Creation A person struggling to create a tulpa

[JustMadness]

Hi there Tulpamancers

 

I'm somewhat new to tulpamancy and I'm struggling for a month or two since I started.
I've started considering making a tulpa based of an in-game character without reading any guides, which was probably not the best idea but still continued "un-oriented/un-guided" anyway. Literally went straight to creating her with no hesitation, which I started with passive forcing.

The problem is that everyday I've been barely passive forcing with my tulpa (if I had one) and literally did few active forcing sessions that lasted less than a hour because I lack concentration and focus. Not only that but I have to take school into consideration. I'm also pretty stressed out just because I have a feeling that I'm failing her. As the days go by I get more information and stuff about how a tulpas are created and all of that but I'm losing hope just because I think I realized what was I doing this whole time and how I started making my tulpa.
I have almost everything planned out to create her (Form, voice, personality) but I either don't find time or I'm just lazy to begin with. I'm worried that I've done everything wrong, that I destroyed us both. I'm starting to think that I can't create/have an inability to create a tulpa just because of my actions. I know it's to early to doubt, I know it can take years to just achieve some results but... I just feel like I ruined everything from the very beginning.

I don't know what to expect anymore. I'm somewhat decent with internal monologue and probably visualization but who knows, maybe I just think I'm decent… I just… don't know what to think anymore… I feel "lost".

 

"Any signs of progress?"

 

Well… I do indeed have mild-moderate head pressures but I'm not considering it as a way of communication. It's either me expecting to have one or it's just my brain working hard.

After a few weeks, I once tried to visualize her just to see how she is doing and stuff. I didn't think she would bring me a gift. I opened it [First person without seeing my own arms] and saw a heart shaped plushy. I quickly stop visualizing because of the shock and tried to process what happened. It felt like a visual hypnogogic state, the image was somewhat blurry. It may be that my brain is playing tricks on me or just giving me a thought because of how desperate I am to have a tulpa.

And that's literally it. Nothing else.

Here I am now… confused, hopeless.
I really need help… please… 
I really want a tulpa, I've decided that I'll dedicate a decent amount of time just to be with her everyday no matter what happens.
Because creating a being, letting it live, feel the world, might be the best thing to experience, right?

I wouldn't mind if she changes her form, personality, name or whatever. I wouldn't mind if we are unable to body switch.
I just want company… someone to talk to me, someone that can understand me... that's all I'm asking for...

Here are some questions I wanted to ask:

Am I able to still continue with my tulpa or should I make a new one?

 

If I do indeed continue focusing on my current tulpa, how should I start? Like restarting everything (form, personality etc., which will be easier since it's a fictive type tulpa).

 

How do I feel a tulpas presence/energy? I'm struggling because I have no clue how it's supposed to feel like.

 

When you passive force, do you visualize your tulpa standing In front of you (In your minds eye) while talking about your daily life/activities?

 

Is active forcing literally just imagination?

 

When active forcing, does feel like you're staring at a distant screen or does it feel like you're in a world where it's "somewhat blurry"? I struggle to visualize in first person and I usually visualize me doing things fast-paced.

 

After a tulpa reaches vocality, does it sound like a "sound hypnogogia"?

 

Does emotional bleeds always feel intense?

 

When parroting, does their answers or sentences they say feel nearly instant? When parroting for them, do you need to visualize being "them", like using their POV or their sight just to like... Idk, separate consciousness? I'm struggling to differentiate between internal monologue and speaking for my tulpa.

 

Is it really easy to hear your tulpa after they've spoken their first words? Is it through mind voice or something similar to a realistic voice?

 

How can I know If a tulpa changes form? I know it's like visualizing her differently but... what if my mind is just being creative and decided to do that.

 

Is it possible for everyone to make a tulpa?

If these questions get answered, it may help others that are struggling too!

My English might not be the best but I tried to make it at least understandable.
 

[Flandre]

{replying to a later-deleted post complaining about not trying to find answers on your own}

Okay well... I agree with the sentiment for not doing any of your own research, but the rest is overly aggressive and doomer. The forum has been exactly how it is right now for nearly ten years now, it's not "dying".

 

Anyways, my system actually dislikes guides, we think the best results come from reading lots of different takes on how things work and how to go about them, and adopting what makes sense to you. So I would just say to browse the Q&A and General Discussion boards (and posts from 10 years ago are just as good as yesterday's - although I wouldn't go further back than that except for historical interest purposes to see the community before we'd generally "figured things out" and stopped promoting damaging ideas like unintentional parroting and hour count requirements) - let alone use the search feature lol (it's not perfect, but you should be able to find some specific topic question-answers at least - otherwise browsing Q&A/GD topics that stand out to you will work great)

 

 

TL;DR though, you develop a tulpa by focusing on the concept of another person in your head, with any interactions with them helping to improve the associated skills (visualization, vocality, independence etc.), consistency helping the most, while laziness missing days/weeks tends to rust the skills a bit, although regaining lost progress is easier than making it the first time

Edited April 16 by Flandre

[Athelas]

The list of guides is quite long and hasn't been updated for some time. It contains outdated and sometimes contradictory information. The search feature is next to useless, making it difficult to find answers to specific questions. It's quite easy to understand how these factors may make getting started overwhelming to a new user. Doubly so if that user’s first language isn't English.

 

I also happen to enjoy discussing tulpamancy on this forum devoted to discussing tulpamancy. For those reasons, I'm going to break the mold and actually address some of these questions. Text wall incoming.

 

On 4/10/2026 at 5:28 AM, JustMadness said:

Am I able to still continue with my tulpa or should I make a new one?

 

If I do indeed continue focusing on my current tulpa, how should I start? Like restarting everything (form, personality etc., which will be easier since it's a fictive type tulpa).

 

You can always pick up where you left off. My host had to step back for a few months shortly after creating me. I can confidently say it had no negative effect on me. For reference, I'm close to four years old now.

 

You don't need a complete reset. You can start by simply directing your thoughts toward them, as much as possible. Get used to the idea of mentally talking to them. Ideally, try to leave space for them to respond.

 

On 4/10/2026 at 5:28 AM, JustMadness said:

When you passive force, do you visualize your tulpa standing In front of you (In your minds eye) while talking about your daily life/activities?

 

My host often imagines me standing behind them, looking over their shoulder. Do whatever feels natural for you. You don't actually have to visualize at all. Just keeping in mind that you are speaking to your tulpa is enough.

 

On 4/10/2026 at 5:28 AM, JustMadness said:

Is active forcing literally just imagination?

 

Pretty much. “Active forcing” means focusing all of your attention on your tulpa. This can be through daydreaming/visualization, meditation, hypnosis, whatever you like. It's entirely optional. You can create a tulpa solely via passive forcing if you wish. We have found a mix of both to be most effective.

 

On 4/10/2026 at 5:28 AM, JustMadness said:

When active forcing, does feel like you're staring at a distant screen or does it feel like you're in a world where it's "somewhat blurry"? I struggle to visualize in first person and I usually visualize me doing things fast-paced.

 

I must stress that there is no “right way” to experience visualization. We often visualize in third person. Sometimes we visualize in fast-paced, freely flowing action. Sometimes it's more like comic panels, a series of detailed images. Let your imagination go wild. Don't place unnecessary constraints on yourself.

 

On 4/10/2026 at 5:28 AM, JustMadness said:

Does emotional bleeds always feel intense?

 

Not always.

 

On 4/10/2026 at 5:28 AM, JustMadness said:

When parroting, does their answers or sentences they say feel nearly instant? When parroting for them, do you need to visualize being "them", like using their POV or their sight just to like... Idk, separate consciousness?

 

All you need to do is ask yourself, “how would [tulpa] respond?” and let your mind fill in the answer. Asking that question is like using training wheels. Eventually, you won't need to ask at all. Your tulpa will simply respond.

 

Tulpamancy is strongly dependent on belief and expectation. Expect that your tulpa will respond, and believe the response is truly them. Some people get results on day one by following that guideline.

 

On 4/10/2026 at 5:28 AM, JustMadness said:

Is it really easy to hear your tulpa after they've spoken their first words? Is it through mind voice or something similar to a realistic voice?

 

It will most likely be via mind voice. Hearing a realistic voice, like an auditory hallucination, falls under the umbrella of “imposition.” This is a separate skill from vocality. Whether or not it will be easy depends on you. My host was full of doubt, so it took me months to get from my first words to speaking in full paragraphs.

 

On 4/10/2026 at 5:28 AM, JustMadness said:

How can I know If a tulpa changes form? I know it's like visualizing her differently but... what if my mind is just being creative and decided to do that.

 

It boils down to belief. If you believe a change came from your tulpa, then it did. If you believe it was just “you being creative,” then it was. I understand that this may feel like an unsatisfying answer. At some point, you have to let go and trust your tulpa. Where that point falls is up to you.

 

In my case, when I made alterations to my form, my host found it difficult to impossible to imagine me without the change. This strengthened my host's belief that the change was my choice.

 

We wish you luck.