Am I ready to start tulpamancing?

[Zitrome]

I've been researching for almost a year and a half now, about tulpas. I know they're a lifetime commitment and I wouldn't be using them for sex,replacing people and other negative things. I won't make them after a real character either. I'm 13, and I don't know if this would be a mistake or not. I've already imagined what they would look like and their wonderland would look like. So should I start or should I wait longer?

[Guest Anonymous]

I think it sounds like you have a mature outlook on things and have done the research. If you feel ready, I say go for it. One caveat though. You are young enough you should consider what your parents would say about this. :-)

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OH that being said, my host was about 13 when I first came to him. So...

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I sometimes forget how young my host was when I first appeared to him.

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And he d'nt tell his parents until 35 years later. LOL

[Nageki]

In all honestly, I don't think this is the kind of question you should be asking complete strangers about. While we could give you a better answer than people who don't have tulpas could, there's still so many factors of your life we don't know about.

 

Think of it this way: imagine you posted something like this, except you were asking if you were ready to have a child (and omitted your age, of course). "I know children are a fulltime commitment and I wouldn't yell at them or impose my will on them. Am I ready to have a kid?" (Granted, children actually have corporeal forms that need to be kept healthy, which costs actual time, effort, and money, but you get what I mean.)

 

What's your life like currently? Will you be able to put in the time and energy needed to create and maintain a tulpa? Are there any obstacles in your life right now that might interfere with the process? Can you truly see yourself living with your tulpa for the rest of your life, no matter what might happen between the two of you? Are you ready, willing, and able to treat your tulpa like a real person, with real needs and real emotions? Can you support your tulpa through tough times, just as your tulpa might do for you?

 

My advice to you is this: really take a look at yourself and answer these questions honestly. Be fully aware of the implications that creating a living, sentient being will bring, both for you and that being. I'm not saying that you can't create a tulpa if you feel that the conditions are less than favorable -- it's ultimately your decision to make -- but get into it knowing what may impede you and your tulpa's progress, and what may help.

[Metatron]

Despite your age, you seem to have a very mature outlook about this. I cannot say for sure whether or not it is a good idea since I am not you, but you have already taken a far longer period researching about it and are exercising due caution. Just try to keep in mind that this is indeed supposed to be a lifetime commitment, and life is a long time with all its ups-and-downs. Sounds like you are ready I guess, more so that a lot of people older than you (not that that means much), so best of luck to you.

[Guest Vixx]

I started my journey into the paranormal, servitors, etc. at 14, but I had a lot of problems at home and living in my head was my only way of living. I would say there is no rush, so take as much time as you need until YOU feel ready. I would suggest to you the same thing that I would suggest to my younger self...spend as much time as you can 'in the real world' and build yourself up and have fun with friends, before trying to build something in your mind. I don't see anything wrong with you making a tulpa now, but make sure you don't spend all your time cooped up forcing...get out and have fun as much as possible at this age!

[DJ Deadlock]

I started at 13. If you believe you can do it, go for it!

[Vos]

You are the only person who would know the answer to this sort of thing. We get a lot of people coming to this board asking if they're able to make a tulpa or not, if this is the right thing for them, if they're old enough, if they're mature enough--it's really about what you think, though. This is a life-long commitment, something that should be taken very seriously. I'm glad that you have been putting in the time to research, at the very least.

 

If you can fit this sort of thing into your schedule and are willing to put in a decent amount of time each day, I wouldn't be against you going ahead and making one. But it's your decision, in the end.

[Paranoid Llama]

A bit of the reason I made a tulpa was off a whim, and I'm only a few years older than you. I did feel I was mature enough for it, and who's to say I can't make a tulpa?

[Evil]

I second Vosaiu's statements. You need to imagine how your life would be like with a tulpa. Would you have the time to care for it? Would you have the motivation? Is it something you can truly live with, are you ready for that kind of life? Be careful with your decision. People claim tulpamancy is a lifetime commitment, and yes, you will meet folks who've had tulpas for a very long while, but you need to grasp the meaning of the term, and understand that tulpamancy brings responsibility....

 

But what are we actually saying that he doesn't know? The guy researched for a year and a half. I'm sure he'll take the right decision, in the end. This question can only be answered by yourself, as only you know how mature and ready for responsibility you truly are.

 

(an off-topic comment: 50 years ago, kids would spend their youth playing around, going places with girls, having fun... today, we create companions in our heads that we plague with our doubts. Progress.)