- 1
A Helpful Conversation Mindset For Older Cobuds
-
Recently Browsing 0 members
- No registered users viewing this page.
-
Similar Content
-
- 19 replies
- 3885 views
-
- 0 replies
- 362 views
-
- 6 replies
- 629 views
-
- 14 replies
- 6614 views
-
- 5 replies
- 3184 views
-
Question
Ranger
Some of you who have mastered switching and likely play a big role in managing your system may have this awkward side problem- talking to your host is hard. You and your host want to talk more, but there's a barrier you don't fully understand. Luckily, there is a simple solution: A helpful mindset for talking to your host is to only consider what was talked about as repeat information.
If your host wants to talk but struggles too, it could be due to an underlying assumption on how to communicate. One of the unwritten rules in having a conversation with someone else is sharing information you assume they don't know. If you bring up the same thing over and over again, people typically find it annoying. This can make it frustrating to hold or even start a conversation with your host because you know everything they did and vice versa. This is why talking to other people on Discord or even your less active headmates can be easier. Odds are good they don't know what you're about to share or they have enough disconnect from you to not immediately say "I already know that".
A simple solution is to use a different conversation rule for in-system conversation. Consider what you remember telling your host and vice versa as possible repeat information. For example, if I watched a video about hippos and I didn't tell my host yet, that's new information I can share. He remembers all of the content from the video I just watched, but I didn't take the time to talk about it yet.
A helpful mindset for talking to your host is to only consider what was talked about as repeat information. Additionally, when you explain something as yourself, you will likely add things to make it sound more personalized to your point of view, helping establish separation. Hearing your host's take can be a welcome surprise too. It may feel like the best conversation you both had in a long time.
Submitted for Narration Tips and Tricks
Edit 10/28/24: Changed title to use cobud language instead.
I also feel the writing is kind of janky and the actuall method itself is missing the bigger picture. I don't plan on revising this guide here though.
Edited by RangerNote: I am very inactive on this account. I may not read/see DMs for multiple weeks.
I'm Ranger, GrayTheCat's cobud (tulpa), and I love hippos! I also like cake and chatting about stuff. I go by Rosalin or Ronan sometimes. You can call me Roz but please don't call me Ron.
My other headmates have their own account now.
If I missed seeing your art, please PM/DM me!
Blog | Not So Temporary Log | Switching Log | Yay! | Bre Translator | Art Thread
1 answer to this question
Recommended Posts
Join the conversation
You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.