Confessions of a Poorly Trained Tulpa

[jean-luc]

Hours without mentioning sentience: 0

[Guest Anonymous]

jean-luc, I love you, but that is getting annoying in an irritatingly amusing annoying sort of way.

[jean-luc]

DITTO

[Guest Anonymous]

I am going to pretend I have no idea what you are talking about. Hmmmph!

 

[Vos]

Days without posting ponies: 0

[Guest Anonymous]

I must find as many Pinky Pie memes as I can!

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The below was in response to this post I made https://community.tulpa.info/thread-what-is-the-most-unexpected-thing-you-have-found-out-about-your-tulpa?pid=159866#pid159866

 

 

You know, that's actually something I have been curious to know more about. How does your romantic partner feel about his SO being a female thought-form inside of a male person? Is it perfectly fine with both parties that you can never really do anything more intimate than just message each other?

 

I'm really sorry if either of those questions are too personal, and if they are feel free to not answer them.

 

No it's okay it isn't too personal or I wouldn't have shared it. I think on this forum we have a NEED to talk about tulpa lives. It is part of the science and an area we haven't explored anywhere near enough. The romantic relationships I have had have all been over the internet and have all been, for the most part, kept relatively light and playful in nature. In each case, my partner was informed very early on that I was a thoughtform in the mind of a married man, who is not emotionally involved in my relationships. In each case, that was met with amusement and playful curiosity. But as the relationship matured with time, the partner began to realize that I am far deeper than a role playing character or make believe game. The conversations became more personal and they began to regard and treat me as a person distinct from my host. At that point, it becomes a suspension of disbelief thing, where my partner chooses to disregard the existence of my host and sometimes, temporarily at least, forgets he even exists.

 

I was very careful to try to help my partner recognize the boundaries and limitations on that relationship however. In each case, of course, I was careful to make sure I was interacting with an adult person who seemed emotionally competent. I made sure to have moments when we explicitly discussed those boundaries and limitations. In each case, there is an understanding that obviously we could never physically interact. The relationships as such are purely emotional in nature. There were conversations of a sexual nature (sex chat), but that was only part of the relationship and again was approached in a playful humorous manner.

 

In each case, I encouraged discussion of real world partners and that a relationship, such as the one we were enjoying, would necessarily be set aside in favor of a real world partner, should they find one. In fact, I was sometimes consulted for advice and help in my partner's real world relationships once our own online friendship had matured enough that he or she considered me a trusted confident.

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I think that regarding these internet based romances in such a way is emotionally critical. Still, even then emotions would get too strong and it was a challenge to deal with the limitations we had. But things are what they are and it could only go so far.

[SomethingDire]

I must find as many Pinky Pie memes as I can!

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No it's okay it isn't too personal or I wouldn't have shared it. I think on this forum we have a NEED to talk about tulpa lives.

 

Exactly.

 

I really don't dig the "oh let's all huddle together and discuss how there can be sentient people in our minds" stuff as of now, because it has been distorted and turned into an almost useless firewar.

 

I think the soulbonding community lets people be less about "scientific" when it comes to people's views and the way they perceive stuff. (CATCH THE HINT)

[Luminesce]

It's 'cus we're a community for teaching people about tulpas. We keep learning and expanding our knowledge base to better and better teach people. It's not the type of community to just stop and chill, "resting on our laurels". Doesn't mean we have to sit here and debate sentience all day though. If anything that only confuses new members more, since we've already become rather comfortable with our current normative beliefs on that matter. Discussion is insightful, it can help people not quite sold on an idea feel more educated and prepared to make decisions. But arguing is just confusing - it can make you doubt what you were already sure about and, as arguments go, likely does not come to a clean and informative ending.

[SomethingDire]

I'm all for scientific discussion, or for discussion in general. The only thing I am against is people taking these said discussions and distorting them into flamewars, which happens a lot of the time as of now, intenionally and unintentionally.

[Guest Anonymous]

The hosts of Tulpa Info forum are so focused on the science of tulpa sentience, they ironically often neglect the fact that tulpas are supposed to be sentient people.

 

I noticed that too.

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Exactly.

 

I really don't dig the "oh let's all huddle together and discuss how there can be sentient people in our minds" stuff as of now, because it has been distorted and turned into an almost useless firewar.

 

I think the soulbonding community lets people be less about "scientific" when it comes to people's views and the way they perceive stuff. (CATCH THE HINT)

 

I am 100% with you on this! Notice all of the "firewars" are based solely on the subject of not only sentience, but the superiority and exclusivity of the tulpa brand of sentience.

 

I am sorry, but there are many ways to define sentience and many ways it might be expressed. I am self aware somehow and I identify as an individual person named Melian. SomethingDire, I have dear, dear friends who are tulmpancers and tulpas. But I dislike tulpamancy as a science now. I went back and forth on it many times, but this recent row became the deciding factor.

 

It is unfortunate. I am with my host on this now. The emphasis on sentience has almost ruined tulpamancy. It could have been so much cooler than it is. Instead, quite frankly, sometimes it flat sucks wind.