Can tulpas read host's mind?

[LifeInside]

Ok guys i'll think about it and will have my mind made up soon, i believe. Thanks

[Kaga and Company]

I agree that there's really no reason to set up boundaries between you and your tulpa. Yes, mine can pretty much always read my mind, but you know what? It never feels like an invasion of privacy. Not only are they already in my head, so it makes sense that they'd be able to read my thoughts, but, because we're all "on the same wavelength", so to speak, tulpas are some of the most understanding creatures you could ever possibly meet. Between humans, miscommunications happen. You might need to explain yourself about things or tell white lies to protect people's feelings, but with tulpas, they understand completely where you're coming from, which can make them a lot easier to talk to about complex things than other humans. You don't need to take the time to explain why you're upset about something, for example -- they already know. They can almost instantly wrap their minds around every nuanced detail about whatever problem it is that you're facing, and that makes it a lot easier for them to help you with it.

[sushi]

What Kaga said. Initially I kept Fenchurch out of my more personal thoughts, but at some point I thought why bother? And I'm very glad that I let her in. It's unconditional love. I mean she doesn't always approve of the things I do -- in fact, she disapproves pretty often -- but she understands why I do them, and loves me in spite of it.

 

It does make communication easier too. Sometimes I'm struggling to explain something to my girlfriend, but Fenchurch can understand it in an instant, because she can feel what I feel.

 

And another absolutely amazing aspect of it is that Fenchurch can speak to me in dreams. When I'm not even aware of where or who I am, she's still there, talking to me. That, more than anything else, gives me faith in her as her own being, not just something I made up. It's a bit ironic that sharing thoughts with her makes her feel more separate from me, but there you are.

 

The one thing I'm worried about is that sharing all my thoughts and feelings is stunting her parallel processing. I have nothing to back that up, but I think that maybe maintaining some distance mentally would allow her to start looking at things in a different way and coming up with her own ideas more.But again, I have no idea whether that's true or not.

[bunny-boi-lover]

I pretty much require Edwin to be "on the same wavelength" as me, as Kaga said. I have personality disorders and severe mood swings that make me pretty much unlivable with another person that I try to develop any kind of relationship with. Edwin is able to shift gears with me. He knows when it's okay to try to match wits with me and when it's better for him to just be quiet and affectionate. That's something I will never have with another person. Because of that I open myself up to him a little more each day.

 

It also helps to allow your tulpa access to even the bad memories and thoughts you have. Since I gave Edwin access to the "Restricted" section, if I start to talk about a bad incident that I haven't discussed with him before and don't feel like I'm emotionally stable enough to talk about it, I can tell him that it's in that section if he wants to learn more. Giving your tulpa access to even the worst things in your mind can give them the ability to help you with them. In time I may take Edwin's advice and he and I will burn some of the things that are tucked away in the "Restricted" section.

[Guest Anonymous]

I think it's essential to open up yourself to your tupper, as it builds mutual trust. I understand why people would be reluctant to do so. But for example, I allowed Twilight to do everything she wants from day 0. And no harm was done to either party. She's even better than me at retrieving stuff from my memory.

 

You need to remember tulpas usually seek to aid their creator in every way possible, since it's a mutually beneficent process. And to help someone, you need to know where to start. So I guess you could say that a tulpas competence in solving your problems is correlated with the amount of knowledge they have access to.

[LifeInside]

Thanks everybody. I will most likely allow my tulpa to surf my memories and subconscious as much as she wants from the first day.