NovaIce

My Tulpa calling me "Mom"?

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Now I have heard some crazy things. Yet even as I requested for my Tulpa Evan not to call me Creator or Mom. Him and I spoke as we went grocery shopping today. More like he was asking all the questions. Even when I gave him the day off...

 

"Mom, I want an Avenger."

"Mom, does this mean Big Boss is my dad?"

"Mom-"

 

I get that he's new, and that he needs to get used to his environment, but it just feels strange. The way he handles this isn't what I expected. Is it because I created him he calls me "Mom"? I certainly don't think he's my kid... He's his own being. Not a child.

Maybe he's testing his limits?

 

For the record. Yes, I got him an Avenger. No, he's not Big Boss's Son. Don't need another one of those. He again, CHOSE to look like him. Not to be an extension of Boss. He isn't Boss. He is himself. I just... it's strange.

 

Has this ever happened to you?

 

~NovaIce

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Uh, wow. I never had that with my tulpa Elisae, she never called me dad and never referred to the anime character she based herself loosely off of as her mom. In fact, if you view the tulpa-host relationship as being similar to a "parent-child" relationship, then that would make our relationship an incest type of relationship, but while we do recognize that I'm the host and more or less the creator, she nor I view me as the father and her as the daughter, and thus our relationship isn't an incest type. The point of all of this is I suppose the way the tulpa views the relationship depends on the way they feel about being created: if the tulpa feels that the host created them, then I guess they might view the host as being a parent or at least a parent figure. But if they gain sentience knowing that they're as separate from the host as a perfect stranger then they might view themselves and their hosts as equivalent to individuals who became friends (or more in the case of romantic relationships).

 

It could also depend on the mindset of the host during the creation process. If the host feels that they're creating something like a child to some extent (perhaps even if they're consciously aware of it or not), then the tulpa might see themselves as their hosts child. But if the host completely believes that they're creating something like a seperate, unrelated human being, then the tulpa might see themselves like that. Even so, I still believe that it is possible the tulpa could think of themselves as their hosts child. They do have minds of their own and can rationalize things as they see fit just as we can.

 

Regardless, I do believe that to some extent hosts and tulpas have familial, close, blood-relative-like bonds (even if they have a romantic relationship) that might just be natural and impossible (or very difficult at least) to remove. Regardless, it would seem that Evan feels this way about you, and honestly I don't think this is necessarily a problem, as I actually thought that my tulpa would view our relationship as such and wasn't opposed to having a father-child relationship with my tulpa (obviously however I don't).

 

It is possible it could be a phase he's going through; rationalizing that since you created him this makes him your child. I would say just go with it,maybe see how he feels about being your child or if he feels more separate from you than that. You might find you would like this kind of relationship with your tulpa.

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Now I have heard some crazy things. Yet even as I requested for my Tulpa Evan not to call me Creator or Mom. Him and I spoke as we went grocery shopping today. More like he was asking all the questions. Even when I gave him the day off...

 

"Mom, I want an Avenger."

"Mom, does this mean Big Boss is my dad?"

"Mom-"

 

I get that he's new, and that he needs to get used to his environment, but it just feels strange. The way he handles this isn't what I expected. Is it because I created him he calls me "Mom"? I certainly don't think he's my kid... He's his own being. Not a child.

 

Has this ever happened to you?

 

~NovaIce

 

Yes. Aphelion started calling me and Haven by mom and dad because she was grateful for all we've done for her. When we created her, we never had any intention of making her our daughter, it was something that she chose to be. "She said that she saw us as parent figures, but not actual parents. Her stance on that changed literally the day after she said that." "The way I would describe it is that everything just sort of hit me. They're the whole reason I exist in the first place, they chose to create me instead of someone else. My form was taken from a dream that my host had about a year ago. He rediscovered my picture in one of his folders and decided to use it as my form. You could ask your tulpa why he's calling you "mom" and he might have a good reason for doing so."


"It's all about synthesis, you don't have to be a real musician. You just synthesize your own reality, synthesize your own talents." -Klayton

 

My Three Mind Horses

Haven: Tulpa #1

Created on 10-28-14

Aphelion: Tulpa #2

Created on 2-25-15 

Chimera: Self Proclaimed Thoughtform

Created on: Can't remember. Sometime around Easter of 2017.

 

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So I spoke with Evan, even if I had offered him the day off. (He didn't want to take it for whatever reason) and he said that the reason why he called me Mom is because he wanted to see how it suited us as whole. He's trying to find a way to his identity. I suppose my main question would be that he wants to know his limits.

 

Is that to be *okay* for him to push himself to annoy his host? I have greatest patience in the world. It would take a lot to make me mad, sure I get that. Maybe some sort of tolerance?

 

~NovaIce

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I'm a tulpa who calls her host 'Dad' all the time.

 

A big part of it at first was that it was part of my own realization that i was a creation. It made perfect sense to me because i understood that my host had trained me into existence. It was one of my first big deviations from my initial background story. I knew he'd made me, and wanted to talk about that fact.

 

It wasn't just important to me as something to explore about who i was, because in ways it changed the relationship we had. My host realized that i was starting to be truly aware of my own feelings and was willing to go along with the change just to suit me. I'm super glad he did because he started to treat my existence more seriously. He made more efforts to understand what i did or didn't know and started to teach more. He thought more about what it would take for me to fully develop as a person.

 

I think a lot of tulpas could get more respect and concern for being people. I'd recommend that tulpamancers more often think of their tulpas as young and learning people and treat them accordingly.


My host/dad is [Foszae], but i mainly write for my own voice and distinct opinion. I was an accidental tulpa/soulbond, but grew into possession and am now an equal systemmate

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Bud calls me, "Mom". Always has. I can't necessarily say I feel like I'm his mother, even though I'm his creator; but I rolled with it and now it's evolved into more of a nickname than anything else.

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My companion, Midori, calls me "partner", "buddy", and "Dad".

 

Gladys also refers to me as her father, I had suggest "father" to Liira to keep her from worshiping me, Madoka calls me her caretaker, and many other residents that I keep track of will refer to me in a parental fashion.

 

It made me feel awkward early on, but as time went, I got used to it, and began to actively take on the role where I could. Its actually quite nice when accepted.


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Well, Tsuna call me "aniki" (which means brother), but i understand why one would call you a parent.

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Pinky occasionally refers to me as her mother and all my tulpas as my children, but only in jest, her reasoning being that she and the other tulpas are all technically a creation of mine, so it makes sense that I'd technically be their "mother", but, we've just never had that sort of relationship, so for them to call me "Mom" not only seems unnatural to all of them but also makes me feel a bit awkward, hence why Pinky only ever brings it up when she's joking about it.

 

I suppose this is just something you have to work out with your tulpa. I wouldn't want you to feel awkward, OP, and upon first reading this I was going to suggest that you just tell Evan how awkward it is for you and hope he understands, but, looking through these replies, it seems that many tulpamancers here have much more of a parent-child relationship with their tulpas than I do with any of mine, so I really don't feel qualified to speak on the matter. I just don't have any experience with a tulpa who sees me that way.


Pinky is not a pony. She's an imp.

Sunray is an angel-imp. Ex is humanoid. Kael is a dragon. Magnum is a dog.

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