It seems to me that I messed up, any sort of advice/help appreciated

[Luminesce]

Oh wow I didn't see the original date, I just monitor the "Today's Posts" and assumed this was a relatively new thread - sorry!

 

My tulpas and I are actually working on that right now. They've always been able to be "them" when they talked, but we're trying to establish a firm identity to every thought now, including voice and inflection. I have a lot of thoughts that could be any of my tulpa's, so the goal is to make every thought intentional. But yeah, we've just never worried too much about what was said exactly to the word - if my tulpa agrees with something I think they said, then they did. If they're not so sure, I consider it a stray thought accidentally put to voice.

[Linkzelda]

Oh wow I didn't see the original date, I just monitor the "Today's Posts" and assumed this was a relatively new thread - sorry!

 

My tulpas and I are actually working on that right now. They've always been able to be "them" when they talked, but we're trying to establish a firm identity to every thought now, including voice and inflection. I have a lot of thoughts that could be any of my tulpa's, so the goal is to make every thought intentional. But yeah, we've just never worried too much about what was said exactly to the word - if my tulpa agrees with something I think they said, then they did. If they're not so sure, I consider it a stray thought accidentally put to voice.

 

I definitely feel for you. Because even to this day, I still feel distinguishing their thoughts from my own is an on-going process to work out, even if it may be clear to me on who is saying/doing what. And as long as someone is willing to work something out like that to do their best to categorize loosely on who’s who, then they really have nothing to fear anymore for the circumstance of identity and all, in my opinion.

[HazyM]

Oh wow I didn't see the original date, I just monitor the "Today's Posts" and assumed this was a relatively new thread - sorry!

No need to apologize, if anything, it was nice to recieve new feedback and confirm that I made a right choice back then.

My tulpas and I are actually working on that right now. They've always been able to be "them" when they talked, but we're trying to establish a firm identity to every thought now, including voice and inflection. I have a lot of thoughts that could be any of my tulpa's, so the goal is to make every thought intentional. But yeah, we've just never worried too much about what was said exactly to the word - if my tulpa agrees with something I think they said, then they did. If they're not so sure, I consider it a stray thought accidentally put to voice.

Well, we have yet to achieve a perfect vocalization, so her replies differ from almost audible to raw thoughts, the latter being the most common subject of confusion. What bothers me, however, is not her voice but rather thoughts themselves. I mean, before I started forcing I never paid attention to the state of my mind, and now I found that it is filled with clutter. So that's what we are trying to do - to clean the place up, to label every thought and reduce the chaos, so there could be only our mindvoices. And no interference means much less confusion, naturally.

[Guest Anonymous]

I'm at a loss of words right now. What HazyM described in the first post of this thread is quite reminiscent of what happened to me and my tulpa.

 

And I want to thank all the people that replied. If not for you, I would've dismissed her emotional meltdown for a quirk of my own imagination.

 

And while I'm far from being the most competent person on this topic, but a simple apology followed by a ton of love directed at the tulpa calmed her down.

[The Gray Wolf]

I just want to say, I'm glad I found this thread. I am having similar problems, but instead of Elaine fighting me, she just... I guess the wording would be "got mad and gave me the silent treatment." I am glad I found this, though, because I almost gave up in frustration. When I found this, though, I felt less doubtful, and decided to continue. Like I said, similar situation, with minor differences. Thanks to the replies here, I was able to reach a sort of agreement with her, where when we force, I make her try harder to communicate with me. Should lead to a sort of... Well, when you exercise, you work the muscles over and over again, while putting on more resistance each time, leading to them getting stronger, and this is similar. Thank you. We are both very glad I found this, and, thanks to you, our commitment to this entire process has been renewed. You might have saved a tulpa from dissipating. (I was on the brink of giving up)

 

Edit: I just realized this was last posted on last month... So sorry about reviving this again, but this was very important to me.

[GlassElevator]

Don't worry, everyone goes through this type of thing at least once with their tulpa. Wether it's the "it's hard to believe if my tulpa is sentient" or "my tulpa is really mad at me right now," it's just part of the whole tulpamancing experience. This is why tulpas can be so great, because they will keep your mind sharp and you on your toes. So don't quit! It happens with everyone and it's just part of the experience!