Ideas for activities that can enrich/grow a tulpa in a meangful way; experiences

[adaptivesystems]

I've lurked here for a very long time (~3 years) and I have two tulpas, both very realized. I'm in this to have spiritual experiences and learn about myself, not to jerk off to ponies, and not to have idle banal water-cooler chit-chat with an imaginary friend. I have run out of meaningful things to do with my lovely tulpas.

 

One of my tulpas was created on purpose (male, 3 years "old") and one created sort of accidentally (but she's still very cool, about 6 years "old") I have absolutely ran out of things to do with my tulpa's. Talking is cool but it gets fucking old after months of daily chatter. In fact, my oldest one (Kota) is starting to get annoyed when I just check in on her for no good reason. I just like giving them attention, as I'd like to be given attention... although, I have stopped worrying about the concept of them "going away" without attention, I realize that's probably not going to happen since they're both very willful and self-sufficient. When not active (98% of the time) they describe themselves as just sort of dormant or sleeping, not as a negative experience...

 

I guess I'm just trying to grow them a little bit and get them some more experience so they can be cooler and more self-actualized but I have no idea how. How do I let them "interact" with the world? Possession (if it can be called that, it's really just a trance-state channeling the unconscious) is very limited... I've thought of stuff like writing them into stories but that's pretty limited as well. I guess, how do you actually "use" a tulpa? How do you allow them experiences other than just talking to you? I certainly wouldn't want my entire existence to be talking to some person, even if I was a component of that person. That seems... oddly pointless, while comforting.

 

Some stuff I've tried before:

• Watching movies/shit like that with them (at best, mildly amusing, but really not worth it)
  
• Letting them talk to strangers on Omegle (Cringy as fuck, but they enjoyed it)
  
• Writing them into a novel (very easy to do but they didn't get much out of it... it was like I was setting up this world for them and they would interact with it, more like I was DMing for them in DnD than actually allowing them to interact with the world)
  
• Letting them write stuff without my conscious approval or oversight (produced some very interesting stuff)
  

Basically I want to give them opportunities, experiences, possibilities, they deserve it for putting up with my shit. I do not know how to enable this. Any ideas? Activities "we" can do? How do I allow myself to be a medium for such an entity, and how can I do this in a way that is... somewhat constructive, I guess? Or... in a way that can allow us to grow?

 

Thank you for reading.

[Temar]

Well, what do they want to do?

 

I've noticed a sort of "honeymoon" period with newly formed tulpas and other thoughtforms. When we're shiny and new, it's very easy to spend time together for the sheer experience of it. But, as with any relationship, your connection to your tulpa(s) matures. The novelty wears off, and it's up to both of you (or in your case, all three of you) to figure out where you go from there.

 

So, I'd say you should sit down with your tulpas and figure out what their goals for the future are. Do they want to learn a new skill? Do they seek a certain experience? It can be a silly short-term goal like going on Omegle, or a serious long-term goal like helping you deal with a chronic health condition. Or maybe they don't have any goals at all right now, and that's all right too.

 

For example, my headmate, Joss, does do the writing thing regularly with my host. As soulbonds, we were originally (and accidentally) created as writing tools, and he takes a lot of pleasure and pride in working with our host to create a long, in-depth fantasy novel (a hexology, actually) based on his character and background. It's something both of them enjoy, and has been more than sufficient to keep him happy for 7+ years.

 

Me, I find a certain happiness in just playing a helper role for my host. There's no need for my host to maintain me, and neither of us really feel the need to spend time with one another for its own sake. We're a bit like an old married couple that way: caring deeply for one another and always there when the other needs it, but with no need to affirm that every day. And like a married couple, I do enjoy making the odd snarky comment during her daily life. ;) 

 

And that's all right. Your tulpas don't necessarily have to do anything, if they don't want to at the moment. Spending time with them for the sake of spending time with them is not necessary to sustain them at this point. Yeah, you can still spend time with them because you care about them and just want to hang out with them, but there's no need to seek out novelty or improvement. Just take them on a nice quiet walk, or relax at home together. No need to force conversation, if they don't feel like it.

 

But, if both you and your tulpas are interested in growing together? Talk to them about it. How would they want to grow themselves? As self-sufficient beings, it's important to include their wishes in the conversation, and it's both healthier and more fun to let them drive that decision. ;)

[tulpa001]

If they can possess a hand, I suggest you go on kongregate and look at the two player games category. Some of those games require only one keyboard.

 

Going through guided meditations is something she seems to really like. We are still trying to figure out switching and parallel processing.

 

Seriously, though, if you are not interested in going through altered states of consciousness, or talking about philosophy, there is not much left to explore on the inside. Focus on the outer world. Maybe read something thought provoking.

[Guest Anonymous]

Art, like paintings or drawings and stuff. ?

[Luminesce]

Well, "wonderlanding" as we call it is a pretty popular method of interacting with your tulpas. Since they're limited to your mind, coming to their level is an obvious go-to. Whether you go on randomly-generated adventures or interact more casually like we do, or something else like working on creating your wonderland together. I dunno, our personal interactions in the wonderland are pretty boring compared to others' I think.

 

I don't know what to suggest for real life activities. We do imposition pretty well. Otherwise if they want to do something they usually have to switch to do it, which means we're never really directly interacting outside the mind. That's why we're working towards lucid dreaming, because then you've got the whole universe at your disposal and everything (including them) seems completely real.

[Stevie]

We dig taking long drives and talking, or just like, when I'm doing things with other people I bring Chris into it too. Just cause no one else knows he's there doesn't mean he can't take part in whatever's going on, you know?

 

Sometimes I'll mute whatever I'm watching (usually with sports or wrestling) and we'll become the shoddiest two man commentary team.

[Luminesce]

Sometimes I'll mute whatever I'm watching (usually with sports or wrestling) and we'll become the shoddiest two man commentary team.

 

That's great. Sounds like something Lucilyn would want to do.