Tulpas use the same logic you do. Why would you hate someone who loves or/and cares about you?

 

2. Making a tupper isn't all sunshine and rainbows, even if your wonderland is made out of those. There will be arguments, sometimes you'll both end up being mad at each other. How is this any different from any other argument you had with your friends/family/etc? That's right it isn't, so if you make your tulpa mad, apologize. Ez pz, right?

 

3. I just wanted to write "Yes." as an answer to this question and leave it like that, but I don't feel like being an arse right now. If anything, you will love your tupper in one way or another. It's inevitable. It doesn't have to be romantic love, but I doubt words would serve as an acurate description of how deep the rabbit hole goes. It's a unique type of relationship, that's for sure.

 

4. At first, you're gonna need to poke them awake to get them to talk. As time goes by, they'll learn to contact you on their own. And yes, it will be embarassing. Until you both just learn to deal with it.

 

5. Have you ever thought that you can relay what your tulpa says to your friends without them knowing? That's one way to have nobody left behind. But in general as long as you genuinely care for your tupper and spend time with them, they won't mind.

 

6-7. They know everything you do, to the point where they will know what you'll say, before you say it. And vice versa. Same goes for all of your senses, emotions and etc.